AIBU to want to try and work my sister's hen party around breast feeding my 4 1/2 month old baby?

[PodeTheBogeySlayer]

Supposed to be going to my sister's hen party this weekend but DH has basically received an email from soon to be BIL saying I shouldn't bf while there because it will interfere with the day.

The hen do is minimum 2 hours away from where I live and his wonderful suggestions were to:
A) go but leave every time DS2 needs feeding
B) go just for lunch and then leave
C) not go
D) just travel up Sunday to see them (when they'll all be hungover...!?)

The Hen Do plan was to spend all day in a hotel with pamper session in suite and various games, then out for dinner and drinks. DH was going to travel up and spend the day with DS1, take DS2 in between feeds and basically spend the evening in a hotel room with two sleeping boys. We've come to the decision that there is only one option. Now working out what to do with our weekend...

AWBU?

Way to win round someone who already thinks some women are a tad over-zealous, mynameis

FFS.

I normally stay out of breast feeding debates but that last comment of yours mynameismskane was very spiteful!

Hmmm, I also assumed that op wouldn't actually feed in the spa itself, but meet dh in a separate part of the hotel for half an hour or so each time the baby needed a feed. To be honest, I doubt a baby or toddler would be allowed in a spa - certainly none of the spa hotels I have been to allow children. But if she is popping out to feed the baby I really can't see the problem - all of the group will be popping in and out anyway to have treatments.

I wasn't talking about you paperclip. Of course some people cannot bf. I am involved in bf groups etc and aside from people who cannot - the majority of women who stop bf, do so because they didn't persevere. I have worked with many many women in my work and this is the truth. But again, I am not talking about women who cannot for medical reasons etc, and to assume I am is just daft. So many women have such a massive chip on their shoulder they cannot accept that in the majority of cases, Breastfeeding takes time and perseverance to establish.

If that's the way you want to see it that's up to you. It's still the truth. People just can't handle the truth.

What maja said ^^

Oh and regarding the chip on some peoples shoulders, I breastfed (still do) and am a peer supporter. Doesnt make me behave like a judgemental bitch though.

Then I'm afraid that in my honest opinion you should not be working with bf mothers. You've just brushed my feelings aside as 'daft' despite me explaining that i almost had a breakdown over it.

Despite your experience / expertise you come across as judgmental and patronizing. Not the qualities i would look for in a 'supporter'

I think its you that is having trouble handling the truth here.

Where is OP? I'm dying to know what she's goin to so!
I have organised my best friend's hen party 4 hours from my home next weekend.
I'm ebf and dd reluctantly takes bottles after months of expressing and giving bottles daily of ebm.
It's been a massive struggle but we've had this goal in mind for months.
I'm planning on expressing regularly over the weekend. Whilst I think I'll miss dd SO much, I'm really looking forward to letting my hair down, enjoying a few drinks without parenting reaponsibility.

I considered taking dh and dd with me, but thought all or nothing!

Hope all works out OP talk to your sister!
Out of interest, are babies welcome at the wedding?

Well you are the ones swearing and spitting at me for pointing out that the majority of people who stop bf early on do so because they don't want to persevere through how hard it is. I'm very happy with how I help people bf actually and have supported and helped many and have also observed many who give up because it is hard and that is up to them.

Ill leave you all to your swearing and name calling as it looks like it makes you feel better! Shame for you it doesn't affect me.

"I bet with all the money I have that it wasn't that you couldn't bf, but rather you didn't persevere"

is not the same as

"pointing out that the majority of people who stop bf early on do so because they don't want to persevere"

One is an attack on a person, the other a general observation.

Hth.

Anyway...

I reckon the OP is on the phone to her sister for a veeeery long conversation.

Ahem

Yo, olivia-blad!

I am just confused why a bloke is getting involved in a hen do...

Gosh imagine starting a Breastfeeding meets Bridezilla's Groom thread and then shooting though? curious!

I don't think YABU to think he's being an absolute arse but if I were in your position I would express and leave the kids at home with OH, so we could all enjoy a rare day and evening out.

But it's not that easy to say express and leave the baby at home. Op, were you planning on popping out to the baby for feeding? But even if baby was brought to you, what harm is there? This is an important time for baby and mum and that's most important.

Actually given that it's someone else's Hen do, the mum and baby are not the most important thing at all.