DS wetting himself when I was there and nursery not offering to help

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So, DS is 3. Has been completely potty trained for a few months. When I went to pick him up today, I was standing getting feedback from a member of staff and DS was standing next to me. All fine.

I picked him up and his bottom felt a bit 'cold'. I asked him if he had wet himself and he said he had wanted to do his wee at home. The member of staff asked if he was wet and I said, yes, it is soaking through now, he has wet himself. He must have done it when we were standing there getting feedback.

The member of staff then just said bye, see you tomorrow DS. It was fine, I took him to bathroom, found his spare clothes and cleaned him up.

BUT, AIBU to have at least expected the member of staff to have offered to do it, or offer to help? I was fine doing it myself obviously, but I hadn't signed him out, so I do feel they should have at least offered to help or said 'are you okay to sort him out?'

YABU, you were there! I would never ask a parent if they were ok to sort their own child out.

yes yabu - you are his mum and you had collected him

seriously?

yabu and beyond ridiculous

You're his mother, why would they ask if you wanted help changing his nappy? YABU.

Eh?

Please say this is a wind up?

You really are entitled, OP, if you think the responsibility for sorting out his wet pants lay with a member of staff !

YABU really. The staff presumably had finished their shift. You're there, regardless of the fact you hadn't signed him out yet.

???

YABU, he was in your care. My DC's would almost like clockwork do a big poo in their nappy the minute I walked thought the door to pick them up. Every. Bloody. Time. I always changed them myself, the staff needed to be watching the children who were still in the care of the staff.

Seriously you hadn't signed him out so he wasn't your responsibility !!!!!!
Ridiculous yabvu , how could two people change a wet child ?

Really?, can you not manage on your own?

If I was there I'd rather do it myself!

She probably had a lot of feedback and notes and paperwork to complete before going home, she had handed him to you, ascertained that you knew he'd only just wet himself so no neglect issues...
You had responsibility for him.

To be honest what I really wants to say is... HAHAHAHAHAHAHA.

YAB completely and utterly U.

Glad to managed to deal with your son's wet pants in the end hun xxxxx

YABU, you had already collected him. It was your job not theirs.

See, maybe I have high expectations for this nursery, because any time when he was in nappies and I picked him up and he may have been wet or done a poo, they always tried to whip him away and change him, and I would say 'no, it is fine' and go to the room and do it myself.

Another time I turned up and he pooed himself when I was there. I said he had and said I would do it on my way out. They were most insistant they would do it, but I did it anyway.

I certainly do not expect them to have taken him and changed him on this occasion. I was there, I was happy to do it. But I just thought it was a little rude for her not to just acknowledge that he needed changed.

Whilst I was changing him another member of staff popped into the bathroom for something and she asked at that time whether I could find everything I needed to change him. That was polite and I suppose what I consider good service.

It would have been nice for her to offer but then you might have accepted and that would have been really unreasonable

She'll have had better things to do.

Although our school doesn't allow parents into the toilets so that's the only reason I can think of for her to do it.

Yabu - once you are there, he is your responsibility.

I think I would have expected some sort of " do you know where everything is" comment from her rather than just bye!

Bloody hell, entitled much?

So every other occasion this has happened you have said 'no its okay I will sort him' the nursery have taken this on board and no longer ask and you're moaning about it.

I realise it was my responsibility, I think I didn't think about my OP well enough before I typed it.

What it really was, that I thought it was nice and polite of the second worker to check I had everything I needed and knew where the wipes/nappy bags were (he is not that long in this room). That, to me, was polite.

And, OP, stop drip feeding !

I know I know flapjack I hate when people do it. Was the pun intended?