Who WBU? Mortifying train incident.

[MikeReepySpooksard]

Ds, 15 months, has an unfortunate hair pulling habit. Today on the train he got hold of the hair of the teenage girl sitting in the seat behind his and yanked it. She screamed 'get the fuck off me' and glared at him. She kept turning round and glaring at him the rest of the journey.

I agree with Maryz - shouting is a very sensible reaction to have if you have just been grabbed while on public transport.

Fucking hell Friday13 The OP didn't apologise at all. Useless parents never do bit harsh! I wasn't there. I didn't know about it until we had all got off the train. I had no opportunity to apologise at all, and had I had the opportunity, I would have done. I'm not a useless parent just because I cannot control my baby from 100 yards away on the shitter! Blimey.

If she was able to keep glaring at your son after the incident then it seems that he was still allowed to stand on the seat behind her within reach/jn easy view then?

She probably kept turning round to make sure her hair wasn't going to get pulled again.

I can see that I was working on the assumption that it was clear it was a toddler and that might not be the case.

I suspect she was glaring at your husband. And deservedly. I am astonished that he didn't apologise. That is outrageous.

I'll bet you could kill your DH? He really acted like a prize chump!

But your DH can control your child and didn't, but you still refer to the other person as a "knob"?!?!

Are you sure she was glaring at the toddler rather than glaring at the two adults who failed to control the toddler and did not apologise for the toddler's behaviour?

OP your thread asks WHO was being U.

I think it was your DH - who was in charge of DS at the time, but didn't apologise for his behaviour.

See, why didn't you wonder why she kept turning round to glare at your DS?
I mean, i'd have thought it very odd if a young Woman kept doing that for no apparent reason?

OP, you haven't explained how you know this girl continued to turn round and glare at your son for the rest of the journey when you didn't even know it had happened until you got off the train.....?

She must have turned right round to do that if your seats were back to back.
Odd.

Op I am assuming that you are trying to teach your DC that this behaviour is unacceptable. With regards the teens age, I don't think that's relevant. I think people will probably react negatively when caught unaware like she was.. Your DH should have grown a pair and apologised. That would have rob ably defused the situation.

Oh ffs - how could the OP apologise for something she had no idea happened until after the train journey had ended?

The dh was unreasonable for not apologising but there's bugger all the OP could have done as she didn't know what had happened.

Jeez, calm down people. Toddlers occasionally do unpredictable things. Ds1 had a 'hair pulling habit'. He was like lightning and could go from peacefully playing with his toys to hanging from your roots in nano seconds. Thankfully he never did it to a stranger, but this was due to luck rather than superior parenting.

The op's dh should have apologised but I think writing them off as useless parents is a tad ott.

I can understand her reaction tbh. I am usually in my own world when on the train so I would have probably shouted when it happened. I would imagine it made her jump and it hurt her, so YWBU to let your DS do it in the first place, I'm afraid.

Did you not wonder why she was turning around?

I agree with a Trills.

There was an odd thing here a few years back when some young girls had their hair cut from behind on the buses without their knowledge.
It turned out it may have been linked to a very nasty murder case that was linked to another murder in Italy.
Very strange one that was.

Sorry just seen it was your DH in charge - then you are both BU. The girl had probably been taught to shout loudly if someone touched her.

You keep saying you weren't there, OP, but for you to have come on AIBU asking about the situation, and phrasing it as you did, do you think your DH was in the right? Are you trying to prove him wrong? Because if so you should have asked 'AIBU to think my DH could have dealt with this better?', rather than a load of guff about the girl swearing and looking at your DS and no mention of your DH being unreasonable.