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To not know what I supposedly did wrong here?

311 replies

LackingEnergy · 08/08/2013 16:12

Yesterday as a huge favour to my Dsis we looked after our Dniece (8) and Dnephew (5) for the day at very short notice.

They had breakfast with us since they arrived at 7am - Toast with honey

We went to the park for a few hours

We made cupcakes and Dniece and Dnephew decorated them (took some home for mum, dad and them to eat later and ate one while they were here)

Had lunch - A sandwich, slices of pepper, cucumber, carrot and tomatoes and some pringles

Had a ride on the ponies (Dsis expects this to happen as she uses me as a free instructor and it helps keep the weight off the ponies - they came with all their riding gear)

Did some drawings. Some went on our fridge the rest were taken home

Took the dogs for a walk and had another play at the park

Had tea - Homemade pizza and homemade wedges followed by slices of banana, apple, pear, grapes and a chocolate mousse pot to dip them in

Watched UP

Dsis picked them up at 8pm two hours later than she was meant to, they were more than ready for bed. She asked what they'd had to eat and wasn't happy with the above. She also wasn't happy that they were so tired. I'm not sure why?

For a very last minute thing with just me and three children from 8-6 I think we packed a lot of fun things in

OP posts:
somewheresomehow · 08/08/2013 16:39

maybe she is jealous of what you did for her kids because she never does stuff with them/for them iyswim
dont worry about the food it sounds great and shes an ungrateful prat

MrsTerryPratchett · 08/08/2013 16:40

If they normally eat turkey airplanes and chicken nuggets, I am at a loss as to why she is worried about what you gave them.

BTW pizza doesn't bother me in the slightest. The sugar would at home every day but the rules are somewhat suspended when you have a treat day with family. My DF gives DD a chocolate brownie every time he sees DD. It is one of the joys of his life seeing her shove it in in one go enjoy it.

DoItTooJulia · 08/08/2013 16:40

So, she sent them with riding gear, but no food? Then moaned that they were tired and hadn't eaten well?

Some people!

Yorkieaddict · 08/08/2013 16:41

You are their aunt, not a childminder. What you fed them sounds fine to me, but you would have been quite within your rights to serve them a load of utter rubbish given that you had them at such short notice! Your sister does sound like a bit of an arse!

Scholes34 · 08/08/2013 16:41

But don't Aunties exist to totally give neices and nephews everything and anything denied to them by their parents? DS2 is currently staying for a few days with my brother and his family and I'm hoping he'll be having a similar good time - though they don't have any ponies.

Well done you!

farewellfigure · 08/08/2013 16:41

How did she word her ungratefulness out of interest? I'm just Shock at how on earth that came up in conversation. I would probably have burst into tears. You poor thing. You sound like a wonderful aunty and I bet your Dnieces love you to bits and had a fantastic day.

Mmmm pizza.

pudcat · 08/08/2013 16:42

She sounds very ungrateful. They had a lovely time and I really can't see anything wrong with the food. Lots of fruit and homemade things. Well done.

runningonwillpower · 08/08/2013 16:43

Seriously, you are their beloved auntie. Not their dietician.

Folks that are that bothered about their children's diet should NEVER ask someone to help out.

And for what it's worth, it sounded beyond ok to me for two children who were having a very active day.

cathpip · 08/08/2013 16:43

Tell her to f* off next time she needs emergency childcare. If my dc's had been so well looked after I would be thrilled, where do you live by the way??:)

TwoAndTwoEqualsChaos · 08/08/2013 16:44

Sending my four to join the queue ..... :D

Sounds like it was a lovely day with lots of fun and exercise and food entirely proportionate to being a treat day with a fun Aunt, at short notice and with lots of physical activity.

LEMisdisappointed · 08/08/2013 16:46

I am sending my DD over to you, i'll pick her up on monday - feed her what you like, but i do expect her to be able to have pony rides :)

Madratlady · 08/08/2013 16:47

You could ask her what exactly her problem is? That'd probably be the best way to find out.

Whatever it is that sounds like a lovely day and yummy home made food, so she's being unreasonable!

Birnamwood · 08/08/2013 16:48

Did you not cut the grapes in half op?

Shame on you

Wink
Blu · 08/08/2013 16:50

What exactly was she not happy about?

I can't work out what is wrong with home made pizza or why it should be a rare treat - bread dough, tomato, veg, some cheese...

Redlocks30 · 08/08/2013 16:50

What did you actually reply when she said this?

YouTheCat · 08/08/2013 16:51

Can I send my teen? Grin

She is low carbing though, so no pizza.

oscarwilde · 08/08/2013 16:53

"We don't have their usual foods chicken nuggets, turkey airplanes, oven chips, chocolate bars or mini cheddars" So she usually feeds them crap and was Hmm at what you provided? Some people.

Did they eat all the healthy stuff ? Or did she hear goodies, goodies and assume that they ignored the veggies as they presumably do at home

Send her a bill. £10 per hour is the going rate in my neck of the woods, plus NI and tax.

IvanaCake · 08/08/2013 16:53

You did her a massive favour and did absolutely nothing wrong.

If you'd had my 2 for that length of time I wouldn't give a flying Jeff what you fed them, and would collect them on time and present you with a massive bunch of flowers and a bottle of your favourite tipple.

LEMisdisappointed · 08/08/2013 16:53

come on, own up - you gave them fruit shoots didn't you??

MrsOakenshield · 08/08/2013 16:53

golly, can't believe people are saying you gave them crap! Sounds like lovely food with some treats thrown in - well, they're at auntie's house, aren't they? Aunties not allowed to give treats anymore? What miseries some people are. And anyway, what's the matter with honey, homemade cake and homemade pizza anyway? Because I'm right anal about healthy food but I'm struggling to see what the 'problem' is.

You sound lovely and gave your niece and nephew a great day. I would actually ask her outright what the problem was.

Babyroobs · 08/08/2013 16:55

Omg, that sounds like a fab day for them, especially at short notice and the food sounds really reasonable. You sound great to step in at such short notice.

bittootipsy · 08/08/2013 16:56

Has anyone done a schedule yet??

I work Mon-Wed. Any of those days would be fine.
Grin

LyraSilvertongue · 08/08/2013 16:56

I don't think what they ate was crap at all. There's a lot of fruit and veg in what the OP gave them. And homemade pizza isn't junk food. Essentially it's just bread, tomato sauce and cheese.
Your sister is very ungrateful. Next time she asks for a favour, say no.

FrussoHathor · 08/08/2013 16:57

You had them for 13 hours and she doesn't expect them to be tired?
She sent them with riding stuff?
She didn't like the sweet food?
You are free childcare and she's not happy.

I think next time you should do what the childminder did an say no.

Peacocklady · 08/08/2013 16:58

SIBU. I looked after dnephew yesterday at short notice for a few hours and DSIS just said thanks so much you're a life saver.