To expect to orgasm every time I have sex?

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My H has ED issues and we are due to see his Doctor in a few weeks' time. I'm expecting to be asked what I want from our sex life, but I'm pretty inexperienced, apart from with H, so I don't know if this is a reasonable thing to expect or not. I orgasm just fine from manual stimulation, but my H can't keep hard long enough for me to get myself to that point from penetrative sex. Do most people orgasm every time they have sex, or is that just the media? A bit of perspective would be great, thanks.

I fake . Been doing it for such a while that I don't feel I can ever stop. I enjoy sex, but I come on my own.

peteypiranha - because sometimes you just don't get anywhere near it. Doesn't mean that the intimacy isn't still enjoyable though.

Bonsoir I think that maybe on the evidence here you are exceptional (that's what you wanted to hear wasn't it? )

I can orgasm from penetration but it can take longer and with oral sex it's literally about 60 seconds.

It's whatever suits you and your partner OP but don't worry about flogging his poor wien to death in the hope that banging away for half an hour will make it happen as ime it's not the best way.

I suppose everyones different but I always have 1 as I know all the things we can do so I have one everytime. I think it depends on how high your sex drive is fuck intimacy I need to orgasm

I think orgasm from penetrative sex is normal and to be expected for both partners every time and that there is something wrong with either or both if you if it doesn't happen.

Take no notice of this OP.

Goady tripe.

Beeyump that's a shame for you both.

I am one of the people who wouldn't have sex without having an orgasm....why would I bother?

We are all different in what we want from sex it seems.

60 seconds??! littlemog How I wish I came 60 seconds after oral. All I can think about is how long I'm taking, and what an odd sensation it is to have my boyfriend's head in such an unnatural position. Haha! Immature.

Yeahh...the thing is, I really really like the actual act of fucking, even without having an orgasm. Just as well.

I expect to orgasm from penetrative sex at least almost all the time.

www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/female_sexual_arousal_and_orgasm.htm#.Uh9s73-yw08
All about female orgasm and more............

Hahaaaaaa @ Bonsour- I bet you haven't had an orgasm since the fall of Vichy France, you goady old trout

Beeyump it's actually a bugger as I want to last longer!!

Doesn't anyone else slightly resent the fact that men can orgasm so easily. Obviously they were designed to do so for biological purposes but it just seems odd the clitoris is position just a bit too far up so manual is usually needed.

Pisses me off mightily.

Bonsoir , I think you posting such a goady message on a support thread is way out of line. You really do hate women, don't you ?

BOF, I thought Bonsours were Haribo.

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I really dont think its hard to orgasm at all and can orgasm just as easily as a man. I always orgasm first before dh and once you know what you like then job done. Sex is a lot in the mind so the dirtier you mind the easier you orgasm ime.

My mind is very dirty! Doesn't mean I come easily with a partner.

I don't expect one . Sometimes I can't be arsed but I enjoy it anyway.

Bonsoir ha ha ha

I'm sure it must be super to have so much free time you can practice your physical and mental love making to perfect orgasm through purely penetrative sex. The rest of us seem to be perfectly happy with our "substandard" orgasms, but thank you for the advice!

Op, as this thread shows we all do it differently. As long as you are both happy, what anyone else does really is irrelevant.

I think it's very interesting how cinematic versions of sex influence us. Real life is what happened to dh and I recently. The kids were away so we made the most of it - for about 48 hours. After which the need to crack on with the decorating and sorting out squeaky floorboards (arf,arf) took precedence. Dh bought a cordless screwdriver he was delighted with. I got some Orla Kiely bedding in Homesense (and we both took an interest in each other's purchases). There's more to life than orgasm. Though very nice at the time

My bedroom is certainly not a temple to department store decorations

I'm not exactly sure why telling women that it is within their power to enjoy sex so much more is anti-women...

But Bonsoir - just about everybody on this thread has said they enjoy sex whether they have a physical orgasm or not. You said in effect that women have to orgasm or they're doing it wrong. That's not telling women they can enjoy sex. It's saying they must enjoy it or be 'broken' - and that's definately anti-woman.