to think that a dirty/messy house does not mean you're a "Great Mum"?

[trilogyofjuniper]

Aaaaaagh! All those stupid slogans. "My floors are sticky and my kitchen is messy because I'm a great mum!", etc.

No, it's because you're a slob.

This was commented on up-thread, raven.

By the way, a widowed male friend of mine, who has as two children, does talk housework!

Hey Aris, don't take it all to heart so.
This thread is interesting in showing me that it's not just those of us with messy houses that can feel criticised, doubt our parenting abilities, and be defensive.
Seems like it's something all Mums do! And as raven says few men are so self-critical?

I was criticised a few times for having too clean a house. Apparently I wasn't playing with my baby enough and her speech was behind. Turns out she was deaf, and the fact was that she spoke at all was because of all the attention she did get.

As a parent, especially of the at home variety, the blame and criticism will always be laid at your door. Best to ignore.

could someone link me to the slogans or quote them please?

I'm not saying my house is dirty btw.
I get compliments all the time but but the time 3pm come and I've Hoover twice (breakfast and lunch) then the dinner crumbs can wait until after bed (6:30)

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