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about girls in boys clothing?

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Thurlow · 11/09/2013 12:50

Do you think there is a time when it starts to look as though people dressing their girls in very obviously 'boys' clothing are trying to make some sort of statement?

I'm asking this from the point of view that I do dress my 20mo in boys clothing. My personal taste isn't for soft pinks, dresses etc so she lives in leggings, jeans, and bright colours - looking at the other toddler girls I see, DD is dressed by far the least 'girly'/'feminine' of them all. What got me thinking today was I just ordered some winter stuff, most of it from the boys range, and most of it really quite stereotypically boyish - a blue ski jacket, Batman wellies, a dark beanie hat, that sort of thing. I can picture that at a first glance, especially if you can't see her long hair, she would look like a boy in her outdoor kit.

Now I don't particularly care what other people think - you dress your kid how you want to until they start expressing their own opinion, as far as I'm concerned. I buy what I like. I buy things like Batman wellies because they are cool, and DP will love them. But do you think, as children get older, whether other people do start to make judgements - things like "oh, they must have wanted a son" - and whether you are not doing your child any favours my putting them in clothes which to others scream a particular gender? I'll admit I have never seen a young boy in leggings yet, so no matter what top or colours a baby is wearing, I would see leggings and assume the child was a girl. Other people would probably see a blue coat and Batman wellies and assume the child was a boy.

Obviously there's a huge debate that goes alongside this about gender stereotypes for children, but that thought in itself makes me wonder if you can go too far trying to be gender neutral. But I'm looking at what I'm wearing at work today and, yes, it is gender-specific. Pretty much all my adult clothes are, regardless of their colour. So is this the same for children?

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ErrolTheDragon · 12/09/2013 08:09

Lovecat - for girls' sandals try the outdoorsy shops - they usually have totally practical ones for reasonable prices. DD had a pair which (because of all the adjustable straps) she wore for about 3 years which were grey with fuchsia trim - ideal for doing stuff in.

MrsO - sludge coloured trousers are perfect if you're sick of mudstains. We got DD her first pair of 'boys' khaki chinos after she'd walked up each of the Yorkshire 3 peaks wearing pale pink trackies.... it may be 'just a colour' but it's really crap for the Great Outdoors!Grin

Lovecat · 12/09/2013 10:20

Thanks Errol, I will keep a lookout for next summer :) She wore a pair of plimmies this summer because there just weren't any decent girls' sandals out there for doing stuff in.

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