To not know what I supposedly did wrong here?

[LackingEnergy]

Yesterday as a huge favour to my Dsis we looked after our Dniece (8) and Dnephew (5) for the day at very short notice.

They had breakfast with us since they arrived at 7am - Toast with honey

We went to the park for a few hours

We made cupcakes and Dniece and Dnephew decorated them (took some home for mum, dad and them to eat later and ate one while they were here)

Had lunch - A sandwich, slices of pepper, cucumber, carrot and tomatoes and some pringles

Had a ride on the ponies (Dsis expects this to happen as she uses me as a free instructor and it helps keep the weight off the ponies - they came with all their riding gear)

Did some drawings. Some went on our fridge the rest were taken home

Took the dogs for a walk and had another play at the park

Had tea - Homemade pizza and homemade wedges followed by slices of banana, apple, pear, grapes and a chocolate mousse pot to dip them in

Watched UP

Dsis picked them up at 8pm two hours later than she was meant to, they were more than ready for bed. She asked what they'd had to eat and wasn't happy with the above. She also wasn't happy that they were so tired. I'm not sure why?

For a very last minute thing with just me and three children from 8-6 I think we packed a lot of fun things in

Needs a reply of this sort I think.

It is difficult when you're a kid
When your mummy for one day needs rid.
But what I did for free
Made them glad as can be
And it saved you some two hundred quid.

Seriously though if anyone treated me like this I would go absolutely batshit bonkers and then break off diplomatic relations pending a grovelling apology.

I'm guessing its the other way, she saw you did a great job looking after them, gave them healthy food (wtf is going on with people complaining its bad food?) as opposed to nuggets etc, and she is feeling guilty that she cant/doesnt go to that effort and lashing out at you??

Adding my two to your chiildminding list too

If you looked after my children and did that with them all day I would be delighted and extremely grateful.

Your food sounds lovely.

I'd use your childminding services in a heart beat!

Note that the things suggested for the yummy picnic/you eating out, are premade options...

It is difficult when you're a kid
When your mummy for one day needs rid.
But what I did for free
Made them glad as can be
And it saved you some two hundred quid.

Love it :)

Can I make a teeny suggestion for Saturday? Something good and glittery to go home with them if possible still sticky, and perhaps icecream cones for the drive home.

^ hell yeah! All fine, great and you are a STAR for doing it. As for running YOUR choices past her for the coming Saturday pull the other one it has bells on it!

You know what you are doing, its safe, enjoyable and healthy - crack on

Is she one of those people who spends all day indoors preparing food?

Shes not only using you as a free riding instructor, is she?

Don't run your menu or plans by her for approval.

If she's going to be uptight about it then she needs to either look after them herself regardless of work or other commitments, or provide the food she wants them to eat. Food ready to be eaten rather than instructions as to what you should be cooking for them.

There was nothing wrong with what you fed them at all.

Tell her what you will be cooking on Sarurday and, in a very kind and concerned tone of voice, that you won't be offended if she wants to send the children with a packed lunch because she's not happy with the menu.

Will you have mine for the day? Tomorrow? Is that too short notice? Or Monday?

They're not diabetic or food intolerant or something are they?

Do you want to adopt me as a sister instead? I wish my DC had an auntie like you!

Your sister sounds very ungrateful.

I'm lucky enough to have grandad minding my children two days a week, the house is a tip, the food is all prepared and ready to go in the oven for everyone and I'm delirious with gratitude that he minds and loves our crew (and we pay him of course!). You are very generous op, I think your dsis needs a reality check! Disclaimer; I may be overreacting due to PMT but still!

OP, your sister has appalling manners!

If someone kindly looks after your DC at short notice (hell at any notice) then it behoves you to thank them sweetly and sincerely whatever they fed them, and however they entertained them!

You are very forgiving to be so obliging again (though you and the children seem to have had a great time). All agog to see what the problem actually was ......

scotch eggs, mini sausage rolls, cakes,

That's what she was expecting, yet she's pitching a fit about your much healthier menu?

YANBU at all (and my 2 wouldn't mind visiting for a similar day - 6 and 10yo and generally very well behaved).

Right, Lacking, my four are on a plane over to you right now. I don't need them back any time soon.

Don't run the menu by her, unless you say to bring their own food if it doesn't suit.

She feeds them turkey aeroplanes but thinks you should prepare (and fund) off the cuff yummy picnics?!

Maybe she should give you the ££ she has saved by using no paid childcare this week! 2x £25 a day would pay for a lot of yummy food.

No, of course you are not bring unreasonable in being cross. What I don't understand Is why you haven't said anything and why you are bending over backwards to accommodate her rudeness?!! It makes no sense?!

Most important question:

Are you in Wales / Bristol?

Could you Estyn Register and take childcare vouchers please?!

Saturdays plan

Arrive at 9

Walk the dogs to the park and have a play

Have a snack if needed - couple of biscuits/fruit and some milk

Go swimming

Have lunch - Homemade chicken goujons, veg slices and some slimming world healthy chips

Go riding

Chalk drawing on the patio/other fun things to do in the garden/pick some fruit

Tea - Cheese and ham sandwiches or boiled egg and soldiers. Fruit slices and yoghurt for pudding

Messy glitter, glue, sweet wrappers etc play

Cartoons (and a snack if needed)

Home time

My boys (three and 9 months) need an aunty (we've been adopting family to make up for the lack of one)

For a day like that I'd have adored you forever as a kid. your sis is ungrateful. Adopt us instead!

Yeah, I'd run choices by her for Saturday too- My Way or the High Way?

Why would you run your menu past her when she has been so breathtakingly rude?! It makes you look like a doormat.

Even if you'd fed them KFC all day it wouldn't hurt just for once and any parent with any sense would suck it up given the massive favour you've done them.

I don't actually believe anyone would be such a doormat?! Why complain about what she's said but then open yourself up on exactly the same way do she will do it again??!