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Original poster

To think that is someone is on holiday and updating facebook every 10 mins saying what a great time they are having, that they are really not having a great time at all!

199 replies

PartyFops · 07/09/2013 21:06

A friend of mine is on holiday and yes maybe i'm a bit jealous but she has put 15 facebook updates on today alone, and she is only one day 2.

My best holidays have been when I have not felt the need to even look at my phone or ipad!

OP posts:
ssd · 07/09/2013 21:08

seriously, facebook is for bragging, nothing else

Steben · 07/09/2013 21:08

Exactly OP yanbu

roundtable · 07/09/2013 21:10

Depends. Some people just love sharing and others do it because they're bored. Hard to tell without knowing the person.

Yanbu to feel jealous though.

:)

WipsGlitter · 07/09/2013 21:11

We call it boast book. DP has a friend with a wealthy wife, kept man and they go on amazing holidays and he posts a gazillion photos of their upgraded rooms etc. Very wearing.

roundtable · 07/09/2013 21:11

That looks really passive aggressive, sorry. Wasn't meant that way at all!

CoffeeTea103 · 07/09/2013 21:11

Ok then it's her holiday, her fb and she can choose to do whatever she wants. You can block her from your news feed on fb if it bothers you so much. Maybe it's a holiday that she's waited a long time for or really wanting to share this. Whatever the case just move on

SomethingOnce · 07/09/2013 21:21

Some people just love sharing

It's not sharing in the pre-social media sense of the word though, is it?

Sharing has come to broadcasting.

SomethingOnce · 07/09/2013 21:21

mean broadcasting.

Pagwatch · 07/09/2013 21:24

I did a load of mning and some facebook- ing when I was on holiday.
I enjoyed it. Ds needs to spend a lot of time quietly in the villa or in the shade and I sit with him.
If you think I am bragging then you are not my friend.
So if you think this friend is braggy, you don't like her - so delete her.

VaultFullOfTwizzlers · 07/09/2013 21:27

I thought that was the point of a holiday - lots of time for MNing.

Lots of dead time at airports etc as well.

Hassled · 07/09/2013 21:30

I use FB more on holiday than any other time, simply because I have the time for it when I usually don't. I am that person who's uploading photos of the kids on the beach all the time - not because I'm not having a good time, but just because I can.

And I love seeing photos of my friends' holidays.

DuelingFanjo · 07/09/2013 21:35

Seriously, why are you checking your Facebook so often?

Original poster
PartyFops · 07/09/2013 21:38

Dueling do you mean me?

I don't need to check my facebook more than once to see that she has changed her status so many times. They all just follow each other.

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curiouselle · 07/09/2013 21:40

Some people really are bragging and it can be hard to stomach, but sometimes people just like to share or are putting it on for someone in particular. I put pictures of my dd on but mostly for my brother who lives in japan, I would hate to think someone else thought I was bragging!

mrsjay · 07/09/2013 21:40

mumsnetters post from holiday some very lovely ones does that mean if they mention it we should all be Envy about it, so what the friends has her phone or ipad with her and is just saying stuff that is all it is words, hide her till she comes back I am sure she will share her holiday pics Grin

Arisbottle · 07/09/2013 21:41

Are you not happy for your friend who is enjoying her Holliday so much that she wants to share with people she thinks are friends

mrsjay · 07/09/2013 21:44

and you know she may be bragging or boasting or just chuffed to bits she is on holiday I am sure she is having a great time

BIWI · 07/09/2013 21:47

Pictures of her daily routine, going to Tesco, wouldn't be half so interesting though, would they?

Hulababy · 07/09/2013 21:47

15 updates in a day is a lot of updates at any time tbh. But it isn't every 10 minutes by a long shot either.

FWIW I have never yet been on a holiday where I haven;t had the odd bit of downtime - sat in a cafe waiting for DH to go to till to order or to the loo; sat on a sunlounger whilst DH and DD are in the pool and I am reading and having chilling, sat waiting for a plane/bus/train, time out in the villa, sitting in the room in an evening whilst DD is having an earlier night, ... I can;t believe many people are really totally engaged with activities 100% of their time on holiday with no downtime.

Posting on Fb takes approximately 20-30 seconds, adding a photo is less than 1 minute, reading some updates from others, less than 5 minutes.

I post the odd update and/or photo on holiday. My family like to see DD enjoying herself on holiday, my close friends claim to like the odd picture too. I certainly like to see my family and friends enjoying their holidays as well.

And let's face it - their is always the defriend button. If you dislike your friend enough to be so annoyed at her updates that you start a Mn thread - then get rid!

LaGuardia · 07/09/2013 21:49

Sounds like she is bored shitless. Feel sorry for the sad bint.

BrokenSunglasses · 07/09/2013 21:51

If they are on the sort of holiday where you take things easy and sit on a beach all day, then they probably just have more time than normal to think about writing on Facebook.

If they are on a busy group activity holiday and constantly posting about how great it is, then they are probably lying.

quesadilla · 07/09/2013 21:51

In some cases, yes, but not necessarily. Some people are just massive over-sharers and can't help themselves. Others are stealth boasting.

Hulababy · 07/09/2013 21:53

Oh and a did a bit of MNing too. Infact I posted about said holiday - thread I'd started before going about best places to visit, what not to miss, etc.

FWIW I wasn't bored at all nor having a poor time. I had a fabulous holiday with DH and DD, loved it. I wasn't bragging but I was happy with where I was.

We also sent postcards to close family - telling them about where we were, what we were doing and even with a photo of DD infront of one of the places we visited. Was that bragging to my family too? After all - it is not really any different - photos of said holiday with comment of what we were doing...

Pollywallywinkles · 07/09/2013 21:56

Does it really matter?

Pagwatch · 07/09/2013 21:59

I had a whole caprinihahahahaha thread when I was on holiday [proud]