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Original poster

To be pissed off that DP is making himself scrambled eggs on toast now, while I am making a roast chicken dinner for 1pm?

79 replies

Shutupanddrive · 15/09/2013 11:52

As well as being in my bloody way when I'm trying to prepare the veg!
He hasn't had any breakfast, so has decided to have scrambled eggs on toast now. 4 slices of toast and god knows how many eggs.
Aibu to think he should have had breakfast earlier?
Or just bloody wait?
Or at least have less food?
Don't know why I bother, grrr Angry
He thinks it doesn't matter as long as he eats his lunch

OP posts:
SilverApples · 15/09/2013 12:16

You are cooking a full roast dinner for visiting relatives without a bottle to hand?
You are doing it wrong. Wine time was when you entered the kitchen.

Rooners · 15/09/2013 12:16

I think I'd need to go back wayyy further in terms of context, at least till this morning or last night and why he didn't get up at a proper time.

Also if he knew yesterday that you were going to do this.

Rooners · 15/09/2013 12:17

Is he being passive aggressive and trying to sabotage your meal/seeing your folks/etc etc

or is it just an accident?

JenaiMorris · 15/09/2013 12:17

This would piss me right off. You're cooking a lovely lunch for everyone (including him) to enjoy and he's filling up on eggs and toast.

TheCatIsUpTheDuff · 15/09/2013 12:17

Thoughtless and greedy. I'd be decidedly pissed off. If he needs something to keep him going, a bit of toast will do, and make a lot less mess.

QuarksInAPearTickle · 15/09/2013 12:18

Yanbu I would and do get very cross at my DH for doing things like that!

Make sure he cleans up his mess without getting in your way!

Original poster
Shutupanddrive · 15/09/2013 12:18

Yes he knew yesterday. He has just been 'doing stuff'. Putting petrol in car, getting his stuff ready for work, on laptop etc

OP posts:
diddl · 15/09/2013 12:19

I think though the faffing in the kitchen would piss me off.

And one slice of toast & no eggs would be plenty if lunch is an hr away?

Original poster
Shutupanddrive · 15/09/2013 12:20

No not passive aggressive, we all get on well. Just greedy and couldn't wait until lunchtime! Better go and open the wine set the table. Thanks for replies, back later Smile

OP posts:
WhereDoAllTheCalculatorsGo · 15/09/2013 12:20

I'd be pissed off too, it's disrespectful of the effort you're putting in and the plans you've made for lunch. I imagine he'll tell you that he's not hungry just as you're serving the roast.

Original poster
Shutupanddrive · 15/09/2013 12:21

Did that strike through wrong way round but i'm sure you get the gist!

OP posts:
flipchart · 15/09/2013 12:23

I really couldn't be bothered to get worked up about this at all.

Surely you can eat what you want.

I'm sure he will eat lunch as well and enjoy it.

Back off. If someone was annoyed because I was having a hungry day they would get on my tits tbh.

DoJo · 15/09/2013 12:27

Well I wouldn't let my children eat an hour before a meal, so I don't see why he can't wait. Do you think of him as on a par with your children when it comes to doing things he is told?

mrsjay · 15/09/2013 12:29

I would be majorly pissed off if my dh came in the kitchen to make something to eat an hour before dinner, especially if i was faffinf about with pots and pans it is thoughtless imo yes he is a grown up and yes he can eat what he likes but I dont get why he can't just wait it is a wee bit selfish too enjoy you rlunch though dont let him spoil it

digerd · 15/09/2013 12:49

YABU. DM complained about Dad that every time she said dinner is ready he would disappearGrin
My dad never cooked. He washed up and ironed his own shirts in later life as DM moaned about the 14 + shirts a week she had to iron.

He's cooking it himself and not expecting you to . Men need lots of protein to keep those lovely muscles well fuelled Smile

HangingGardenofBabbysBum · 15/09/2013 12:54

I totally agree with OP. If he knew that lunch was at 1, and he's under your feet while you're coking, then the adult and civilised thing to do us to wait.

Actually, he should be helping you cook for the other guests.

It would annoy me; he's hardly likely to starve if he has to wait, it's passive aggressive bullshit.

Those who say OP is treating him like a toddler? He's acting like one. I want to eat NOW!!

Trade him in for an adult with good manners who appreciates food and your efforts.

And don't wash up his scramblies pan!

AaDB · 15/09/2013 13:23

Yanbu. He is selfish, greedy and a pita.

HorryIsUpduffed · 15/09/2013 13:32

If it isn't his house (and therefore not his eggs/bread etc) then that's doubly annoying.

But by doing this he is volunteering to wash up all the roast dinner pots, right? Wink

teatimesthree · 15/09/2013 13:41

I would be super annoyed by this. YANBU.

Idocrazythings · 15/09/2013 13:51

Yanbu. Of course he is not on par with the children, but it's all about respect. Doesn't sound very respectful to me. I'd be really mad. Why couldn't he eat breakfast earlier if he has been up and pottering. Rude.

Cat98 · 15/09/2013 13:54

YANBU! Would annoy me too.

LovesBeingOnHoliday · 15/09/2013 13:58

I've had to learn to let this go with dh as he's tge same, think it comes from being hungry as a child.

I would be very pissed off if he didn't eat it if it was a big deal like yours with guests.

CreatureRetorts · 15/09/2013 14:01

YANBU

Bloody rude!

flipchart · 15/09/2013 14:05

To me this is small stuff and I wouldn't sweat it.
It's only food and as long as he eats his meal all is good.

I have been known to eat an hour before DH has put food on the table and the other way round'

I can't see how he is being disrespectful. Everyone who thinks so is making a drama over a couple of eggs and toast.

LividofLondon · 15/09/2013 14:08

I'd be irritated too OP. You're going to the trouble of making a roast lunch so he could at least keep out of the kitchen (unless he's helping) and have the respect for your efforts by not taking the edge off his appetite with so much egg and toast. Being full up with breakfast will mean he won't appreciate his lunch as much surely. I hope he set the table for you and will also be doing the washing up BTW.

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