You really are included in your own comment there Fanjo.
This issue doesn't even actually apply to me, but I have become engrossed in this thread, due to the way people are attempting to communicate with each other.
And the thing is, as an observer to this, with no direct involvement, and no crime committed, it's amazing to see that each side has very valid arguments, but both seem so intent on screaming the other down that everything is getting lost, and people are making incorrect assumptions because they are becoming blinkered to everything their than their own view.
I have seen a few posts stating that people with diabilities have felt invisible on this thread. I am equally sure concerned mums are feeling equally invisible.
You trap a lot more flies with honey than vinegar. Do you not think it'd be worthwhile for us all to get down off our high horses, me included, take a deep breath and try a slightly different approach.
For example:
Person not agreeing with mums using disabled toilet " Hi concerned mum. I see you have a new baby which is the most important thing in the world to you. I understand your need to protect and love baby. I appreciate you are concerned about (the very small, but equally real to you and obviously devastating were it to happen)chance of said baby being taken while out of your direct supervision if you were to leave it outside the cubicle while you went to the toilet. I understand that you just might not be a person who is able to pee or poop with the door open and if that's the case, then you aren't the only person in the world that feels like that. Look, its not always easy, but it really would be greatly appreciated, if you need the toilet, that you didn't block the disabled toilet when you need to go, as it can have a devastating effect on me / DD / DH / DH. I know you might not enjoy disturbing your baby to pick it up and take it into the cubicle with you when it's asleep, but he would be safe that way and it would enable me / DD / DH to be able to use the only facilities we are able to use in the timely manner we rely on. May I suggest you look into purchasing DropYourSwords new invention.
New mum "Hi. Thank you so much for not ripping me to pieces. I'm new to this and it seems that with everything I do, everyone thinks they have the right to tell me what to do, and I never seem to be able to do the right thing. Thank you for validating my new feelings as a mum. Yes, I'm super over protective, but it scares the hell out of me the very idea of losing my baby, even though I know its statistically an extremely small prospect. I apologise for not considering your needs also and I will ensure in future my toilet actions will not affect you / DD / DH. I will also make DropYourSword a multi billionaire with her new invetion as soon as I check out her (hastily scrabbled together) website.
Or, you know, we could carry on ripping strips out of each other.
So, to create a (toilet) world peace, I, DropYourSword have invented....the T-Pee! (patent pending).
The T-Pee is constructed from a retractable tent type material which can clip onto the sides of a public toilet door frame. You can spread the T-Pee around the back of your buggy/pram and clip onto the other side of the door. The creates a private space for you to pee and poop without being viewed, whilst maintaining constant supervision of your child. No longer will you have to perfect the art of the 30 second hover-piss - you can pee in luxurious, unhurried leisure. It will be coated with a special silver antibacterial coating to combat toilet bacterial nasties.
There will also be a T-Pee deluxe, which comes with a built in baby changer. Twin T-Pee expected early next year.
Or, can we just accept that mums - don't use the disabled toilets. And everyone - don't insult other mums for wanting to protect their children, even if you think the risk is laughable. It's really not that unreasonable.