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To not know what I supposedly did wrong here?

311 replies

LackingEnergy · 08/08/2013 16:12

Yesterday as a huge favour to my Dsis we looked after our Dniece (8) and Dnephew (5) for the day at very short notice.

They had breakfast with us since they arrived at 7am - Toast with honey

We went to the park for a few hours

We made cupcakes and Dniece and Dnephew decorated them (took some home for mum, dad and them to eat later and ate one while they were here)

Had lunch - A sandwich, slices of pepper, cucumber, carrot and tomatoes and some pringles

Had a ride on the ponies (Dsis expects this to happen as she uses me as a free instructor and it helps keep the weight off the ponies - they came with all their riding gear)

Did some drawings. Some went on our fridge the rest were taken home

Took the dogs for a walk and had another play at the park

Had tea - Homemade pizza and homemade wedges followed by slices of banana, apple, pear, grapes and a chocolate mousse pot to dip them in

Watched UP

Dsis picked them up at 8pm two hours later than she was meant to, they were more than ready for bed. She asked what they'd had to eat and wasn't happy with the above. She also wasn't happy that they were so tired. I'm not sure why?

For a very last minute thing with just me and three children from 8-6 I think we packed a lot of fun things in

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Katisha · 08/08/2013 17:51

So you enable her rudeness and ungratefulness because she mustn't get stressed? Rod, own and back are words that spring to mind here.

zzzzz · 08/08/2013 17:53

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Lanceolate · 08/08/2013 17:56

There are parents who say things like 'My DC won't eat veg' and 'they don't like fruit' when what they actually mean is they don't give them those things. From what you've said her fuss is down to you feeding them Shock fruit and vegetables not covered in mayo first.

I know some DC genuinely won't eat stuff but have had to keep a straight face when SIL declares her PFB won't eat grapes or apple (I've seen you feed them to him, I've seem him eat them at ILs house) won't eat the crust of pizza (yes he does if you don't snatch it away from him before he gets a chance) and so on.

thornrose · 08/08/2013 17:57

Let them have a nap an hour before their normal bedtime, just so they aren't too tired!

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LackingEnergy · 08/08/2013 17:59

I'm going to give her the benefit of the doubt for yesterday. I'd be stressed too if my childcare suddenly stopped and I was left in the lurch though I'd be a lot more grateful :)

Saturday is her and her Dhs day out. It would be a shame if she behaved the same as yesterday. She honestly doesn't normally act like that which is why I was so confused

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captainmummy · 08/08/2013 18:02

I read this and my only thought was 'maybe they are low-carbers? Or eat Paleo? ' Cos there is a lot of carbs in your meals (not that it's wrong, just saying; my kids eat pretty much the same) and not much protein. ( And I Hate Hate Hate and detest low-fat, slimmingworld, weightwatchers shit with a passion. Now that really is CRAP and I wouldn't touch it with a bargepole. )

But then I saw the chicken nuggets and scotch eggs....

She is nuts. Maybe she saw what a good job you'd done of raising/feeding/entertaining her kids and just had to bring you down a peg of two?

Bit of shit thing to do really.

Good luck on saturday - I wouldn't run anything by her. I think you're doing great.

SingSongMummy · 08/08/2013 18:04

You sound amazing and have lovely things planned again. I'd be so delighted to have someone like you help out and I think I'd be offering money (or Wine) as thanks for all the effort!

thornrose · 08/08/2013 18:05

Genuine question, do young children "low carb"?

DiseasesOfTheSheep · 08/08/2013 18:06

I think you're brilliant, OP.

That's all Blush

blibblibs · 08/08/2013 18:07

I have my DNephew 13 staying this week and he didn't know if he liked chicken, pork, fish, gammon, corn on the cob, mushy peas, courgettes, strawberries, peaches & youghurts Confused

After putting them in his mouth (without chewing it seemed!) the only thing he liked was mushy peas!

I would be going a little bit crazy if he was staying for more than a week Smile

ChasedByBees · 08/08/2013 18:08

Well you sound amazing as an auntie. She should be buying flowers and being hugely grateful. I bet the kids loved it though even if she had a cats bum mouth.

ImperialBlether · 08/08/2013 18:09

You do need to set her straight, though. She might have been stressed at the thought of no childcare, but then you stepped in and saved the day. How dare she criticise what you did?

Don't go telling her about the food that'll be on offer on Saturday. Remind her in a very cold voice that you will serve age appropriate food and that's all she needs to know.

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Thepowerof3 · 08/08/2013 18:13

What exactly did she say to make you think she was annoyed. I'd be annoyed if my DCs were fed a chocolate covered moose as well toomuchtoask, a lot of crap indeed.

Groovee · 08/08/2013 18:14

If she has an issue with Saturday's meals, I'd tell her to provide food in future. She was incredibly rude.

gaggiagirl · 08/08/2013 18:17

Auntie lacking.....I want to ride on a pony!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ImperialBlether · 08/08/2013 18:17

I bet she ate her cupcake - theirs too, probably!

MoominsYonisAreScary · 08/08/2013 18:18

Yum think I will make some slimming world chips tonight (after weigh in)

Angloamerican · 08/08/2013 18:19

You sound like Mary Poppins! I'll put my two in the post to you tonight....!

tunnocksteacake · 08/08/2013 18:19

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3birthdaybunnies · 08/08/2013 18:20

It's obvious, you forgot the pombears.
But seriouly when can I drop my 3 off?

coldwater1 · 08/08/2013 18:21

She should think herself lucky she has a sister that will have her kids all day, feed them well and do activities with them. My family are useless and don't even bother with my kids, let alone look after them!

P.S. do you want another sister?! Lol

Goldmandra · 08/08/2013 18:21

If she complains again and she still wants you to help out with childcare suggest that she provides their meals in future.

That way the food is no longer an issue, she can relax and you and the children can enjoy each other's company with no stress.

candycoatedwaterdrops · 08/08/2013 18:24

captainmummy "And I Hate Hate Hate and detest low-fat, slimmingworld, weightwatchers shit with a passion. Now that really is CRAP and I wouldn't touch it with a bargepole."

Slimming world chips are just normal potatoes sliced into wedges and put in the oven!

Thepowerof3 · 08/08/2013 18:29

Slimming world chips are Uhmayzing