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man shouted at my 3 year old for kicking

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ghostspirit · 08/09/2013 14:53

I took my children to chessington. and was in que for the ride. my 3 year old daughter had been kicking the man in front of us. ( i had not seen) He turned and shouted at her 'stop kicking me,don't you dare kick me' his tone and voulume of voice was a bit over the top. I told my daughter you don't kick its naughty. Then i told him she is 3 years old if there is a problem you talk to me not her. The woman who was with him said they have to be firm with their child because of some special needs he has and i said that may be your situation and you may need to talk to your son that way, But that does not mean its ok to talk to my child that way.

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usualsuspect · 09/09/2013 10:03

So it was all your fault for taking them on a day out in the first place.

There's some drivel on this thread.

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ghostspirit · 09/09/2013 10:04

thankyou strawberry. i don't even know why im still replying. its getting stupid now.

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GrinchAnInch · 09/09/2013 10:04

I guess I have just been lucky then as my ds wouldn't dream of kicking anyone on purpose and I do tell him to stand still in a queue, but I only have one child to manage. I still don't think it is acceptable for a grown man to shout at a 3 year old. If he had asked her to stop and told her mother and still kept getting kicked I could understand it, but to just flip and shout at a strangers child Shock is not right.

FreudiansSlipper · 09/09/2013 10:05

vicious assault

some on here must be just winding you up

have to laugh Grin

have visions of a little girl grabbing a mans leg and kicking him over and over saying take that mister

usualsuspect · 09/09/2013 10:05

Fairdene thinks the 3 year old should be on a tag Grin

friday16 · 09/09/2013 10:06

" If I accidently knocked into a man would it be ok for him to shout aggressively at me ?"

No, but it's would hardly be a surprise if he did.

But that's not what happened here. Go and kick people at random in the street. See what happens. Let us know.

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ghostspirit · 09/09/2013 10:07

im not sure if i should take her to the police station and ask for a tag or an asbo ?

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Thepowerof3 · 09/09/2013 10:08

Just because people may act angrily over an accident Friday doesn't make it right

treaclesoda · 09/09/2013 10:08

I find the 'oh, you're all so perfect stance' a bit strange too. I mean, it's being thrown at people here who are saying that their child wouldn't kick someone in a queue, or that they would have apologised profusely or whatever. But it could just as easily be thrown back at the 'I would never ever shout at a child' camp.

usualsuspect · 09/09/2013 10:09

So if someone accidentally bumps into you, you would shout at them?

Okay.

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ghostspirit · 09/09/2013 10:09

friday what did happen here then? was it an accident or was it on purpose?

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Sirzy · 09/09/2013 10:09

Nobody has tried to claim they are perfect parents or have perfect children. But only one person is trying to find excuses for their child kicking strangers then getting angry with the man who got pissed off with that.

I also think the person who said avoid places where you have to queue for 30 minutes had a very valid point that's a long time for anyone especially a 3 year old so it's hardly going to be the best idea for keeping a child happy and calm - if you are going to do it you need a lot of ideas to stop them getting bored!

Cluffyflump · 09/09/2013 10:10

This thread is barking!

I take my hat off to ghost. Most people would have hidden the thread!

I hope your Dd is well and having a nice day Smile

TheOriginalSteamingNit · 09/09/2013 10:10

I wouldn't, but lots of people would though, wouldn't they? Classic start of bar room brawl!

But also, there is a difference between accidentally knocking into someone, with immediate and profuse apology (which I think we'd all offer) and kicking them.

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ghostspirit · 09/09/2013 10:12

soda they thing is i did tell me child not to kick i did tell her it was wrong. i did not actually see her do it. but i still told her of. me as the parent. this means that i agreed with him that she shout not have kicked him. so i told her she was wrong. but he was wrong for shouting as well

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littlemisswise · 09/09/2013 10:12

If your DD is in the lunch queue at school, Ghost and kicks another child and gets shouted at by the dinner lady, what will you do?

usualsuspect · 09/09/2013 10:12

Ghost has been fab on this thread.

Considering some of the barking posts on it.

Thepowerof3 · 09/09/2013 10:13

You sound like you think your pretty perfect to me Sirzy

Thepowerof3 · 09/09/2013 10:13

You're

treaclesoda · 09/09/2013 10:14

I once had a colleague who started a brawl in a pub that the police had to be called to, all because someone was trying to take a photo of their group of friends, and they took a step backwards to fit them all in and accidentally stepped on her toe.

Do I win the 'barking mad reactions to other people' prize?

Thepowerof3 · 09/09/2013 10:14

And there is a difference between an adult and a three year old

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ghostspirit · 09/09/2013 10:14

sirzy how am i making excuses. i have said she kicked him i have said she got told of for it ??

i have also said he should not have shouted.

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Sirzy · 09/09/2013 10:14

Not at all far from it. I simply don't expect others to accept bad behaviour from my son.

Chotter · 09/09/2013 10:15

Harry Hill would know how to resolve this....

SHarri13 · 09/09/2013 10:15

HOW DO YOU ALL KNOW THE CHILD DID IT ON PURPOSE AND REPEATEDLY?

Were you all there as you speak with authority!