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To find the blurred lines song offensive

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Winter123 · 14/08/2013 23:37

Here's an extract of the lyrics if you are lucky enough to have not been subjected to them...

Baby, it's in your nature
Just let me liberate you
You don't need no papers
That man is not your maker
And that's why I'm gon' take a
Good girl
I know you want it
I know you want it
I know you want it
You're a good girl

I'll give you something big enough to tear your ass in two

Nothin' like your last guy, he too square for you
He don't smack that ass and pull your hair like that
So I'm just watching and waitin'
For you to salute the true big pimpin'

Do it like it hurt, like it hurt
What you don't like work

I know it's a bit old now... But it still makes me so Angry

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SuperiorCat · 15/08/2013 07:18

Vile song and dreadful video. Depressing that so many people think its acceptable

Snazzyenjoyingsummer · 15/08/2013 07:23

Nasty shit indeed. Plus he has said that he wanted the video to be as degrading to women as possible. Think this was his attempt to get famous after years of plugging away by shock tactics. Sadly it's worked but it's still pathetic and unpleasant.

TheOrchardKeeper · 15/08/2013 07:26

If it weren't for Mumsnet, I'd think I was a touchy feminist looking for things to complain about. So many people I know think it's fine. I actually despair Grin

phantomhairpuller · 15/08/2013 07:27

Another of these threads?! Really?!

I think it's a bloody great song Grin

SoupDragon · 15/08/2013 07:29

This again? Where have you been for the last few months?

HairyGrotter · 15/08/2013 07:40

I don't listen to mainstream radio (well I listen to Kerrang! And talk radio if I'm cooking...not a hipster ha) as I don't want DD to listen to shit. I was in the car with DP a few weeks back and heard this song for the first time, and was utterly shocked that it was even a hit!! Fucking dire message, vile vile and more vile.

I looked up the lyrics and it linked to the video...Jesus wept. Empowering my fucking arse, disgustingly misogynistic and it makes my skin crawl.

MoreThanWords · 15/08/2013 07:41

The music was used as backing to something on a kids tv channel (CBBC? Cbeebies?) the other day - made me cringe in light of what the lyrics are.

Cheeseatmidnight · 15/08/2013 07:45

Completely agree! I love the tune though so I still listen to it and ignore the lyrics. Hypocritical I know.

NewAtThisMalarky · 15/08/2013 07:49

m.youtube.com/watch?v=tKfwCjgiodg&desktop_uri=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DtKfwCjgiodg This role reverse parody however is fantastic

SanityClause · 15/08/2013 07:49

I always turn it off when it comes on.

One good thing is that DD1 who is 14 hates it as well. So at least I know that she gets that there are no "blurred lines".

AlpacaLunchYoubringyourbooster · 15/08/2013 08:01

The "rap" part isn't played on radio fwiw, it doesn't mean the rest of the song isn't Hmm but i did want to point that out.

SinisterBuggyMonth · 15/08/2013 08:42

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SPBisResisting · 15/08/2013 08:45

"DebK2012 Thu 15-Aug-13 03:42:38

It's a song.... Robin Thicke is a very nice man"

In what way is a man who makes money from a song about rape a very nice man? Explain that one to me

AlpacaLunchYoubringyourbooster · 15/08/2013 08:48

"what rhymes with hug me"
"Robin Thicke's so ugly"
?
Grin

AlpacaLunchYoubringyourbooster · 15/08/2013 08:49

shake yer rump [waves a steak]

Wuxiapian · 15/08/2013 08:51

It's foul.

It was used regularly on a segment of This Morning a few weeks back.

ArgyMargy · 15/08/2013 08:52

NewAtThis - thank you!! Grin

SofiaVagueara · 15/08/2013 09:23

The uncut video is horrible. It's basically a load of naked women being ogled by fully clothed men. I am not somebody who is always keen to be offended by something but I found that video really uncomfortable to watch.

The thing about that song that makes me go hmm, is that he's trying to convince a women in a relationship to sleep with him, in a really sleazy way.

But he's been married for 10 years. And he's adamant the song is about his wife who presumably hasn't been in a relationship with someone else for over 10 years presumably. So it's obviously not about her. His wife is some kind of film star. It must be a bit humiliating for her, her husband singing a song which is blatantly about convincing a woman who's obviously not her to sleep with him.

And he has that line about 'something so big' and in the video there are balloons spelling out 'Robin Thicke has got a big dick'. It always makes me think the lady doth protest too much and there must be something distinctly chipolata like flapping round his undercarriage.

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Winter123 · 15/08/2013 09:31

Apologies TeamEdward I wasn't aware that there had been an earlier thread Smile

Glad to see from the responses that I'm not going mad! It is distasteful and the video is awful. I can't comprehend how this is empowering to women?! Can anyone explain how he could think that? Any women here feel empowered by a man wanting to tear their ass in two?!

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ageofgrandillusion · 15/08/2013 09:34

Surely the problem is the mainstream acceptance of - and reluctance to really challenge and bring to account - black rap/gangsta culture, so much of which is simply misogynistic crap. This kind of drivel has been polluting the airwaves for years, so much so that it has now seeped into the mainstream consciousness, often with people barely batting an eye lid. It's vile.

HarderToKidnap · 15/08/2013 09:38

The song objectifies women, no doubt.

But I don't get at all that its about rape.

RightsaidFreud · 15/08/2013 09:42

I don't understand how this song is any different to a whole bunch of other songs out there. Look up the lyrics to Blues 'too close'. No one got so offended by those lyrics. But they are pretty bad! Esp when I think back as a kid everyone used to sing them.

ExcuseTypos · 15/08/2013 09:44

I love the tune but hate the lyrics.

However I have to say if you think this video is awful you really dont know what's going on on TV channel near you.

In this one the women are topless with flat shoes on and are just walking around. I'm not saying that's acceptable however some of the bumping, grinding and nakedness that goes on in other videos makes this one very mild in comparison.

We need some kind of campaign to stop this shit.

EasterHoliday · 15/08/2013 09:48

it's vile. However NapaCab please don't be under the illusion that any record company or music publisher has the ability to censor its artists. As long as songs aren't defamatory or criminally obscene, they get what they're delivered.
I did applaud Ken Bruce's regular on air muttering of complaints at being required to play it, and also "walks like Rihanna".

EasterHoliday · 15/08/2013 09:51

ExcuseTypos there is such a campaign and MN are involved in it. There's a voluntary code of rating videos so that broadcast times are limited, but it's then up to parents to implement it in terms of blocking viewing of x rated / monitoring viewing times - & of course I'm not sure how that's meant to work with Vevo / YouTube (maybe there are blocking controls on the sites?). ALl that came from a Rihanna video that was equally offensive in its misandry