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AIBU to ask my mum not to hit a cushion while saying 'naughty cushion'?

148 replies

DH2R · 04/09/2013 19:40

DW and I don't have a lot of 'rules' we're following while bringing up DD, but one we do have is that hitting is not done, in any form, to anything, ever.

This evening for the fourth time in about 2 months, I had to ask her not to hit a cushion, while saying 'naughty cushion'.

Caused a bit of upset.

Am I being unreasonable?

OP posts:
valiumredhead · 04/09/2013 19:57

I'd have to file it under things I couldn't get worked up aboutGrin

HoneyDragon · 04/09/2013 19:57

Won't some one think of the cushions?!

someone had to say it

Nancy66 · 04/09/2013 19:58

The evil bitch. I bet she pushes doors as well.

AcrylicPlexiglass · 04/09/2013 19:58

I would punch the goose and Vernon but don't think it would be unreasonable to punch the pillow.

CatsCantFlyFast · 04/09/2013 19:59

Punchable goose GrinGrin
It had never before crossed my mind that this would be demonstrating a behaviour that you wouldn't want your child to copy, but having had it pointed out to me by this thread it makes sense. Can you ask your mum to have a firm word with the cushion and get the cushion to then apologise (ventriloquism skills required) instead of handing out cushion slaps??

Evasmummy11 · 04/09/2013 20:00

Your poor mum! Has she not brought you up fine? Your DD isn't going to think that her doing this means violence is ok, she is going to grow up having a normal childhood where her grandma does something funny and silly, if you start setting ridiculous rules likes this then your mum is not going to be able to relax and have the really nice relationship children can have with their grandparent. I sometimes do this game with my own daughter and she laughs and it distracts her from crying Smile

HoneyDragon · 04/09/2013 20:00

I don't think you should punch Geese. Geese are mean. It wouldn't end well.

ditavonteesed · 04/09/2013 20:01

you would never find me near enough to a goose to punch it scary bastards.

decaffwithcream · 04/09/2013 20:02

Have her put the cushion in a timeout.

InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream · 04/09/2013 20:03

You are being completely unreasonable to try to control your mum in such a petty way. She must feel totally miserable.

nenevomito · 04/09/2013 20:03

Could she put them on the naughty chair?

HugoDarling · 04/09/2013 20:05

YANBU; she should speak to the cushion firmly yet gently and use it as an opportunity to discuss feelings and friendship.

Poor cushion :(

MrsTerryPratchett · 04/09/2013 20:07

Also, has she tried withholding privileges from the cushion? Screen time maybe.

motherinferior · 04/09/2013 20:08

Is she in Gestalt therapy? They biff cushions, don't they?

ditavonteesed · 04/09/2013 20:10

mi dont they biff each other with cushions, we do tht in our house as well, again though I am trusting them to know the difference between a cushion and, say a brick.

Mabelface · 04/09/2013 20:11

The poor cushion! Never smack it, just talk to it about what it's done and explain why it should do it. Don't put it in time out either, as it may cause psychological damage. As for you lot saying that it's fine to smack the cushion, well, you're just cushion violence apologists. Shame on you.

WafflyVersatile · 04/09/2013 20:12

If you're going to punch a goose best to wait until it's been turned in to cushions. Cushions rarely fight back.

If I was permitted to experiment on twins then I could bring them up exactly the same except one would be exposed to cushion hitting and the other not and we could see what difference this would make, but for some stupid, stupid reason I'm not allowed. Angry

Lollydaydream · 04/09/2013 20:12

I'm afraid yabu, though the smacking inanimate objects thing GPs do is bizarrely irritating. In true treating grandmother like a child you should model back the correct behaviour and as per the suggestion above tell the cushion off and ask it for an apology. This maintains the humour your poor mother is aiming at. No one likes being told off, children or adults.
and watch out for those geese especially the Canada ones.

WafflyVersatile · 04/09/2013 20:14

Madlizzy what if the cushion is endangering itself say by sticking the zip pull in an electrical socket? Surely a sharp tap on the piping would be appropriate then?

Lollydaydream · 04/09/2013 20:15

so in conclusion, we all love cushions, but hate geese?
interesting.......

StanleyLambchop · 04/09/2013 20:15

I don't think you should punch Geese. Geese are mean. It wouldn't end well.

Agreed, geese are double hard bastards. They could have you any day of the week. With or without Vernon Kay.

motherinferior · 04/09/2013 20:16

Apparently you beat cushions as part of the Hoffman Process therapy. They are replacements for people. Which is better than beating people, obviously.

nenevomito · 04/09/2013 20:16

Shock How can you talk like that about Canada Geese?

I am not sure I can deal with such fowl language.

HokeyCokeyPigInAPokey · 04/09/2013 20:16

Won't somebody think of the cushions.

motherinferior · 04/09/2013 20:17

Geese taste better than cushions.