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man shouted at my 3 year old for kicking

999 replies

ghostspirit · 08/09/2013 14:53

I took my children to chessington. and was in que for the ride. my 3 year old daughter had been kicking the man in front of us. ( i had not seen) He turned and shouted at her 'stop kicking me,don't you dare kick me' his tone and voulume of voice was a bit over the top. I told my daughter you don't kick its naughty. Then i told him she is 3 years old if there is a problem you talk to me not her. The woman who was with him said they have to be firm with their child because of some special needs he has and i said that may be your situation and you may need to talk to your son that way, But that does not mean its ok to talk to my child that way.

OP posts:
littlemisswise · 09/09/2013 10:51

I know you were Freud and it was totally unnecessary!

Bunnyjo · 09/09/2013 10:53

Misspixietrix - I like far end of a fart, gets the point across quite succinctly I think Grin

I should have said that, whilst there has been some madness on this thread, there has also been a fair few people with measured responses that have said they think the OP WBU without descending into a random tirade of insults and insinuations about the OP and her DD.

Original poster
ghostspirit · 09/09/2013 10:54

suspect can i kick them to

OP posts:
TeaLadyExtraordinaire · 09/09/2013 10:54

OP is determined she is right no matter what - so don't waste your typing fingers, folks Grin

TeaLadyExtraordinaire · 09/09/2013 10:55

ghostspirit - suspect can i kick them to

To where?

Thepowerof3 · 09/09/2013 10:55

Exactly that usualsuspect

Thepowerof3 · 09/09/2013 10:56

Look, OP has said she has dyslexia Tea, stop taking the piss

Original poster
ghostspirit · 09/09/2013 10:56

have i ever said my daugter was right for kicking?

OP posts:
littlemisswise · 09/09/2013 11:00

ghost please tell me of the man was such an aggressive, shouty twat who needed anger management, why did you not put some distance (like putting yourself or your teenager) between him and your toddler? Why would you have left her to potentially kick or antagonise him further, which is what she did by messing with his bag!

Awomansworth · 09/09/2013 11:03

You know what ghost I really can't believe this thread has over 803 messages!

I take my hat off to you I really do, I would have hidden this thread after 3 pages.

If I were you I would accept that some on here agree that you were not BU, and forget about the ones that don't. They will never see your point of view and frankly is all getting a bit tit for tat now and posters are frothing because you won't accept that you were BU.

It's not written in law that when people come to AIBU, they have to agree with the majority and back down. OP is perfectly entitled to disagree without all the insistence to keep posting in a attempt to bully OP into submission.

FWIW OP - My take on this is that I don't believe your dd been kicking him for long, most people in that situation would turn round to see what was happening and mention to the adult in charge that the child was kicking them, giving the adult an opportunity to address with the child. It seems like this man just went straight for the shouting, which I find unacceptable. I just believe that everyone (including children) deserve at least one chance to improve their behaviour before resorting to shouting.

FreudiansSlipper · 09/09/2013 11:04

yes answer straight away Ghost

littlemisswise you are looking twatish now

ffs they were in a queue in chessington you know its a place that is full of children waiting in queues to go on rides

Original poster
ghostspirit · 09/09/2013 11:05

wise i did move my daughter, and with the moving of the que i narrow areas she has ended up near him again because he moved. to where she was standing.

OP posts:
FreudiansSlipper · 09/09/2013 11:06

i take my hat off to you too Ghost

please read back in a few days and laugh at the stupidity of some of the remarks on here

EweHaveGoatToBeKiddin · 09/09/2013 11:07

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

EweHaveGoatToBeKiddin · 09/09/2013 11:08

Oh no! Worng thread! Will ask to be deleted, sorry!

Original poster
ghostspirit · 09/09/2013 11:08

awomanworth. thank you. thats what im trying to say.

OP posts:
KellyElly · 09/09/2013 11:08

TeaLadyExtraordinaire Twattish post.

Original poster
ghostspirit · 09/09/2013 11:10

i hope there are no queues or children at disney land be very careful

OP posts:
TeaLadyExtraordinaire · 09/09/2013 11:13

kellyelly Grin

DropYourSword · 09/09/2013 11:14

Erm, good for ewe goat!

Thepowerof3 · 09/09/2013 11:16

Give us the promotional code Ewe or we'll ave ya

littlemisswise · 09/09/2013 11:16

I'm looking twattish for asking her to answer a question that I asked her 40 minutes ago, that she is conveniently ignoring! Ok Freud whatever you say, but it is not me looking a twat! Hmm

The Op said yesterday she was ignoring things she didn't agree with!

I give up, Ghost. You are in the wrong, not the man. I very much doubt he was a shouty twat. I imagine he told your daughter off because she kicked him more than once, and as you can not remember what you were doing at the time, you don't have a clue how many times she did it either. You don't like the fact someone else had to tell your kid off, you don't like the fact the vast majority of people on here have said YABU, that will never change.

baddriver · 09/09/2013 11:16

Are we talking a full blown assault-style kick or a pre schooler-style waiting impatiently jittering?

Either way, a fierce reprimand from a stranger, a grown up at that, would be a mighty over reaction.

The guy was a tool.

Bunnyjo · 09/09/2013 11:17

No, Ewe! Keep it there, it goes very well with the utter bonkersness (isn't a word, but should be!) already on this thread Grin

Oceansurf · 09/09/2013 11:18

This is still going? Seriously?

What's this about a bag though? He can't have shouted at her that strongly if she then proceeded to mess with his bag.

Either that, or she just does as she pleases...regardless.