I don't think he would hurt DD to spite me. I think once I've seen a solicitor and he recieved a letter he would keep her and not bring her back but I don't think he's a physical threat to her or I wouldn't let her ever have gone
My love, this thread is less than a month old. 4 weeks ago, you didn't think he'd sling you and your DD on the street, threaten you, cheat on you, or wave a knife in your face.
He was raised by someone who LIKES to see babies suffer, it gives her an emotional stiffy. THAT is the monster he was spawned by; the same one that is urging him on to hurt you, to evict you and to deny any responsibility for your baby.
Bluntly, you are in denial (totally understandable) but this is a REAL danger to you, to your rights, and to the safety of your child.
You CAN'T hand her over to him. Not now. Not unsupervised. You will put her at risk (genuine risk) you will undermine ANY of the help/support you COULD expect to get from the authorities, you will undermine your case with the Police. They won't necessarily take you seriously.
You NEED to take decisions in the best interests of your child, for now and the future. HE is NOT safe to have her, his MOTHER is dangerous and NOT to be trusted to have your baby alone.
Please put your fear (and this is what is preventing you from protecting yourself and your child) to one side, know that you have right and RIGHTS on your side and that you have society and the law to protect and help you.
If you undermine that support, you may not be able to access legal aid, and you will be thrown to the four winds up against his Narc-Sponsored Pitbull Laywer (Apologies to Pitbulls).
All bets are off, there are no rules that he will adhere to. know that your enemy is a total stranger to you and capable of true callousness and evil. He has pride too in that if you start to defend yourself, he will HAVE to destroy you to show how wonderful he is, and how awful you are.
the lies have started in his texts, this is being encouraged by your allowing it to continue and by your maintaining dialogue.
You simply can not negotiate with an abusive nutter, much less a family of them; they all support and validate one another and will twist reality as much as they need to, to keep you in the wrong. the truth has NO place in their lives. The truth, actually, is what they fear the most.
The ONLY thing you do is this:
Refuse visits/contact - due to his treatment of you, his threats, behaviour, and the knife incident.
Get legal help and support
Get WA support and get yourself to a place of safety, and start the long process to protect your child FROM him.
You won't get supervised contact unless you build a case for it, if you give in to him immediately after calling the police, you may blow any chance you have to protect her in the future. do you get this?
IF IN DOUBT, DO NOWT.
No calls, no texts, no access, NO, No, No.
You don't know what you SHOULD be doing, so FGS don't do what your REALLY SHOULD NOT be doing, which is whatever HE wants you to do.
for the love of GOD, please don't let her out of your sight. You don't fully understand what you are dealing with here. i do.
Please trust us. No harm can come to you by saying NO. You have that right, and your DD is relying on you to say it.