to think that you should not lie your baby down on her changing mat and change her nappy on the floor in the middle of a crowded exhibition hall?

[Mintyy]

I expect I'll get some yanbus as I've seen people attempting to justify changing nappies in restaurants and libraries before now.

But, it's just really not on, is it?

'I don't get it either. Shit is shit, regardless of its owner.'

Maybe this is my problem. For me, baby poo no trouble. I change a lot of nappies. I could not be working with adults who needed changing like this. I really respect nurses and carers who do. For me adult poo is much worse than baby poo.

Outraged, if I was at your house, it would be a lot quicker for me to crap on your hearthrug than to go to the loo and crap there. Would that be acceptable, on the grounds that it would be quicker?

I think you're being silly!

If you're under the age of 2 and wearing a nappy, you can absolutely poo wherever you like. If you're a big girl, I'd like you to use the toilet.

Totally ridiculous.

You are I mean.

As a baby, you can poo where you like.

As an adult, you can choose not to change that nappy around lots of other people.

That's the difference

Exactly, it's the changing not the pooing we're talking about, so all the comparisons to adults pooing on the floor are irrelevant.

Pooing where you like is NOT the same when it is in a nappy...it isn't on to change babies in front of others. It's all shit.

A better comparison would be; if an adult shat themselves and there were no toilet facilities would you rather they went to a corner and cleaned themselves up/got changed/threw the shitty pants away or carried on in shitty pants?

I'd honestly rather they got changed in a corner. Do I want to see their shit? No, so I wouldn't look.

Well not exactly Leeds..what people are saying is that to them, baby poo is still offensive...some people think it's different somehow. It's not...it;s all shit. Parents might think their babies poo is special in some way but to a stranger it's still bodily fluids/matter which belongs in a changing room or toilet. What you do at home is up to you of course.

Surely if someone shat themselves, they would try and find facilities in which to clean themselves up (even if it meant a pretty uncomfortable walk) rather than stripping off in front of people andgetting out the wet wipes?

'We aren't talking here about "where there are no toilet facilities". '

I am. I'm talking about where there are no toilet facilities or where they are difficult to access e.g. when I changed the nappy in the library.

I've already said, if they're available I use them. I've never been in a food establishment that didn't have toilets.

OP, has this really deeply affected your life? Or are you just confident you could win a while bunch of YANBUs with this one? (as per your OP?) I wouldn't do it, but I would also struggle to get mad about someone else doing it. I tend to cut mothers of babies a bit of slack...

Maybe hazey. Personally I'd rather they cleaned up as soon as possible rather than letting it drip out their trouser leg on their 'long walk' to find some toilets. I obviously don't find poo that offensive! I'm also able to NOT LOOK, if it's something I don't want to see.

Sorry,but if I pooed myself in the library, then I would walk up the stairs to clean up, or if there was no toilet, find the nearest possible facilities (as far as I know, most towns have some public toilets!). Apart from the embarrassment of exposing my copious poo covered arse in public, I would have thought the smell may linger.

One I saw recently - on a picnic table in the Angry Birds soft play at Lightwater Valley. Toilets about 4 steps away.

Next family would be eating their lunch on that table.

I didn't look closely enough to see if it was a poo or just a wet one.

fair enough.

I do actually have another poo/library story that involved a child not in nappies and visiting the library the same day they'd had the carpet cleaners in....

Some people are just inconsiderate

the fair enough was to hazey

Only mothers, katese?! Has this deeply affected your life, after all, you've replied on here.

Are we only allowed to reply if it's deeply affected us candy?

I best leave if so....

I have now been sitting wondering about libraries and poo, and why it is that all 3 of my children have waited until we settle down in the library to do a huge crap. Ds ( who takes an age to do a poo and stands with a look of intense concentration, whilst his face going redder and redder ) seems to wait all week until we go. In ours you have to ask one of the librarians if she can unlock the door to the toilet, so you have to do a walk of stinky shame, making small talk with the poor woman.

Just seemed like a strange way to write an OP:

"i expect a lot of you to agree with me... "

candy, my life has been a non stop poo parade for 4.5 years now. . I'm one of the desensitised ones. And yes, I should have said people not mothers. ...

'you have to do a walk of stinky shame, making small talk with the poor woman.'