AIBU to ask my mum not to hit a cushion while saying 'naughty cushion'?

[DH2R]

DW and I don't have a lot of 'rules' we're following while bringing up DD, but one we do have is that hitting is not done, in any form, to anything, ever.

This evening for the fourth time in about 2 months, I had to ask her not to hit a cushion, while saying 'naughty cushion'.

Caused a bit of upset.

Am I being unreasonable?

What had the cushion done?

Rather depends what the cushion was doing that was so naughty?

But no, not unreasonable if your house and an express wish in how you are bringing up DD.

Had the cushion injured someone and had to be punished in turn?

Yabu. As I have got older I have realised that 'don't sweat the small stuff' is a good mantra. Controlling your poor mothers conversations with soft furnishings is a step too far.

My MiL does this, drives me mad. Slapping the table DD walked into saying "naughty table" is pointless and doesn't either comfort DD or tell her to be more careful in future.

I really don't think I could get worked up about hitting a cushion, even if it hadn't done anything to deserve it!

If she hit your DC you would have something to get worked up about!

YANBU
She should say "cushion you have done a naughty thing"

Label the action not the individual.

How old is your dd?

If she's old enough to see that Granny is just being silly when she says 'naughty cushion', the YABU.

My mum used to do that when we were kids and we thought it was hilarious!

YANBU! I had to have words about this, as - yes, you are quite right - hitting can indeed result! Given how easy it is for a parent to hurt a child underfoot or in cupboards, or simply doing things s/he ought not to in your presence, there's a risk to the child-parent relationship (or there was to mine!).

This is literally the daftest thing to object about

I'm pretty non violent but you've reached new realms of tinfoil hat wearing.

Hth

Waiting for the cushion abuse apologists to arrive.

Renter I have no idea what your post means, sorry.
OP - I need more context before I can tell whether you are BU. Was it done in a threatening way? WHat was the 'purpose'? I'm inclined to think YABU, but I'm not sure without more details.

Don't sweat the small stuff is good advice.

I totally appreciate where your coming from and agree with you stance re: violence.

However you have brought you dd into the world we all share and not everyone is going to behave in front of her how you would like.

If you dd seemed upset talk to her about it later, explain what you think and why.

By all means mould your dd but you cannot control the actions of everyone else.

my mums used to say naughty floor, naughty chair etc if ds fell over and harmed himself

i would not worry about it and just roll your eyes becoming a grandparent does something strange to the most rational people. and my mum would never hit ds, she never hit me which was quite unusual in the 70's

In summary yanbu but don't waste you energy

I would be banned from your house, I am always hitting cushions, or chairs, or lamposts while calling them naughty, usually because dd1 has bumped into them and hurt herself, I trust my children to know the difference between a cushion and another human being though.

You're weird.

How do you plump your pillows? What would you do if your DD was attacked by something punchable, like a goose? What if you met Vernon Kay? What would you do if you met Vernon Kay armed with a goose in one hand and a unpleasantly firmed pillow in the other?

My mum does this. In what way is it good to teach a child to hit or smack something that they have hurt themselves on?? Children can't in the heat of the moment rationalise that it is ok to hit the table, but not the 2 yo child stood next to her that she bumped into. It must be generational. I let the first few instances of this go, but in the end I just said to my DD in front of my mum when she said it to a chair (!!!) 'oh, no we don't hit, ever'. To be fair, my mum got it straightaway and realised that is a bit silly. She even wondered why it hadn't occurred to her that it is of course, nonsensical to hit an inaminate object.

I trust my children to know the difference between a cushion and another human being though. Madness. This is how wars start.

'Something punchable, like a goose' has got me giggling like anything.

OP, I think this is a huge overreaction.

My mum does this too. "Naughty table, smack smack" etc. The best one was to the nurse that gave DD her injections "naughty lady hurting DGD, shall I give her a smack". I pull her on it too, we don't smack anything.

In my view, hitting naughty people is tempting but wrong and hitting naughty cushions is not so tempting but absolutely fine.

Tiggy. Thanks - that made me laugh at the end of a frankly shitty day.

I used to have a passive aggressive sofa that I had to smack on occasion :(