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man shouted at my 3 year old for kicking

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ghostspirit · 08/09/2013 14:53

I took my children to chessington. and was in que for the ride. my 3 year old daughter had been kicking the man in front of us. ( i had not seen) He turned and shouted at her 'stop kicking me,don't you dare kick me' his tone and voulume of voice was a bit over the top. I told my daughter you don't kick its naughty. Then i told him she is 3 years old if there is a problem you talk to me not her. The woman who was with him said they have to be firm with their child because of some special needs he has and i said that may be your situation and you may need to talk to your son that way, But that does not mean its ok to talk to my child that way.

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Thepowerof3 · 08/09/2013 20:51

Perpertrate a vicious assault!? I've heard it fucking all now

Bearbehind · 08/09/2013 20:52

I've not seen any nastiness, just people asking questions and making comments then you ignoring things that don't suit you.

That's not nasty.

You asked if you were BU, most of us think you are- end of.

StickEmUp · 08/09/2013 20:54

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ghostspirit · 08/09/2013 20:54

bearbehind.... I'm glad a couple of people have seen the nastyness. even if you have not.

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kali110 · 08/09/2013 20:58

Not game playing just not agreeing with you.
I really dont think it was one kick either.
You dont agree with shouti g at your children, which is fair enough however that may not be the blokes parenting style. Plus yes maybe he did have short temper made worse by him being kicked.
I dont think any parent can say theyve never took their eye off their kids, but you shouldnt be having a go at a bloke if you took your eyes off her and she kicked somebody.
Maybe he was worried she would kick his son.
Yes shes only 3 however old enough to know its wrong.this will stick in her memory.
I dont think it would have been cruel to stop her going on rides, she was naughty, she doesnt get to go on the rides. That way the older ones dont miss out. If i was naughty i would have been straight out the queue and on the way home.
I can see that you know her behaviour was wrong however people may be getting wound up as doesnt seem like much in the way of telling her off more youve just said it too appease the bloke. Its annoying having kids running around making nuisances of themselves and knowing they can get away with it because the parents wont do anything.

EweHaveGoatToBeKiddin · 08/09/2013 21:00

Blush Aw thanks, YouTheCat. You've made me Smile

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 08/09/2013 21:02

The man did not react calmly and coolly - but he had just been kicked, and I think that explains why he didn't give the perfect, most considered response to what happened.

lunar1 · 08/09/2013 21:03

i'd have told your dd off too. the shouting would have depended on how much of a shock i got when kicked and how loud it was in the line. there is now way my ds would have been allowed on the ride. we would have left the que if he was kicking someone even if the others missed out. it just doesn't sound like there were any consequences to her actions from you.

tulipgrower · 08/09/2013 21:04

I think being shouted at by a "giant" is a way more effective lesson, than being told "that was naughty" by Mum and then still being allowed to go on a ride, because it would otherwise be unfair on the others. (That is effectively a clear message that she can now get away with anything when doing fun stuff with the rest of the family. )

I appreciate a direct response from adults to inappropriate behaviour towards them by my kids. I find the cause and effect is clearer for the kids, than if the assaulted adult went "tattling" to a parent. (The very, very stern telling-off from the postman regarding opening the door to strangers, finally got through to them. )

I had a kid kicking the back of my seat on a flight once, and after listening to the mother try to distract him and patiently, repeatedly saying, "Sweetie, can you please stop doing that" for 10 minutes, I put on my angriest face and cleary told the child in two languages that he better stop or else. The mum had a big, appreciative smirk on her face, and the kid didn't kick the seat for the rest of the flight.

Bearbehind · 08/09/2013 21:04

Please can you direct me to the nasty posts, as opposed to those who just disagree with you.

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ghostspirit · 08/09/2013 21:06

the older ones would have missed out because they have to have an adult on the ride with them. and i was the only adult... he had already shouted at her plus i told her it was wrong and the man had an apology. she also had to go in her buggy for a while... so to me she was punished. tere is no way in the world i would have home.

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SHarri13 · 08/09/2013 21:06

Vicious assault, that is hilarious. You must be joking.

usualsuspect · 08/09/2013 21:07

Ghosts DD, I sentence you to 2O years on the naughty step for your vicious assault.

Take her down.

Gavel

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ghostspirit · 08/09/2013 21:09

i agree usualsuspect, Sod the naughty step. i could take her police station and ask if they will tag her

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usualsuspect · 08/09/2013 21:11

Do you think that ghost wouldn't have told her DD off, if she had seen the vicious assault.

friday16 · 08/09/2013 21:13

"and the man had an apology"

From whom?

ilovesooty · 08/09/2013 21:13

It would have been unfortunate for the other children to miss out but I don't see how she will realise that poor behaviour has consequences if she's just allowed to continue to enjoy her day out however she behaves.

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ghostspirit · 08/09/2013 21:14

vicious assault haaha. no i would have given her a lollypop

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duchessandscruffy · 08/09/2013 21:14

usual do you ever have anything to contribute to a thread apart from unfunny sarcasm?

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ghostspirit · 08/09/2013 21:15

ilovesooty so how do i punish her without punishing the others.

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SilverStreak7 · 08/09/2013 21:18

lol usualsuspect

usualsuspect · 08/09/2013 21:19

Not really, I think.every thing has been said tbh.

I'm just wasting time.

ilovesooty · 08/09/2013 21:20

Since you insist that leaving the ride was not an option you indicated that basically because it would have impacted on the others you weren't prepared to intervene in a way to demonstrate consequences.

kali110 · 08/09/2013 21:21

I was naughty when my family had taken me and cousin out.it was only to a carboot but i used to love them. I was pulled up straight away and we went home. Cousin was told sorry but kali has been naughty and needs to think about her actions.

kali110 · 08/09/2013 21:23

I can see other posters views to. It does give your kids the view that they can get away with bAd behaviour if its a family day out.