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man shouted at my 3 year old for kicking

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ghostspirit · 08/09/2013 14:53

I took my children to chessington. and was in que for the ride. my 3 year old daughter had been kicking the man in front of us. ( i had not seen) He turned and shouted at her 'stop kicking me,don't you dare kick me' his tone and voulume of voice was a bit over the top. I told my daughter you don't kick its naughty. Then i told him she is 3 years old if there is a problem you talk to me not her. The woman who was with him said they have to be firm with their child because of some special needs he has and i said that may be your situation and you may need to talk to your son that way, But that does not mean its ok to talk to my child that way.

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treaclesoda · 09/09/2013 10:15

I wasn't taking a pop at you ghost I was just saying that either side of the argument could easily take the same stance, the 'oh, look at you, aren't you perfect?' stance.

Sirzy · 09/09/2013 10:16

He was wrong for standing in front of her
He was wrong for where he put his bag down
He was wrong for daring to talk to her
She was bored and couldn't be expected to stand still
It's normal for 3 year olds
And so on and so on. You have made plenty of excuses!

Thepowerof3 · 09/09/2013 10:16

It's how you are coming across. I haven't been in a situation where my child has kicked someone accidentally or not but I would be pissed off if that adult screamed at them, I'd deal with it.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 09/09/2013 10:16

Ghost. .that's not good enough.

You should have turned her in to the nearest policeman or she will grow up to a life of crime Wink

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ghostspirit · 09/09/2013 10:17

littlemisswise i have 3 children at school. i ave never known school staff to shout at children in that way. shout yes firmly yes. project voice yes. but not aggressive shouting.

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Thepowerof3 · 09/09/2013 10:18

And you should never have dared to take all your children out at the same time apparently

usualsuspect · 09/09/2013 10:18

I bet she was wearing a hoodie too.

FreudiansSlipper · 09/09/2013 10:18

well of course the child did it on purpose

as all three years old think out every action before taking one also no child or someone who deserves to be called a parent acts absentmindedly at times

Thepowerof3 · 09/09/2013 10:18

They'd probably get fired

SoupDragon · 09/09/2013 10:19

He shouted "stop kicking me,don't you dare kick me" in tone that was "a bit over the top.

Sheesh - get over it! He didn't give her a tirade of foul mouthed abuse, launch armageddon or kick your daughter back.

littlemisswise · 09/09/2013 10:19

How do you know she didn't Harri? We're you there?

SoupDragon · 09/09/2013 10:20

When did his tone and volume that was originally "a bit over the top" become aggressive?

SoupDragon · 09/09/2013 10:20

You are all barking.

littlemisswise · 09/09/2013 10:20

If it was as agressive as you claim, why did she not cry? Why did she then proceed to mess about with his bag? That is not what most 3 year olds would do!

DropYourSword · 09/09/2013 10:21

Just asked DH what he would do in this case. He would do exactly as the man in this scenario.

littlemisswise · 09/09/2013 10:21

And if he was such an agressive unhinged twat who needed anger management, why didn't you keep her away from him and his bag?

usualsuspect · 09/09/2013 10:22

It's like an episode of crown court.

littlemisswise · 09/09/2013 10:23

soup you need to read the tread for the drip feeding!

SHarri13 · 09/09/2013 10:23

I don't but I'm not talking with authority and adding non factual statements. People are actually making things up about the whole incident, it's shocking.

Thepowerof3 · 09/09/2013 10:23

Yes and she didn't 'viciously assault' him narrowly escaping prosecution as she is below the age of 'criminal responsibility'

SoupDragon · 09/09/2013 10:24

I don't need to read the thread because it's all a complete non event and I don't believe about 80% of it

FreudiansSlipper · 09/09/2013 10:24

maybe op's physic powers were not fully switched on littlemisswise

SoupDragon · 09/09/2013 10:24

No doubt the "story" escalated as things didn't go completely the OP's way.

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ghostspirit · 09/09/2013 10:25

i know suspect im at the stage of just glancing now... and i will reply when i can be bothered.

i find it odd that people think i should use the same word they should. the reason i used the word over the stop was for a min or 2 i have for got how to spell agressive so i used the words over the top instead.

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SilverStreak7 · 09/09/2013 10:25

Hahaha :@ Crown Court .

What is DH ? Dear Husband > Why not just say your Husband ?