AIBU to ask my mum not to hit a cushion while saying 'naughty cushion'?

[DH2R]

DW and I don't have a lot of 'rules' we're following while bringing up DD, but one we do have is that hitting is not done, in any form, to anything, ever.

This evening for the fourth time in about 2 months, I had to ask her not to hit a cushion, while saying 'naughty cushion'.

Caused a bit of upset.

Am I being unreasonable?

Nope
Lost it now.
One Kay is rotund comic - very smiley
The other Kay is tall and did something nasty to the blonde girl on the dancing programme.

Sleep....

My friends dog bit the head off a goose at Chiswick park when we were kids. The thing carried on running round and flapping for ages. They are serious fuckers. Don't fuck with them. Vernon Kay however, looks like a piece of piss - i could defo take him in fight.

It's a generational thing.

In our parents' day cushions were expected to be seen and not heard and I think many mothers (mine included!) worry that our cushions might become over-indulged. You need to gently but firmly tell her that you cannot spoil a cushion with too much love.

"No. It irritates the shit of me because it's just so fucking annoying. 'Naughty shoe, naughty shoe'. It's not a naughty shoe, it's just a fucking shoe!"

I actually said to DH with my best worthy earnest face on 'Can you have a word with MIL about smacking the shoes, i don't think it's a good example to set to DS really...' DH saw straight thru it and said no with a face. (possibly because at the time i was kicking the crap out of the freezer door as the bastard wouldn't close ).

Yabu, chill out. People hit things your dd needs to learn that.

I don't think it's ever too young to realise that people do things differently. Kids who realise this find things a lot easier generally imo.

Agree with val r'head. Also, think you are being petty and rude. Perhaps consider making sure ur dd know's difference by animate and inanimate stuff. Also,when ur dd is in playground, yard etc when she's older and someone hits her,is she to defend hherself or is that as bad as hitting cufashions?

Of all the things to worry you or annoy you, this shouldn't be one of them.

YABU and a bit daft.

YABU. This is unbelievably petty.

God I did this all the time. If dd had walked into a door and was crying I would hit the door and say 'naughty door'. Sometimes it was enough to laugh her out of her upset, and if not at least it distracted her.

And I am very much anti smacking.

It's fine, honestly.

Who the fuck is Ernest?

I agree with the playground comment- teaching your child not to hit ever is unrealistic, teach them not to hit FIRST is better ime.

I left my cushion cover out in the garden all night.

I think the crucial bit of your OP is this: "one [rule] we do have is that hitting is not done, in any form, to anything, ever" - the important bit being "we". You and your wife can do what you like, but your mum is not you and in a case like this, where it's a silly thing done to cheer up an upset toddler, I think you should probably relax.

Presumably she did this when you were a kid, and you seem to have turned into Gandhi out alright?

OP presumably your DM indulged in cushion violence when you were small & it hasn't done you very much harm. It might therefore be safe to assume that it will not indoctrinate your DD into a life of violence.

You do sound very nice but seriously Get. A. Grip.

New favorite thread for the comments around the middle. Hilarious. I think we just need to love bomb cushion wrapped geese.

PMSL - I think one of my first threads on MN was about my MIL doing this to inanimate objects, it really, really pissed me off at the time as we were trying to teach DD not to hit. 6 years on and I really, really couldn't care less.

At the time Get A Grip was one of the politer comments I got - nice to see that nothing changes :o

My parents used to do this with me! The door, table, sofas all got a beating during my childhood for hurting me. .

There is absolutely no way that your mother's behaviour will encourage your child to hit

ROFL.

your poor Mum. It's such a standard thing to do - cannot believe that anyone should have an issue with it. Does your wife not like your mother???

DH2R I'm with you on this. I wouldn't want a GP doing this in my house. It is all about teaching a behaviour (punishing with violence) that I don't want seen in my house.

And for the poster who asked about Tom & Jerry, I didn't let DS watch them when he was very young. Yes we all watched it as kids but it's outdated IMO, societal norms change. Although now he's older there's a barrage of violent images aimed at young boys in particular, so T&J is mild by comparison!

All these people sneering that such "innocent" "fun" can't possibly influence a child: do keep in mind that not all children are as impervious as yours!

I also have a cushion molesting dog ... I have to put them in a cupboard when I go out otherwise I come home to scenes of absolute depravity.

My former MIL used to punch inanimate objects. My DC have not grown up to be violent maniacs, but they do think their grandmother is a bit peculiar