To be upset about my wedding venue?

[IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow]

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Basically have a tiny budget. We were going to cut our guest list but we don't want to. We love everyone on it.
Have been offered The British Legion as a venue for free. Best man works evenings there.
We have decided to take it so we can afford to give everyone a nice time. Its bloody ugly inside. Has lovely big field though/n pretty outside etc.
I know I chose this, and I am not wanting to save up for few years as I just want to marry dp and have all our friends and family there. And would be stupid to not accept such a generous offer.
Just venting I guess... and wondering what to do about the fading carpet, chipped paint, arcade machine...

He is just a friend, not a celebrant at all. So there were no costs involved at all, as it was January we did it in the room that we had our reception in.

Because you have already done the legal part at the registry office, you can do pretty much anything you like, handfasting, jumping out of an aeroplane, underwater, anything! We wanted something more like the church ceremony than the registry office, but with no references to God as we are atheist, and this was the perfect compromise.

I have been looking into this, since you mentioned it. It does look lovely.

IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow It's a shame your family aren't being a bit more positive about the wedding. Do they have any suggestions for how you can have a wedding and a party on your budget?

Charlesroi No, they dont seem interested at all. Its even at the ideas or something negative.

I just try not to mention it anymore. Which is difficult because someone else in my immediate family is planning to get engaged and that is the current topic of conversation. even though they are not actually engaged at the minute

Either not even.

I've found it! How can I attach a picture?

I think you have to upoad pics to My Photos (under My Mumsnet), then you have to make your profile public.

IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow the important thing is you and DP want to get married. Your family will come round to the idea.

Thank you Charlesroi. I hope so.

WeAreSix Yay! I can't seem to get onto your profile page.

I'll sort it tomorrow on PC.

It's 18-24 mths. Ivory with little pink flowers on the waistband.

Just to thank the lovely MNetter that who only sent me her spare card for invites, also cut them into shape for me and packed some beautiful things to decorate them with. I have sent an email (few days ago)

Thank you they are just lovely. &

That was meant to say who not only not that who only.

I despair of people who place a frilly dress or a venue above the most important part of the entire day : the part where you marry the other person.

And I'm partial to a frilly dress and nice architecture myself. But I'd marry my man in a bin liner at a bus stop because the whole world ceases to exist for those brief moments when I hear him say I do.

Guests will have fun and wonderful memories wherever they are, as long as there's alcohol, grub and music :)

LittleQuark What lovely words (or perhaps because of the time)

So is there anything else that I have overlooked?

Can't wait to see it all actually coming together now.

Do you want to give us an updated list as to what is organised / planned so we can see what is missing?

Snow, you ok? YOu just vanished

Just a message to say that Im here ( had a really hectic few weeks, and havnt been able to get online really) Everythings ok now, and will post properly in a while. Hope everyone had a lovely Christmas.

Will also reply to any overdue pms I have, so please dont think Im being rude, anyone that has messaged me.

Hope everyone had a lovely Christmas.

Had a few things I had to deal with, so have been offline for sometime. However, I am back now and the countdown to the big day is on! 6 Months to go exactly!

So much to do, got to put all these plans into action now. Cant wait.

Update us please. What are your latest plans ?

Ok, so my notebook is a mass of scribblings.
This is what is planned so far.

Pull bows on the church pews
Fairy lights and tea lights in smoking area and outside
Local taxi firm or family to drive
Drinks token for the bar
Invites
Photographers (guests) with a website for them to upload
DS1 to walk me down aisle
New underwear is a must
Recipe guest book
Blackets fir the kids to sit on
Giant games for outside plus glowsticks, skipping ropes, bubbles
CD or Ipod for reception music
Party box for the kids
Sweets for favours
Afternoon tea in church
Ploughman's in Legion
Prossecco
Wedding cake is cheese from link up thread
Mismatched plates
Suits pulled together with a tie and cufflink

So just to put that into action and plan anything else I have missed

I think that's it at the minute.

Really got to move myself now and get it all sorted. Need to start putting the plans into acton.

I'm sure I have missed bits out from the list too., that we have already decided. Thought we had organised quite a bit more than thIs. So much to do, its hard to remember.

So for me, then to make a plan on what to do when.

Anyone?

Make a list of what is left to do and prioritise it.

Let us know what you need help with

I think mainly need advice on pputting everything into order. Trying to work out what needs doing by when, IYSWIM.

Forgot nabout the 1st night hotel & the dc outditsband flowers.
So have an plan for pretty much everything mentioned now, thanks to you fabulous lot. Just to organise it all into some sort of person order.