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AIBU?

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Original poster

To be pissed off that DP is making himself scrambled eggs on toast now, while I am making a roast chicken dinner for 1pm?

79 replies

Shutupanddrive · 15/09/2013 11:52

As well as being in my bloody way when I'm trying to prepare the veg!
He hasn't had any breakfast, so has decided to have scrambled eggs on toast now. 4 slices of toast and god knows how many eggs.
Aibu to think he should have had breakfast earlier?
Or just bloody wait?
Or at least have less food?
Don't know why I bother, grrr Angry
He thinks it doesn't matter as long as he eats his lunch

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NoelHeadbands · 15/09/2013 11:54

But it doesn't matter if he still eats his lunch does it?

HildaOgden · 15/09/2013 11:59

He is an adult man,if he wants to eat breakfast then follow it with lunch,surely he is allowed to make that decision for himself???

He is your partner,not your toddler.

Oldraver · 15/09/2013 11:59

Maybe he doesn't want to eat a big roast at 1pm..I wouldn't nor would any of my family (I know some people still do this)

diddl · 15/09/2013 12:01

It doesn't matter as long as he eats lunch, does it?

Original poster
Shutupanddrive · 15/09/2013 12:03

Well I wouldn't let my children eat an hour before a meal, so I don't see why he can't wait. I think it's quite disrespectful, as I'm making an effort to do something nice - followed by blackberry pie

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JamieandtheMagicTorch · 15/09/2013 12:03

Wait and see igf he eats his lunch. He is a grown man and not a child so presumably he knows what his appetite can take.

But yes, I'd be annoyed if he didn't then eat the lunch

Gruntfuttock · 15/09/2013 12:03

To be frank it wouldn't be the end of the world if he decided he'd prefer to have the scrambled egg now and eat the chicken this evening. The chicken will keep and you can cook fewer vegetables and he can have freshly cooked ones with his chicken this evening. It's his home and he should be able to do something like this if he wants to.

My daughter and husband have a cooked meal at lunchtime on Sundays and I have my dinner in the evening, It harms no one, wastes no food and we're all completrely happy about it. I can't stand eating if I'm not hungry and it doesn't make an iota of difference to anyone.

DaddyPigsMistress · 15/09/2013 12:04

He can just have a small portion of lunch and have some later no?

HorryIsUpduffed · 15/09/2013 12:05

Is he in the way in the kitchen?

Will he leave the eggy pan in cold water in the sink to congeal?

I'd be annoyed too, more by the faff than the eating, and by the bad example if the DC are watching.

Original poster
Shutupanddrive · 15/09/2013 12:05

Actually it's not his home, and I have invited my parents and brother round too to all eat together at 1pm so I am annoyed. I know it's not the end of the world, but I'm still annoyed

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Wheresmycaffeinedrip · 15/09/2013 12:08

Be annoyed if he doesn't eat his lunch.

NoelHeadbands · 15/09/2013 12:09

I think it would be disrespectful to make yourself something and not eat the lunch that someone else has prepared, but if you can eat both, I'm not sure it matters if you have the breakfast an hour before, or 4 hours before

HumphreyCobbler · 15/09/2013 12:09

I would be annoyed too.

Eating a meal with family at 1 is hardly out of the ordinary? FOUR slices of toast is loads for anyone. If it was one quick bite because he is starving then I would be more understanding.

If someone is kind enough to cook me a meal then I would make sure I wasn't going to eat another full meal an hour before.

Original poster
Shutupanddrive · 15/09/2013 12:10

Yes he was in the way horry and has left crumbs everywhere in his half hearted attempt to clean up

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SilverApples · 15/09/2013 12:10

You do sound more like his mum than his partner. Grin
Our kitchen is tiny, so I'd be annoyed if someone was in my way if I was cooking, but that's about it really.
If you are all eating together, maybe he's fortifying himself before all your relatives arrive. DS (18) does this when faced with a challenging social situation.
If he's not hungry, he puts up with inanities and polite conversation better.

KatyTheCleaningLady · 15/09/2013 12:11

For a guest in your home to get in the way while you are cooking for them so they can cook a snack is rude. He'd better clean the pan!

Idespair · 15/09/2013 12:11

Yanbu, it's rude and disrespectful if someone is cooking something for you to be ready in 1hr to start stuffing your face with something else. If he was really hungry, he could have had just a slice of toast to tide him over until the roast dinner was ready.

To say nothing of getting in the way of the cooking - I need all my jobs when doing a roast and all the work surface area.

Original poster
Shutupanddrive · 15/09/2013 12:11

Thankyou humphrey glad someone agrees! Smile

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Idespair · 15/09/2013 12:12

Hobs not jobs!

SilverApples · 15/09/2013 12:12

So he gets to clear up after the meal. Seriously, crumbs?
You sound a bit stressed. Do you like your own family?
Do they like your DP?

NoelHeadbands · 15/09/2013 12:12

Now leaving a mess is something else entirely, I'd be livid

Viviennemary · 15/09/2013 12:12

YANBU. I hate somebody in my way in the kitchen. I just say get out. I know that sounds awful. Blush

Original poster
Shutupanddrive · 15/09/2013 12:13

I feel like his mum sometimes silver which is probably why we don't live together! What time is wine time? 1pm?

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Gruntfuttock · 15/09/2013 12:14

OK, I've had a think which is not like me at all and read your later posts, OP and I've changed my mind. You are definitely NBU to be pissed off with him under the circumstances and he could've just had one slice of toast for breakfast so he'd be good and ready to eat a lovely family lunch at 1pm.

DragonMamma · 15/09/2013 12:15

I would be a bit annoyed if my DH did that and then wasn't hungry for lunch.

We don't ever eat at 1pm though, we stopped it years ago when we realised it was a massive hassle. We generally eat anywhere from 2.30-4pm and have brunch around 10.30ish