I'm a teen. Am I BU or my mum?

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I'm 16 and I started AS levels this year.

I've been working all day and I just popped downstairs for a piece of fruit. On my way back up my mum stopped me and asked me to unload the dishwasher and then load the dishes in the sink, knowing full well that I've still got work to do.

Was she BU to have made me done it there and then or should she have let me finish my work and then do it?

Probably :) or maybe I'll text DH and ask him for a pot for all of us :)

If I'm working we'll be in the same room so they can just ask instead.

Sounds good to me

Eh - we text in the house. Used to have a little phone system but don't need it now . DH often used to give me a buzz to ask me something or for something. It saves an awful lot of shouting and running up and down stairs.

It's the give and take of family life.

If I've had a tough week my dd will make me a coffee and do a bit of extra housework. If she's got exams/assessments, I'll bring her tea and not nag (too much).

Dp works long hours, so on a Friday I'll have a bath and a coffee ready for him when he gets in so he can relax. He'll do the same for me. I had a crap day on Thursday so he bought me flowers.

Give and take and little expressions of appreciation.

I'm not seeing any 'harsh comments' in this thread at all. Weird. Emptying the dishwasher really really is not a big deal, just a part of living in a household surely? The OP has only just started her AS levels so is not taking exams tomorrow or anything, so I am really struggling to see why people (not the OP) think she needs to be fussed over by the adults in the household who were themselves working.

Negotiation is no bad thing and who knows if the OP or her mum were in the right or wrong as it's all about how the request was made and other circumstances but really if my children ever ever imagined that they could send me a text for tea they would get told very swiftly that was totally and utterly unacceptable. Just because you've got a bit of homework doesn't mean everyone else should run around and skivvy for you! (not OP, but some parents here just have very very different values from me - and my parents for that matter).

I agree with you Nooka.

If you get up and go downstairs to get a piece of fruit, then you've already broken your concentration.

Perhaps you should have done it during the day at your convenience, given your parents were at work?

As for being exonerated from household chores during exam/studying years, that would have meant that none of the teenagers in my house growing up would have had to lift a finger for about 5 years.

I'm just jealous of the texting. I live in a tiny house and anyone only has to walk a few metres to be heard by anyone else with a slightly raised voice.

And the studies being taken seriously. I was made to do my sister's pre-nursing course essays during my A' levels!

Depends how your mum approached it.If she was doing the huffy mum thing and acting like you were just slobbing on your bed doing nothing then she was BU and should appreciate youre working.If she just simply asked you nicely youre BU.

I text my DS to make me tea.

Works both ways in this house.

I don't think YABU. I'm a Mum just starting AS levels (for the second time) and the only time I interrupt my work is if my daughter needs me. It's not the end of the world if the dishwasher isn't unloaded IMMEDIATELY.