to not make her a seperate meal?

[fairy1303]

DSD lives here full time.

She is currently having a massive meltdown because I have told her we are having... shock horror... CASSEROLE for dinner.

We have this about once a month, it's cheap, easy, healthy.
I know she doesn't like it.

I have said that is what we are having, no I won't make a seperate meal.
She is telling me not to serve her any. She doesn't want it. She is crying because she 'isn't allowed any dinner'. She has phoned MIL to tell her. She is about to phone my mum to tell her too. She has phoned daddy at work to tell him.

Now, I'm pretty strict. I'm also aware of the wsm stuff.

AIBU to say: that is what we are having. There will be nothing else?

Or am I being too hard on her?

She's 8

I'm a you get what you're given person. You eat it or go without. However I think it's fair to have a short list of maybe 5 things that they can veto. Anything not on the list they have to eat.

My friends dad (1 of 12) said you always ate your dinner because before you'd finished the 'I don't lik...' someone had taken your plate and finished it for you. Eat it or starve.

First world problem, that we indulge.

Oh and I realise this will have been said before (29 pages!), but this makes me so mad

It's still going and I've just missed toys although I expect she will be back

mini and satin (and others) well done for trying. Is it worth my time reading the thread from where I left it earlier today?

Nope.

Nope, not worth it. You can get the gist. It's exactly the same as the first few pages.

Broken. Records.

Actually if you haven't read LaQueen around midday it is worth a read, it made me laugh!
A wonderful thread, a complete non event, child given a meal, child has a strop, child offered a sandwich, child given cous cous and cheese as an extra, child happily eats it all, strop forgotten, but as adults we argue on and on for over 700 posts!

I'm secretly quite pleased that one of my threads has got so many posts mn addict

You have probably killed it now, fairy!

Why? Because kids like junk food. If they didn't we wouldn't have a mc Donald's/chicken shop/ Pizza Hut every five yards on most high streets. Most kids like eating crap.

Maybe British (and American) children who've been conditioned to, yes. Through slick marketing or parental glee at it being 'naughty.'

In my experience, children like decent food without eyelids or chicken toenails or whatever waste they've scraped off the floor in it.

Anyway that's completely off topic, forgive me OP for the hijack.

There is always tomorrow's utilitarian slop to get toys going again satin!

I think part of me is in shock - no mention of a penis beaker and we got to 700. Miracle!

What was on the menu tonight, OP? I will be more charitable than I was about the utilitarian slop served up last night.

Wuldric is there any need to be so snarky? Or are you just bored?

The worrying thing is that I wasn't even trying to be snarky.

I wasn't there, so will have to go with what info has been given, together with the feeling surrounding the posts.

It's just the vibe of it all, you know? The vibe.

I hate my Mums casserole. I hated when I was little and I hate it now. I would much rather eat ANY than her casserole. I enjoy takowasabi (raw octopus in wasabi) and have eaten insects but my mums casserole.... Oh and liver fucking hate that too.

Phew! Quite a thread. Interesting.
I'm sort of on the fence tbh. I agree about not pandering to whims about food, or "running a restaurant" at home.
But I am unlikely to dish up food that I know someone wouldn't like.
I also agree with quite a bit of what Toys has said and I thought she got some unfair criticism about the post illustrations a reasonable conversation about the meal. The DSD is 8 not 2.
But I don't fully "get" how it came to aibu. I mean, fair enough, post whatever you like, it's been a great thread, but the offering of cheese and couscous (which you knew she liked) solved the problem easily, well done. Why did it take a call the g'ma, a call to daddy, a strop and an aibu to offer a side dish?
The phoning around would have upset me tbh. I haven't seen the other threads of yours that some have alluded to but the tone of your op made me think this had not a lot to do with food.
I missed the "recipe" though on my trawl through the thread and would be genuinely interested in seeing that if you cba.
We're having ham tonight
I think everyone likes it

My one contribution here is to point out that food is just one of.many negotiations in a family. toys equates offering food choices with listening to her son and taking his wishes into account. Now, that can be true. Equally it can be a short cut to spoiling him. And it is also just as true of other choices, such as we do we go today to play, or what toy would they like for Christmas.

In real life it will depend on the context. fairy says that the child is generally listened to, and that there is a clear context- the family has to live on a budget, she has limited time, and it doesn't happen that much. Also, the child isn't really fussed.

toys is quite right that we must listen to our kids and involve them appropriately. But deliberately shoehorning that into this debate is unfair, given what the context is. And given that she has just one small boy to deal with, it's not going to be a relevant or useful bit of advice to anyone who's a bit more busy than she is.

I am of the school that says everyone can hate up to five things as long as they are not really annoying things but otherwise there is just the one meal available. I can't eat things that are fatty, overly chewy or smell like dog food, which rules out corned beef and tripe - two things my mother still hopes to get me to like. I am 52 next birthday. But I do eat everything else, and so do all my kids.

Yes, I remember how it was when I just had DD1, and I was such an expert [smiles fondly]

Yes me too. I feel a bit embarrassed looking back at it.

I never had the joy of one, being as I managed to get some kind of weird two for the price of one shag deal, but I remember age 4 being pretty bloody wonderful and thinking I had finally cracked it. No more nappies, kids in nursery, time to feel human again - it was all to pot by the time they were 7.

Well due to circumstances beyond my control I just have the one and I'm still pretty slap dash!

Apart from food where I'm a complete pushover - but then talked to one father at work, he has three daughters and he explained to me how, when they are making fajitas for example, each daughters has to be customised exactly the way they like it i.e. one with no sauce, one without peppers.

I'd like to think if I had been lucky enough to get up to 2 or more that I wouldn't be quite as precious on the food front.

(I ironed the babygrows.)

my tuppence worth on this mindboggling thread is that I know whose children I'd rather have at the next table in a restaurant. Or indeed as guests in my home.

Leopoldina, I lived with my mil and she told me I had to iron the babygrows! It wasn't until I came out of my sleep deprived fug at around 6 month that I realised it was a load of hooey and stopped bothering.