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AIBU?

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Original poster

To be absolutely sick of being the local unpaid childminder?

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gertrudetrain · 21/08/2013 18:29

I suspect I might be ranting because the 5 day course of antibiotics I've just had have given me raging thrush, the abscess that I was taking them for has flared up the day after finishing the course and my temp is rising by the minute but grrrr.

I currently have 2 different sibling sets in my house, who were waiting outside for ds1&2 when I got home from work at 4. I have just been informed from 1 set that their mum has 'popped out' and their dad has gone to footy. The second set are pretty much left to their own devices and their cheeky fecker of a mum has said in the past 'I trust you with them as I know you are advanced CRB and police checked' because of my job. I have been at work all day, I'm making tea for my 3 dc's and they are doing my head in. I'm just Hmm that you would ship your kids off for over 2 hours and 1. Not check on them and 2. Go out! Eldest is 10, youngest 4. AIBU & miserable or are they taking the piss

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gintastic · 21/08/2013 18:32

YANBU. That is horrendous. If I came home to that I would not be letting them in - are you having to feed them as well?

Bruthastortoise · 21/08/2013 18:32

YANBU. Bring your DC in and firmly close the door on the others.

WorraLiberty · 21/08/2013 18:32

I know this is going to sound harsh but I'm going to be 100% honest with you.

I have no sympathy whatsoever for anyone who allows other children into their home or garden when they don't actually want them there.

It's your house, you are the adult.

Put your foot down or put up with it.

Pixieonthemoor · 21/08/2013 18:34

Good grief - even if you were feeling ok and not grotty with the nasty abssess (sorry about that btw) that is SO not on!!

If I was feeling charitable, I would take the parents to task when they deign to turn up. If I were not feeling charitable, I would take the kids to the local cop shop and drop them off saying that you had found these abandoned children!!

Squitten · 21/08/2013 18:35

Well why did you let them in then? Say no, not today and close the door.

You are the one in charge here so more fool you for doing it!

YouStayClassySanDiego · 21/08/2013 18:36

Well, the second set I'd send home if there's a parent there and tell her in no uncertain terms that you're not prepared to have them unannounced and dumped on you.

The two who are currently parentless I'd be worried about where they'd go, do they have keys to their house?

Put your foot down and tell these shite parents exactly what you think and make it clear it's not to happen again.

zatyaballerina · 21/08/2013 18:37

You shouldn't have let them in, other parents can't choose you as babysitter for their children if you refuse to do it! Kick them out and don't let them in again unless you want them there.

mercibucket · 21/08/2013 18:41

cheeky to leave a 4 year old but the 10 year old? old enough to play out and not your responsibility if you send him home (i know the 4 year old isnt your responsibility either of course, but who could throw a 4 year old out on the streets?) the 10 year old - he can play out elsewhere if needs be. the 4 year old - do you have the parents number? call and ask them to collect.

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gertrudetrain · 21/08/2013 18:42

I've sent the first lot home when they they attempted to bring their dog in! I keep steering them outside but when I'm dealing with the toddler they sneak back in. The other parent less 2(twins) are upstairs on the Xbox and I don't not know what to do with them. I would send them back to wait in their doorstep but there was an attempted abduction of an 11 year old last month so...

I am a fool for letting them in. I am absolutely not feeding them!

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HopeClearwater · 21/08/2013 18:45

Don't feed them. At least, not until your own children helpfully suggest it, like mine do. Grrr.

gordyslovesheep · 21/08/2013 18:45

I was going to type exactly what Worra did

you don't 'steer' them anywhere - you say NO

and tell the parent you will not be watching them

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gertrudetrain · 21/08/2013 18:46

I have in the past told them no you can not come in but I do like to keep an eye out on the 4 and 6 year old because they are left to roam but not checking on them is terrible IMO.

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diddl · 21/08/2013 18:46

Call the police!

Tell them that kids were waiting on your doorstep & the parents aren't in.

You hadn't arranged to have them & it's not convenient!

YouStayClassySanDiego · 21/08/2013 18:47

Lock your door to stop the first two sneaking in or shout and tell them to go away.

I'd be wary about the second two until a parent is back but don't feed them and give both sets of parents a massive bollocking!

gordyslovesheep · 21/08/2013 18:47

then call 101 or SS - in all honesty if they are at risk you are not helping - because when you are out they are still at risk

I don't mean to sound harsh but it's not your worry - their parents are in the wrong and need to be told

I do sympathise x

jacks365 · 21/08/2013 18:49

They can't sneak back in if you lock your door.

soverylucky · 21/08/2013 18:50

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gertrudetrain · 21/08/2013 18:50

Right, just heard one of the 10 year olds phone ring. It was his mum and she is picking them up at 7.30pm. I'm going to say something...

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gertrudetrain · 21/08/2013 18:51

Thanks everyone for giving me the assertiveness refresher.

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gertrudetrain · 21/08/2013 18:52

I can't lock the door on the 10 year olds jack I don't know where the parents are!

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YouStayClassySanDiego · 21/08/2013 18:52

Come back and update!

gordyslovesheep · 21/08/2013 18:52

good luck - you sound lovely but you deserve to come home from work and relax

gintastic · 21/08/2013 18:53

7.30?!? That's awful. Bet you she is annoyed when you haven't fed them... Get the phone number of the mum and tell her to come get them.

BramshawHill · 21/08/2013 18:55

If the mum phoned the kid, you can get her contact number off him. Give her a call, say you're going out now, she'll need to come get them! So incredibly rude of her

AdoraBell · 21/08/2013 18:56

Don't feed them. I can understand your concern because of the attempted abduction, but don't make them fell welcome and looked after by feeding them. Yes, I know that sounds mean, but if they go home starving the parents might just think twice about doing this again. If they are fed and happy etc they'll be back for dinner tomorrow. Not the children's fault at all, obviously.

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