Aibu - crap staff using mental health excuses

[Joiningthegang]

Aibu to think that whilst there are many many people with genuine mental health issues, I am sooo pissed off that when crap member of staff is "found out" they play the mental Health stress card, get signed off sick and you can't really do anything about it.

I am mostly pissed off because they ruin it for the genuinely ill people.

[FunnysInLaJardin]

actually OP I don't think YABU. Ive seen previously perfectly fine colleagues do this when they want to avoid working to the end of their contract. It is rubbish and casts a cloud over genuine MH issues

[Tiredemma]

How dare those people develop a mental illness. Shame on them.



Littlecloud. You sound like you are unfamiliar with the term 'empathy'. May I ask what your line of work is?

[Montybojangles]

Better hurry with that this is lovely. Plenty for all, any sick notes accepted, even if only written by a GP, not a specialist.

[littlecloud]

I work for a small business it is the summer holidays if we didn't work it would effectively have to close. We are truly doing it for the good of the team as you do when you work with a handful of people that's how it goes. I respect my employers as they are very good to me and great with being flexible so that I can fix my hours so that I can fit work in around school runs etc.

Our employer isn't doing anything to us. Just a mixture of bad luck really that we have all been struck down at once two of the people have had a week + off as the physically couldn't work due to being so drugged up on pain killers. But Have been forced to come back early.

[littlecloud]

Yes I am familiar with the term empathy and have little when I'm flippin shattered and offering to cover someone else shift. And going by their FB status they are having a right good time of it on their time off....

[Salmotrutta]

Oh dear...

[Joiningthegang]

Thank you funnys - I have every compassion with genuine illness, I just find a perfectly fine, back from holiday colleague who is reminded of their deadline which impacts on the whole team, suddenly (later that day)develops a mental health problem and leaves everyone else to pick up the slack to meet their deadline.

However I came on aibu and asked the question, and apparently I am

[Shakey1500]

And equal bad luck for you colleague who is also suffering. Not that that sentiment comes across in your post at all.

[littlecloud]

And I do have an idea of what mental illness is like as suffered from PND after ds2. With out actually working with said colleague it's hard to get the full picture, the main trigger of her depression is our working environment (it's not a bad working environment in any shape or form, can be hard work and stressful when busy but that's the nature of the job), this has been going on for a long time....

[TrinityRhino]

[TrinityRhino]

oh my god, we can do cake

how did I miss this???

[usualsuspect]

for Trin

[MollyHooper]

What should the status of a person who is mentally ill contain in your opinion littlecloud?

Should they always be bleak? Filled with gibberish? something along the same lines as Charlie Sheen?

Would it make you feel better to read about it?

[littlecloud]

It's not bad luck that she has depression! It's bought on by I working environment which they refuse to except and it is detrimental on the whole team working with someone like that. I like my colleague, just not working with them sometimes as it can make my working day very hard being around them. This has been a long on going issue and they have had to be sent home on many occasions leaving us short staffed. or being called in last minute.

Can you imagine working with someone who puts you on edge the whole time or can just switch during a shift and storm out and your left to do yours and their job? They would be great at a lot of other jobs just not the one that we work in and it upsets me that I have to take up the slack.

[McNewPants2013]

When I was going through depression nobody knew, I was very good at hiding it and only visited people on my good day.

I have anxiety and panic attacks and in work only my boss knows about it. The only reason I told her was sometime I just need a quiet space to calm myself down.

[x2boys]

tbh I do think you have a point I hear it all the time on here and other parenting networks oh I cant work I have mental health issues for some reason bi poler is very popular at present I,m not a psychiatrist but I am a registered mental health nurse and currently work on a psychiatric intensive care unit and I have nursed really unwell people over the past 20 years but with proper care and treatment people do work with very serious mental health issues.

[Spikeytree]

How many calories in this ?

[RegainingUnconsciousness]

Hi, can I just join in with a couple of things?

1. I know a few people who have battled on, kept things to themselves, then one day, sometimes in the middle of the day, have been unable to go on. They've been very, very ill. And due to struggling on for so long without support, have then needed extensive time off to recover. I am ever grateful that I haven't had to endure this. We make more time and effort to look after each others mental health at work now.
   

1. DH has just come home with popcorn and hot chocolate! Woop!

[usualsuspect]

Fucking hell, this won't end well.

[MollyHooper]

Oooh bi-polar is popular now?

I was diagnosed when I was 13, does that make me like... a trend setter?

[littlecloud]

MollyHooper just a bit soul destroying to see that they are doing Q, Y & Z fun thing with their free time (that say if you were, signed off with the flu, tonsillitis, recovery from an op wouldn't have a hope in hell of doing let alone be well enough to fb about it)

[CookieLady]

[MollyHooper]

But it's not the same as tonsillitis, is it?

[WillyandTig]

x2boys, find it hard to believe you are a mental health nurse and can't spell bi-polar!

[idiuntno57]

yes molly there is nothing like feeling hip to take the edge off mania and suicidal depression