To think my friends are shit and want to make some new ones

[Holly94]

I'm 17 weeks pregnant and I can count on one hand the number of times I've seen my friends since I found out I was pregnant.
I found out I was pregnant 2 days after we all finished sixth form and no one could understand my decision to keep my baby instead of have an abortion.
Went on a girls holiday (booked a while ago) when I was 11 weeks and spent the whole week throwing up. I tried talking to them all while I was with them but they kept walking off and several times I heard them discussing me while they thought i was asleep. One girl told me I was so irritating 'always being ill' and told me I annoyed her so much she wanted to hit me.
Since we got back I've texted them a lot, face booked, tried to meet up, no one responds to me. Asked them how their results went, they just told me and didn't ask about mine. Just seen a status of them all on Facebook having a girls night in at someone's house. I would have loved a girly night. I feel so fucking alone right now. I just want some new friends. AIBU?

Hi Holly,

I'm sorry to hear what you've experienced, but also made me feel i'm not alone reading this thread! I've had a similar experience to you, only with one friend, she was also my "best" friend. I'm 24, she's 21. Along with another girl who has a 2 year old daughter, we worked together and spent most of our weekends together. She knew I was trying to get pregnant and was very excited about it all, and spoke about being an "aunty" all the time. However when I actually became pregnant, it only took a few weeks for me to notice that she had stopped texting, and had started having lunch with other girls without asking me (girls she previously used to bitch about!) It got to the point where she would point blank ignore me if she passed me at work and I got so fed up i actually changed my hours at work to avoid her - stupid I know!

My other friend, with a 2 year old, has been a wonderful support and we have grown even closer now she is pregnant too! I was really angry and sad for a while but I have realised there is a world of difference between us and she is just a silly little girl. All she is interested in is going out and getting drunk and she has surrounded herself with a lot of girls who I know dont care about her. My friend and I are of no doubt that she will come crawling back once she needs true friends, and by that point I will have had my baby and I will be too busy with real-life problems!

XXX

Good luck OP they sound nasty and you are well shot of them.

A family friend has been through simmilar very recently finding out about an unplanned preg at 7 months - her friends said "aren't you going to get it adopted?" and shunned her.

Tbh your ex friends are probably a little jealous as well as too immature to be helpful.

One of my mates had a planned pregnancy at 18, I didnt really "get" her decision but I was still kind, bought an outfit etc got excited about it all. I thought she was a bit mad tbh but that was because her ex was an abusive twat (now out of the picture). She has loads of mum friends and a lovely 8 year old now 10 years on. You will be fine .