My therapist last week was all admiring of my 'strength' etc etc.
i said to him. what's the alternative? What other choice did I have other than to get on and get through? Alone, and in spite of my hideous family?
Thing is, with the mental head fuck stuff, just sitting and NOT panicking is the main way through.
Far you have changed, Ledkr is right, it's visible in your posts. You feel more bold than you were.
You DO have the support of your parents, that is so pivotal, and you know from here that you are not alone and that others have had similar situations and eventually come through them.
This bloke can only harm you if you let him. By informing yourself, by standing up for yourself, your DD and your rights he hasn't got a prayer against you.
I'd advise you NOT to have verbal conversations with him for now, don't allow him to your home, don't allow access (as he used it as a chance to abuse you) and suggest he study the rights of the tenant, and the duties of the landlord.
Don't hand over so much as a single stick of anything. You are in the property, and you need them. he doesn't, he just wants to deprive you.
Even the twat I was involved in, who kept me indoors for months on end, thousands of miles from any civilised society, verbally, emotionally and physically abused me, would never have seen his son on the streets.
Your Ex really has taken twattishness to a whole new level. I wish I could sit next to you and verbally shoot that fucker down with every single one of his 'oh SO not happening' demands.
What you need to do is to go public to all your friends and his about what he's doing to you.
If you are ever in the market for a kick-arse big sister, don't think twice eh? I'm at your disposal! 