DS wetting himself when I was there and nursery not offering to help

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So, DS is 3. Has been completely potty trained for a few months. When I went to pick him up today, I was standing getting feedback from a member of staff and DS was standing next to me. All fine.

I picked him up and his bottom felt a bit 'cold'. I asked him if he had wet himself and he said he had wanted to do his wee at home. The member of staff asked if he was wet and I said, yes, it is soaking through now, he has wet himself. He must have done it when we were standing there getting feedback.

The member of staff then just said bye, see you tomorrow DS. It was fine, I took him to bathroom, found his spare clothes and cleaned him up.

BUT, AIBU to have at least expected the member of staff to have offered to do it, or offer to help? I was fine doing it myself obviously, but I hadn't signed him out, so I do feel they should have at least offered to help or said 'are you okay to sort him out?'

As far as I'm concerned, in your absence the nursery workers were in loco parentis. Once you arrived your child was all yours again.

I don't think yabu at my dc nursery they would have changed her especially if you were earlier than your pick up time as you are still paying for their care.

YANBU at all. My DS is in private day care and he would be changed by a member of staff in that position. One issue is that it's not good child protection to have (non CRB checked) mums wandering around the children's loo where more children than your child may be in a state of undress. Our nursery staff want to do it themselves in these circumstances. Plus the practical reality it that they know where everything is. Also if you were collecting say 30 mins before the final collection time you are still paying for the childcare and it seems entirely reasonable to use that to ask for someone to clean your child up before you go if that's what's required.

This has happened when DD's nappy needed changing just as I arrived. The carer went ahead and changed her while I chatted to them. Another time, it was busier and I did it because they had other stuff to do (they seemed happy about this). I think that's just the routine and they know where everything it. I think it is a fine line between helping and stepping on their toes. While DD is at nursery, it is staff who change her and feed her and I would always check with them before 'taking over'.

mn does make me laugh at time

Thing is, wetting a nappy doesn't usually upset the baby, but a potty trained child usually does feel a bit mortified when they've wet themselves, hence why the nursery thought mummy might prefer to change the child.

YABU.

OP, yanbu. After all, you have delegated the raising of your child to someone else for that time and you are paying for the service so they should hop to it. Never mind that your son might feel a bit odd that his own mother isn't doing it for him, as he should know you haven't signed him out and therefore his mother is not back on duty yet.
The mind boggles...

I never wanted them to do, even if they had offered, I clearly would have dealt with it myself. My issue was really from a customer service perspective I suppose. Very much an attitude of, my shift has finished, not my problem. And it wasn't their problem, it was mine to deal with, but I guess, it just isn't the way I treat people. I would have always checked they knew where the bathroom was and to find the spare clothes and wipes. That is what I expected. That is the sort of level of service that parents normally get from the nursery.

Nursery wasn't busy, I pick up at 4pm, they are open till 6.30pm. Most parents pick up then. It was a quiet day though.

Anyone know what the insurance side of things would be?
If the child isn't signed out and hurts themselves.
Or if there was a fire?

Oh God, is this thread still going on?
You didn't want them to change your child, and even if they had offered you would have dealt with it yourself.
So what the fuck is the issue?
Oh yes, your entitlement to "good service!"
Jeez.

I don't think yabu to expect vthem to help!

My ds has filled his nappy a few times at hand over and the staff have whisked him away and changed him...I didn't.expect them to but it was really good of them. If.they hadn't I wouldn't have thought anything of it...I am his Mum and.responsible for him whether I've signed him out or not.

Just reading this thread, and had to stop when I got to your thread, Ballonist. Your situation is very different to that of the op, especially if you think your dc has pooed a while before you arrived. I don't think you should feel bad in the slightest, the op on the other hand .