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To think I should tell this child's mother

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Thepowerof3 · 22/09/2013 13:00

At my DDs swimming school class last week one of the children spent the majority of the 30 minute session in tears. Towards the end one of the teachers seem to be getting quite frustrated and said 'If you don't stop crying I'll take you down the deep end' her mother didn't hear this as she was down the other end, I don't know her but should I tell her? I don't think using the deep end as a threat is helpful especially to a child who seems petrified anyway

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everlong · 22/09/2013 21:42

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BrianTheMole · 22/09/2013 21:43

Yes I'd say something op.

Thepowerof3 · 22/09/2013 21:44

Lets go back to the 'good old days' when everyone turned a blind eye.

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BrianTheMole · 22/09/2013 21:45

God no, calopene wouldn't want to know. She wouldn't even take her kids swimming, thats a job for her 13 year old to do on her behalf.

everlong · 22/09/2013 21:51

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RiotsNotDiets · 22/09/2013 21:51

If someone said that to my child I would want you to tell me. That's a really horrible thing to say and at 4/5 the poor thing probably believed her.

pixiepotter · 22/09/2013 21:53

So the child wasin the shallow end and her mum was at the other end.Was her mum sitting at the deep end? Was she saying if she wouldn'tjoin in she'd take her back to where her mum was sitting?

TeamSouthfields · 22/09/2013 21:55

U should of told her there and then

BrianTheMole · 22/09/2013 21:57

I'm not familiar with the poster that is calopene

the name sticks in my head for all the wrong reasons.

Thepowerof3 · 22/09/2013 21:57

No I don't think she meant it that way I'm afraid, the pool is graduated and becomes deep way before the other end of the pool

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Thepowerof3 · 22/09/2013 21:58

I think I should have TeamSouth

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Thepowerof3 · 22/09/2013 21:59

I don't think she'd ask for your post to be deleted, that's a 'first world issue'

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5madthings · 22/09/2013 22:01

Def tell the mum, I have a five year old who we have worked with it overcome a fear of swimming, he does swimming each week at school and some parents help and they have always told me how he has got on, if he has been upset or how much progress he has made.

The swimming teacher is lovely :)

On one occasion there was another adult helped who was snappy and short with him and upset him, another helper intervened and I was told about it and they made sure he wasn't paired with that helper again (she then helped older children who were less 'needy'). It was helpful for me to know as I then knew why he was upset and so we could work on stuff when we take him swimming.

If you have a child with a fear of water/swimming it can be really hard and they can be set back really easily, my D's would take a comment like that to heart and be really scared :(

Margocat · 22/09/2013 22:02

Relatively new poster, long time lurker, shocked out of my lurking by the attitudes on this thread!

Of course you should say something!! I would have said something to the teacher myself.

Children deserve protection from adults who threaten them. They don't cry for fun, the child was upset and the adult in a position of trust spoke to her in a way that was at best disrespectful and at worst threatening/abusive.

I know it probably seems over the top to even say this, but in a world where small children can be so easily mistreated, we need more adults to stand up for behaviour towards them that isn't acceptable.

I've been on lots of safeguarding courses and I'm probably massively over sensitised, but I really can't believe anyone would not think it was a good idea to tackle that comment.

calopene · 22/09/2013 22:20

It IS an over reaction .........it is not a safeguarding issue. That is ridiculous.

everlong · 22/09/2013 22:24

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MikeOxard · 22/09/2013 22:26

calopene are you a swimming instructor? :o

everlong · 22/09/2013 22:29

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BrianTheMole · 22/09/2013 22:36

She allegedly works in child protection..... Oh the irony

farewellfarewell · 22/09/2013 22:45

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Damnautocorrect · 22/09/2013 22:49

I was threatened to be fucking killed by my swimming teacher, I bobbed under and unfortunately grabbed her swimming Cossie pulling it down (no boob was revealed). I was 3/4. I can't swim now no surprise. Yes she should know

BreconBeBuggered · 22/09/2013 22:49

Instructor is a twat and a lousy teacher to boot. It won't be a 'minor incident' to that little girl; it could put her off swimming for life. You should be speaking to pool managers as well as the child's mother, OP.

calopene · 22/09/2013 22:50

Buy a coffee and a paper next time OP. My nanny takes the children to swimming not the 13 year old .......she's alowed to go on her own. Shock / horror.

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