to not make her a seperate meal?

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DSD lives here full time.

She is currently having a massive meltdown because I have told her we are having... shock horror... CASSEROLE for dinner.

We have this about once a month, it's cheap, easy, healthy.
I know she doesn't like it.

I have said that is what we are having, no I won't make a seperate meal.
She is telling me not to serve her any. She doesn't want it. She is crying because she 'isn't allowed any dinner'. She has phoned MIL to tell her. She is about to phone my mum to tell her too. She has phoned daddy at work to tell him.

Now, I'm pretty strict. I'm also aware of the wsm stuff.

AIBU to say: that is what we are having. There will be nothing else?

Or am I being too hard on her?

She's 8

Ah, all the comments about having more than one child, and being fussier with just one child were just amusing, self deprecating tangents.
That makes sense.
Because it might have looked like they were snide little digs, designed to undermine the comments if a poster with whom they disagreed.
It's nice to know that's not the case.

I haven't used anything to belittle or patronise - you have though and add in a nice guilt trip too.

Do two wrongs suddenly make a right after so many years of being advised otherwise?

It is part of MN that we share experience. Nobody wants to say that people who are just starting out on this experience do not have thoughts and experiences that are worth sharing. Equally, people who have had many years of experience surely will have learned something useful?

The citicism that these posts made of the Op was that she was ignoring her child by having a pragmatic approach to this one issue. Some very dogmatic points were made about the only proper way to do this, as well as some unnecessary comments about whether the OP could cook. The only way, apparently, is to have complete democracy from a very young age on this. It is not unreasonable to invoke the MN term PFB for this attitude.

Someone who has one older child will have had experience too. Making this about the number of children is, as I keep saying, not the point.

guys, can we move on from this specific poster? I dont want to get into a witch hunt and get deleted.

I am happy to apologise to anyone who thinks I was having a dig at people who have been unable to have a second child.

yay! time to go home. bye bye office, hello sofa :)

Tbh. I admire pragmatism and i think the op did well with her offering of a "side" that obviously pleased the little girl.

I loathe the term PFB. It's only ever used in a demeaning way.

Oh blimey! I have forgotten to put the wine in the fridge!

Will nobody think of the children!

Amanda, you can rest assured that none of the posters here, being sensible and down to earth and who stop any princess like behaviour with pithy remarks, would ever make snide little digs at others.

Believe me when I say, this does not make me feel better, but I do feel is is necessary to make some posters just think on a wee bit.

I reckon you should take your own advice there. Seeing as you have no idea about me and the family I wanted. Nor do you know anything about anyone else's struggles either.

Hope you don't mind if I just ignore you now. Its difficult and unpleasant to converse with someone who thinks its ok to sink so low.

cheers!

Yes BrianTheMole, I do indeed no nothing about you and the family you wanted. That is my very point. You cannot make asumptions about people based on the size of their family and putting down someone viewpoint for only having one child is wrong for that reason.

What Brian said.

Brian

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MN does seem to be the place of misinterpretation of posters comments, to want to only see things negatively

Not sure why i've been deleted when the goady sanctimonious shite is allowed to stand. Thanks for that mnhq

Thanks for the wine iorek.

Maybe it's because you used the word goady?

I do believe it has become a taboo word

It was deleted very quickly, maybe a goady klaxon goes off in MNHQ

Well it seems you can goad and/or misinterpret on this thread and some can be racist on another but it just doesn't get deleted.

I have to thank certain posters on this thread for reminding me to put wine in the fridge. It is almost cold enough now - might need 10 minutes in the freezer.

Sorry I took the children comment to mean that although you can accommodate one child's food references it gets more difficult the more children you have

I was the expert before I had the children, it is all so much easier in theory

I was so completely out of my depth for years when I had mine. I wish there had been parenting forums back then.