To think I should tell this child's mother

[Thepowerof3]

At my DDs swimming school class last week one of the children spent the majority of the 30 minute session in tears. Towards the end one of the teachers seem to be getting quite frustrated and said 'If you don't stop crying I'll take you down the deep end' her mother didn't hear this as she was down the other end, I don't know her but should I tell her? I don't think using the deep end as a threat is helpful especially to a child who seems petrified anyway

[LondonNinja]

The teacher can't be very good if they have to issue threats...

[ShakeAndVac]

What happens when they get to the age of being able to go up into the deep end? My eldest DS (aged 10) has been having lessons since he was 5 years old.
If he'd have been told at the age of 5 when he first started out "Shut up, or I'll chuck you in the deep end" or words to that effect, anyway, what would that have achieved?!
He'd have got to the age he is now, progressed to the group he is now and been scared of being in the deep end instead of being in the shallow end all the time.
How is that conducive to being able to swim competently?!
Far better to teach them as they go along and not make a big thing out of water.

[sweetiepie1979]

I think the moment has gone to say something. Best result would have been to say something at the time and to the instructor. Did you say it happened a week a week ago? Watch for similar behaviour again from childand iinstructor and take it from there. Or if it is really bothering you yo to manager and express your concern about The teacher, mentioning it to the mother at this point I can't really see solving the problem more adding to it.mother might feel defensive that she wasn'taware it hhappened then she might say something to instructor but it's all second hand it could get messy.

[Thepowerof3]

It was Friday so 3 days ago. I could do other things Calopene but I choose to watch them and I enjoy it, it's 30 mins a week when it's just me and my DDs whilst the baby stays at home. You won't make me feel like a saddo/helicopter for wanting to watch and I couldn't care less if you choose not to watch. The mum being down the other end was never part of my question it just came up. I was there so I think I'm best placed to comment on how she said it and how she meant it