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To find the blurred lines song offensive

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Winter123 · 14/08/2013 23:37

Here's an extract of the lyrics if you are lucky enough to have not been subjected to them...

Baby, it's in your nature
Just let me liberate you
You don't need no papers
That man is not your maker
And that's why I'm gon' take a
Good girl
I know you want it
I know you want it
I know you want it
You're a good girl

I'll give you something big enough to tear your ass in two

Nothin' like your last guy, he too square for you
He don't smack that ass and pull your hair like that
So I'm just watching and waitin'
For you to salute the true big pimpin'

Do it like it hurt, like it hurt
What you don't like work

I know it's a bit old now... But it still makes me so Angry

OP posts:
BeCool · 17/08/2013 22:37

You're kids will be wanting one for Xmas

Wasapea · 17/08/2013 22:37

That's okay, Buttercup. You are all coming across wonderfully Smile

BeCool · 17/08/2013 22:38

Actually I wanted one - but I will never by one because of the song.
Other Pill like things are available

limitedperiodonly · 17/08/2013 22:38

It advertises some kind of radio-thing aimed at young women.

It's probably not a radio. It's probably a space-ship or something.

I just think it's a radio because I'm middle-aged and square and have a virgin anus.

Somebody who knows much better than me will probably be along to explain but you'll have to wait because it might be past her bedtime.

BeCool · 17/08/2013 22:41
Cerubina · 17/08/2013 22:42

For me the thing that initially made my jaw drop was the women in the video looking so bovine. They look dead behind the eyes, vacant, bored, utterly passive - and the impression is reinforced by the men brushing their hair (wtf) and singing in their faces. So girls will assume that's how you behave with boys, boys will assume attractive girls sit around while men holler grim stuff at them, and presumably woe betide any girl who ventures an opinion or doesn't want to be pawed at - she'll be an ugly lesbian or something.

It's just such a depressing image of the relationship between men (in control) and women (waiting to be told what to do). Ugh.

SPBisResisting · 17/08/2013 22:46

Was if you want to drop the sarcasm and explain your position we are sll listening

Mintyy · 17/08/2013 22:46

Grin limited

I too have a virgin anus but that's no doubt my fault and also why I just don't get it. That and my great age of course.

CorrineFoxworth · 17/08/2013 22:50

Cerubina it isn't new though. Robert Palmer's addicted to love video showed drones of women BUT that was the eighties and they weren't treated as badly. We are definitely going backwards.

BeCool · 17/08/2013 22:55

cerubia I agree.

It's really illustrated if you watch the parody here

It's a role reversal, but all the participants re really engaged, and freely participating, and actually having fun. If Thicke really wanted to be funny, he should have done something like the parody.

BinksToEnlightenment · 17/08/2013 23:05

Damn it! I did not realise that not having anal sex makes you superior to people who do have anal sex. I am such a klutz!

Although the song I must have listened to beforehand so I wanted to do it escapes my mind...

SinisterBuggyMonth · 17/08/2013 23:47

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Bunnygotwhacked · 18/08/2013 09:17

It is early and i've not been long awake so may word this wrong.
The arse line in the song is abuse for those saying well he doesn't really mean it does he? does that make the fact that he allowed it in his song all ok?
Usually I'm very open minded when it comes to music i am the last person you would expect to go all "daily "fail" over a song but it all comes back to allowed threats and abuse withing society and is tied to all the porn available the threats made towards women online the whole "tits or GTFO" thing most women on xbox live have been subjected to. The twitter side of thing. Women allowing it in the songs circumstances does in fact blur the lines with regards to peoples attitudes towards women sure i can listen to misogynistic lyrics here i can repeat them there.

Sorry to go a bit earth goddess here.
But since records began and probably before hand society have used all sorts to demean women and keep them under control religion, considering them as property, controlling the way they dress all through history accusations of witchcraft Legal domestic abuse and brute strength to name a few now they use the sex object women are split into two groups the sexy and the not. Women in the second group are expected to sort themselves out or stay hidden as it isn't want people want to see. The ones in the first group are fine as long as they shag anyone that wants to otherwise they are labled "bitch"

That went a bit away from the subject here but i think what i am trying to say is the song is a symptom of the much bigger issue and by women accepting it and saying it's fine your making it much easier for the bigger issue to grow unnoticed
Sorry that was very long going to have coffee now

SPBisResisting · 18/08/2013 09:57

I think I know wjat you're saying and actually the bit about sorting women into attractive and not is very true. Self worth depends on how conventionally attractive you are and how many men (attractive/not/young/old/Peter Stringfellow) would want to have sex with you. This seemed to start in the media and there are plenty of men who don't hold that view but it is becoming more mainstream.

BeCool · 18/08/2013 11:19

but regardless of any views you may (or may not) have, most people are humming along to this song at some point today - on the radio, watching TV, shopping.

which is why its so insidious.

BinksToEnlightenment · 18/08/2013 13:39

Mucky songs are not a new invention though. They exist because people want to listen to them.

PRwench · 18/08/2013 13:54

I don't see this song as rapey, I see it as it being ok to women to accept themselves as sexual beings and not to feel repressed.

Saying it's a feminist song is a bit of a stretch but the message is surely don't be controlled or pigeonholed by society expecting well behaved females but to be opened about yourself as a sexual being?

Just my take on it!

PAsSweetOrangeLurve · 18/08/2013 14:52

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BinksToEnlightenment · 18/08/2013 15:41

To be brutally honesty, yes it does mean that girls can parade around in their underwear if they want to. And if they tell you they want to, you don't tilt your head at them like they're thick. It's not up to you what other girls choose to find sexually acceptable.

SinisterSal · 18/08/2013 15:44

It's nothing to do with a woman accepting herself as anything.

It's not even anything to do with a man accepting a woman on her own terms.

It's about a guy assessing a hot bitch and wanting to get nasty and rip her ass in two, because that's what she must want.

TobyLerone · 18/08/2013 15:49

To be brutally honesty, yes it does mean that girls can parade around in their underwear if they want to. And if they tell you they want to, you don't tilt your head at them like they're thick. It's not up to you what other girls choose to find sexually acceptable.

...Says everyone who still thinks that Page 3 is ok.

BinksToEnlightenment · 18/08/2013 15:51

I didn't realise you had the definitive interpretation there. What makes yours right and ours wrong, out of interest?

SinisterSal · 18/08/2013 15:52

Me?

Er...because that's what said, straight out?
It's not Shakespeare is it? We don't need Cliff notes to 'interpret' it

BinksToEnlightenment · 18/08/2013 15:58

Couple of points. No one called anyone a bitch. There are plenty of songs out there where women are called bitches, but this isn't one of them. Having anal or hard sex with a woman does not mean that you disrespect her. Being a woman and wanting hard or anal sex does not mean that you disrespect yourself.

My interpretation is that it's a man saying in no uncertain terms that he will be a better lover. At no point does he state that he is prepared to make it a rape in order to prove it.

MrsTerryPratchett · 18/08/2013 15:59

"To be brutally honesty, yes it does mean that girls can parade around in their underwear if they want to." Which is why I like Jessie J who wears crazy clothes and grabs her crotch if she wants.

Not the same as this case where women are being told what they want (to have their arse split in two, be slapped and have their hair pulled) and paid to wear nothing and look like that while fully clothed men are the ones with the power, talent and control.