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To find the blurred lines song offensive

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Winter123 · 14/08/2013 23:37

Here's an extract of the lyrics if you are lucky enough to have not been subjected to them...

Baby, it's in your nature
Just let me liberate you
You don't need no papers
That man is not your maker
And that's why I'm gon' take a
Good girl
I know you want it
I know you want it
I know you want it
You're a good girl

I'll give you something big enough to tear your ass in two

Nothin' like your last guy, he too square for you
He don't smack that ass and pull your hair like that
So I'm just watching and waitin'
For you to salute the true big pimpin'

Do it like it hurt, like it hurt
What you don't like work

I know it's a bit old now... But it still makes me so Angry

OP posts:
SPBisResisting · 18/08/2013 16:01

Whoever she is, he has a fucking nerve to tell her what she wants. Either he respects her, in which case she can make her own mind up, or he doesn't and is coercing her.
What on earth can "I know you want it" mean other than that?

SinisterSal · 18/08/2013 16:03

'You're the hottest bitch in this place'

SPBisResisting · 18/08/2013 16:03

"You the hottest bitch in this place"

But no, he never calls her a bitch. Everyone must be imagining that line Hmm

SPBisResisting · 18/08/2013 16:04

spooky SS. We both imagined it at the same time. Groupthink.,

SPBisResisting · 18/08/2013 16:05

oh and "Yeah, I had a bitch, but she ain't bad as you"

BinksToEnlightenment · 18/08/2013 16:09

Ha, I haven't been pouring over the lyrics to the same extent as everyone else. Ok, I'll give you that one.

But the other points stand. You don't disrespect a woman by proxy with sex.

SinisterSal · 18/08/2013 16:45

tell that to Robin Thicke - he seems to be giving it a damn good try.

And zing to poring over the lyrics, it was just on the radio. I heard it. That's all

ShakeAndVac · 18/08/2013 17:15

Nope, sorry, but can't get worked up and outraged by the lyrics. I hadn't even noticed the lyrics in such detail until they were pointed out on this thread!
People have been shrieking about disgusting lyrics forever. I myself used to run about singing "like a virgin, touch for the very first time" at about the age of 7.
I didn't have a bloomin' clue what I was on about. I just liked the song and loved Madonna.
Although any grown ups about at the time most probably had a face like this Hmm
Grin

Al0uise · 18/08/2013 17:24

An Ass isn't actually an anus you know.

Cultural differences are usually pandered to in here. Just not for the Americans I bet.

Al0uise · 18/08/2013 17:25

'You're the hottest bitch in this place'
That's a compliment.

Cultural innit.

Wasapea · 18/08/2013 17:28

Out of interest, those who are vehemently against the song, what sort of stuff do you listen to regularly?

ShakeAndVac · 18/08/2013 17:38

I can think of loads of pop songs with 'debatable' lyrics.
80's? Frankie Goes to Hollywood. Relax (when you wanna come)
90's? Sex on the Beach by (?!) I've forgotten, oops
Sweat - a'la la la long - loved that song. Only recently listened to it again for first time since school and was a bit Shock at the lyrics. You could interpret those lyrics to be about rape as well."girl I wanna make you sweat, sweat til you can't sweat no more - and if you cry cry, I'm gonna push it, push it some more"
Even at the age of 15 or 16 or whatever I was I never picked up on that!

Where would we stop with all the outrage? There'd be no pop songs left!

Wasapea · 18/08/2013 17:47

Couldn't agree more, Shake. As a feminist, unfortunately you need to pick your battles. I really don't think this is one. If you want to challenge the whole pop music industry, fine. I don't get why this is getting picked on more than other stuff.

TobyLerone · 18/08/2013 17:54

Isn't it "and if you cry out, I'm gonna push it some more"?

And in answer to your question, Wasapea, I don't listen to pop music. Neither does anyone in my house.

Wasapea · 18/08/2013 17:56

What do you listen to, Toby, if you don't mind me asking? Or do you not bother with music generally? Just interested.

TobyLerone · 18/08/2013 18:02

I love music. I listen to a huge mixture of stuff on my iPod. Not trying to come across as some sort of hipster, but if I named most of the bands I listen to, it's likely you wouldn't have heard of them. My DC and DH have similar musical tastes to mine. We never have chart radio on in the house or the car. I genuinely couldn't tell you the name of any song in the top 20 at the moment.

TobyLerone · 18/08/2013 18:04

And I absolutely don't listen to anything I find offensive, including songs such as the one in discussion. I asked DS (almost 14) what he thought of 'Blurred Lines' a month or so ago, when this subject last came up on MN. He'd never heard it, but he said "isn't that the rape one?".

Wasapea · 18/08/2013 18:11

Fair enough. I don't generally listen to the charts myself and DH and are are very keen on lots of different types of music, so I reckon I'll have heard of some. I don't think anyone is going to agree on whether or not it's about rape. Everyone has clearly made up their minds already.

Wasapea · 18/08/2013 18:12

I'd be willing to bet that there'll be something on your iPod that someone, somewhere would be offended by, though.

TobyLerone · 18/08/2013 18:14

Bet what you like. The contents of my iPod are not what is under discussion here.

Al0uise · 18/08/2013 18:16

Twenty Three Positions in A One Night Stand?

Cream - Gett on top, cream, don't you stop.

Turn your big ass round this way so I can work on that zipper baby, cos tonight, you're a star, and I'm the Big Dipper.

Poor Robin, TI & Pharell - they only wrote a song.

Wasapea · 18/08/2013 18:19

Sigh.

waterlego6064 · 18/08/2013 18:30

None of us can say whether or not the writer intended it to sound rapey, we can only give our own interpretations, can't we?

For me personally, some of the lyrics are creepy; the 'Good girl' refrain especially. I don't think I've ever been called a 'good girl' by a lover, thank God. To me that just implies a man with a certain agenda and a coercive nature.

Alisvolatpropiis · 18/08/2013 18:31

I find the term "rapey" really inappropriate.

ShakeAndVac · 18/08/2013 18:42

For me personally, some of the lyrics are creepy;

Where some may find the lyrics creepy or offensive, there'll be just as many who find them a turn on. Everyone's different. Smile