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To not know what I supposedly did wrong here?

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LackingEnergy · 08/08/2013 16:12

Yesterday as a huge favour to my Dsis we looked after our Dniece (8) and Dnephew (5) for the day at very short notice.

They had breakfast with us since they arrived at 7am - Toast with honey

We went to the park for a few hours

We made cupcakes and Dniece and Dnephew decorated them (took some home for mum, dad and them to eat later and ate one while they were here)

Had lunch - A sandwich, slices of pepper, cucumber, carrot and tomatoes and some pringles

Had a ride on the ponies (Dsis expects this to happen as she uses me as a free instructor and it helps keep the weight off the ponies - they came with all their riding gear)

Did some drawings. Some went on our fridge the rest were taken home

Took the dogs for a walk and had another play at the park

Had tea - Homemade pizza and homemade wedges followed by slices of banana, apple, pear, grapes and a chocolate mousse pot to dip them in

Watched UP

Dsis picked them up at 8pm two hours later than she was meant to, they were more than ready for bed. She asked what they'd had to eat and wasn't happy with the above. She also wasn't happy that they were so tired. I'm not sure why?

For a very last minute thing with just me and three children from 8-6 I think we packed a lot of fun things in

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LackingEnergy · 08/08/2013 17:01

I'm glad it's not just me who thinks that's fine food for an active day :)

Dsis is expecting our parents to have the dc 2-3 days a week and her MiL to have them 1-2 days until she can sort out her childcare.

Sister expected us to have a picnic with lots of yummy picnic foods (scotch eggs, mini sausage rolls, cakes, homemade coleslaw, sandwiches, fruit and veg etc) or to take them out to eat. Neither of which would have been as healthy Confused

We're having them again on Saturday. Will run my activity plan and menu choices by her before I do the shop tomorrow. I'm thinking homemade beef burgers in homemade bread rolls for tea after we've been swimming :)

Never thought I'd have so much fun as a SAHM

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DameDeepRedBetty · 08/08/2013 17:01

dtds (age 14) are offering to help with the ponies and the smaller children in exchange for homemade pizza (and a go on the ponies later)

kinkyfuckery · 08/08/2013 17:02

Do you think maybe they were complaining of being hungry?

What they ate with you would be more than enough for my sparrows, but my friends kids would be starving after that and would have been looking for some snacks in between?

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 08/08/2013 17:02

God what a mare! I had my DDs mate over today, took them out for lunch and to the river....they've eaten SHITE all day long. Nuggets, pizza, chocolate, crisps and juice. I don't care! Theyr'e happy and I'm busy!

Sparklysilversequins · 08/08/2013 17:03

Run your menu choices past her? Shock

I'd tell her like it or lump it, she sounds like a complete PITA!

GoldenHares · 08/08/2013 17:03

Sounds to me like you gave her children a really, really lovely day.

You fed them well.

I'm sorry that she wasn't grateful.

You deserved a big thank you.

Thumbwitch · 08/08/2013 17:03

You're too nice. I'd actually tell her to provide her own food for them if what you're doing is so substandard (It's not, by the way, she's a loon).

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 08/08/2013 17:04

Kinky I thought that too...my DDs friend eats like a bloody geezer! I'm not used to it and can't believe what she can put away....mine would also be happy with what OP fed them but some DC eat a lot more.

Cravingdairy · 08/08/2013 17:04

She expected you to make coleslaw??? She has completely lost touch with reality. You sound like a fab auntie!

emuloc · 08/08/2013 17:06

Will you take mine for a few hours you sound like a great Aunt! I do not understand what your sister wanted tbh she should of been gratefull

flowery · 08/08/2013 17:06

If your sister is moaning after you've done her such a huge favour why on earth are you having them again on Saturday? Confused

EarlyIntheMorning · 08/08/2013 17:06

You've done absolutely nothing wrong and your sister owes you a big apology

maja00 · 08/08/2013 17:11

If my sister looked after DS for the day at short notice, I would just be grateful that she returned him in one piece at the end of the day - would not care if he'd eaten crisps and watched TV all day!

I think your food sounds absolutely fine for active children, and can't believe some people are calling it junk or crap Shock

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 08/08/2013 17:11

LackingEnergy first of all... you are anything but! (lacking in energy, I mean)

Am I right in thinking that you don't have DCs of your own? In that case it's even more impressive. I would be absolutely delighted if anyone treated my DDs to a lovely day and lovely food like that.

Your "D"Sis is a cheeky mare and owes you an apology I think.

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 08/08/2013 17:12
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LackingEnergy · 08/08/2013 17:14

To be honest I wouldn't mind looking after them in the week provided my choices weren't criticized.

Do you think maybe they were complaining of being hungry?

No, they know they can ask for and have a snack if they're hungry. They're not shy about asking if they are.

They ate all their fruit and veg, not sure if they do at home but they go to town on it here.

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ClartyCarol · 08/08/2013 17:14

She expected you do a picnic. She can shove her expectations up her arse, cheeky mare. You're providing free quality (my dc would love to go on the ponies etc) childcare for her and she's moaning???

Seriously, if she complains again then I'd tell her to get stuffed with a turkey aeroplane.

Cheeriosfortotoro · 08/08/2013 17:14

you sound a great aunty! kids sound like they had a fab time as did you. cant see the problem. i cant wait til my nieces are older (newborns) they can hang out at mine with dd and me and do similar Smile i'd just ignore her. she might be embaressed now about what she said and hopefully appologise?

froubylou · 08/08/2013 17:17

Can I send my DD please. And ponies and the dog?

Ask her to provide the food for them next time. And alsodrop her an with linlinks to loclocal childcare providers to help her along with her permanent solution to her childcare issues.

Seriously tell her to feck orf.

Katisha · 08/08/2013 17:19

Why are you being so subservient? Is this the usual dynamic? She wants you to have them all day at short notice and you are supposed to suddenly magic up a "yummy picnic"???

Run your activities and menu plans past her? Seriously?

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LackingEnergy · 08/08/2013 17:19

If your sister is moaning after you've done her such a huge favour why on earth are you having them again on Saturday?

Saturday was already arranged :)

Am I right in thinking that you don't have DCs of your own?

W have an almost 2 year old :)

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SarahAndFuck · 08/08/2013 17:22

If Dsis wants a picnic with yummy picnic foods at short notice, Dsis should bring said picnic with her, with enough food for all of you, when Dsis turns up at short notice demanding free childcare and pony rides for her two children.

She's not getting married soon is she OP? And having trouble finding some poor friend to decorate the venue?

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LackingEnergy · 08/08/2013 17:23

Katisha she's very easily stressed and stress isn't good for her so if I can help I will. Would prefer to be thanked instead of criticized but her dc had a good day so I'm happy

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