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Original poster

aibu in thinking its not 'desperate' asking if people want to come along to something, on FB?

56 replies

watchforthesnail · 24/08/2013 07:47

there is a gig i wanted to go to, very close to my home ( walking distance) and cheap. Im a lone parent, so dont automatically have anyone to drag along with me to these things. I stuck a ' does anyone want to come to...' on my fb and then added a comment and named those who i thought it might be there thing, so they would see it.

Someone commented saying i looked desperate.

that was a bit shit i thought, and until they said that i didnt think anything bad of it......

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Pink01 · 24/08/2013 07:49

Very rude and unnecessary. But I would probably out a jokey response along the lines of people organise their lives via FB these days and your 'friend' needs to get themselves into the modern world......

Smoorikins · 24/08/2013 07:49

Nothing wrong with it at all Imo. You are just using an easy method of communication to ask all your friends at once.

Your 'friend' is an arse.

SPBisResisting · 24/08/2013 07:50

yes that was unnecessarily mean of them! I bet they have few friends. Hope you get to go.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 24/08/2013 07:51

Defriend them immediately! Block the bastard! It's not desperate at all! I have friends who do it all the time and they're not all single and none are failures! One of them is a busy and successful actor who regularly says "I've got three hours in central London before next audition...who can come for a coffee and a wander?"

And another who is a writer...BBC dontcha know...she's always asking for a partner to come along to some show or other....she once asked to borrow someone's child to see some Dr Who thing which you had to have a child to get into! None of these things are desperate they are the BEST use of FB!

Pobblewhohasnotoes · 24/08/2013 07:52

I sold a spare gig ticket by doing this. Your friend is an arse.

Original poster
watchforthesnail · 24/08/2013 07:52

yep, he then made a comment about going on my own and picking someone up there.

i made light and said i was reliving my youth ( they are an old band) and he said well then, you can take someone home with you then.

all felt a bit sleezy and patronising.

I do now have 3 people to go with, because they saw it and responded.
i just hadnt considered the prospect of coming off like a desperate cow....

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BitOfAFatCowReally · 24/08/2013 07:52

Of course it's not desperate! Just quicker and easier than phoning round everyone. I often do this. Your friend sounds very rude.

Smoorikins · 24/08/2013 07:54

And a great outcome! If you'd have phoned around, you'd probably have stopped when you got one person to go.

AwkwardSquad · 24/08/2013 07:55

I've seen friends using Facebook and Twitter like that and I've taken up one of the open invitations. I don't think it's desperate at all and your 'friend' is being rude.

2beornot · 24/08/2013 07:55

Def not desperate!!! It's just an easier way if contacting a few people at once plus someone might come who you wouldn't have thought of to ask!!

MrsLouisTheroux · 24/08/2013 07:56

He really is an idiot isn't he? Why are you friends with him?

ebwy · 24/08/2013 07:57

Tell him to stop projecting his own insecurities on to you, and that using social media to organise your social life is normal these days.

How rude! Defriend him. You don't need people like that.

Punkatheart · 24/08/2013 07:58

Not a friend. I do hope you find someone and have the greatest time.

stiffstink · 24/08/2013 08:00

A friend and I accidentally got 50 free tickets to an event and we gave them away on FB.

I'm guessing this wasn't desperate and wouldn't have been if I had only five free tickets.

My friend recently asked if anyone could mind her DD for a few hours, it saves texting everyone in her phone so why not?

Your friend sounds like a first class dickhead, especially with his other comments.

BadgersNadgers · 24/08/2013 08:01

He's an arse. I'd block him.

Jaynebxl · 24/08/2013 08:02

That's horrible. I often do this, not out of desperation as I am usually going with my DH but just to make sure my mates with similar taste know the gig is happening and so we can all go together and have a sociable evening. V sensible if you ask me.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 24/08/2013 08:03

Get rid! Don't let him win by keeping him the arse!

GlaikitFizzog · 24/08/2013 08:03

Yup, de friend and block, seems like a bit of a twat!

Enjoy the gig :)

WinkyWinkola · 24/08/2013 08:04

This is one of the great uses of FB.

Your friend is a knobber. Get rid.

Delilahlilah · 24/08/2013 08:06

He sounds jealous to me. Spiteful thing to say. I take it his name wasn't one you listed?

catinabox · 24/08/2013 08:08

What a twit!! Of course not. That says a lot more about how he sees himself than about you.

pianodoodle · 24/08/2013 08:08

It's no different than calling your friends to see who wants to come. It's just more efficient!

Original poster
watchforthesnail · 24/08/2013 08:08

thought as much. More pissed off that its on my wall for all to see...but ive just deleted all his comments.

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Pobblewhohasnotoes · 24/08/2013 08:08

I hope you write something rude back to him.

Slainte · 24/08/2013 08:08

Can you delete his comments from your post? He sounds like a right knob.

Of course it's not desperate to ask friends if they'd like to go to a gig, tell him to jog on.