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Giving DS cake for breakfast

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ShadowMeltingInTheSun · 07/08/2013 07:26

DS woke up early this morning, so DH went downstairs with DS while I got washed.

When I got downstairs, I found that instead of say, changing DS's nappy or giving DS his milk or a normal breakfast, DH has given DS Battenburg cake for breakfast. I'm not sure how much DS ate, but there's half a Battenburg missing now.

Apparently this is okay because DS loves cake (he does love cake), and DH wanted to make DS happy.

Am I really being unreasonable to think that toddlers shouldn't be given cake for breakfast, regardless of how much they like eating cake?

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ShadowMeltingInTheSun · 07/08/2013 07:27

DS is not quite 2 yrs old btw.

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Fakebook · 07/08/2013 07:30

I gave DS (19m) cake for breakfast yesterday. It was ok though because he had a proper breakfast a few hours later. Just swap the snack time with breakfast and he'll get the same nutritional balance. No biggie. The only thing I'll disagree with is the fact it was battenburg...bleugh.

Amy106 · 07/08/2013 07:30

I would agree that there are better breakfast choices to be made than cake ( although cake really is yummy!)

Indith · 07/08/2013 07:31

YANBU, not at all. Cake for breakfast on birthdays is fine. Cake for breakfast a Christmas is fine. Stealing a bit of cake from mummy when mummy has cake for breakfast because she has had fuck all sleep and been awake since 3am and just bloody wants cake is fine in conjunction with a rather more normal breakfast but your dh is just being lazy and silly and reinforcing the idea that you can just eat what you like when you like.

aturtlenamedmack · 07/08/2013 07:32

It isn't the end of the world, just give him some proper brekkie later and ask him not to do it again.

moogy1a · 07/08/2013 07:32

When we stay in French b and b's in Normandy or Brittany we've often been presented with apple or chocolate cake for breakfast.
Does he normally have a completely sugar free breakfast?

natwebb79 · 07/08/2013 07:33

Is he always a bit of a Disney Dad? Grin

VinegarDrinker · 07/08/2013 07:33

As a one off I certainly wouldn't stress about it, but if your DH makes a habit of just giving DS whatever he wants, no questions asked, while leaving you to be mean/sensible Mummy, I wouldn't be impressed.

Poppanicolino · 07/08/2013 07:34

DD had cake for supper the other night (unintentionally). It was a one off. It really isn't the end of the world.

iloveweetos · 07/08/2013 07:36

DD had cake for breakfast after my birthday but had breakfast as normal a while later. So agree as above. Replace snack time with breakfast

IceNoSlice · 07/08/2013 07:36

Now I want cake for breakfast.

Cherriesarelovely · 07/08/2013 07:37

Occasionally it's really no big deal but if it was all the time it wouldn't be good especially if it is couched in "I just want him to be happy terms"....it suggests if YOU don't give him cake, you don't want him to be happy!!

Smartiepants79 · 07/08/2013 07:37

It's not the end of the world but it is pretty lazy parenting on your DH's part.
Children like ice cream, biscuits and chocolate buttons too but none of them are particularly good breakfast foods!
They 'like' doing all sorts of things that aren't good for them it's his job to decide if they do them or not.
I would worry less bout the cake and a bit more about DH's attitude to parenting.

DaddyPigsMistress · 07/08/2013 07:41

Cake for breakfast once in a while wont kill him

diddl · 07/08/2013 07:42

Did your son even ask to have cake for breakfast?

Was your husband being lazy?

And your husband wanted to make your son happy?

I'm not even sure what that means!

That he'll just let him have what he wants/never wants to say no/be the "bad" parent/thinks this is what he has to do to make his son love him??

We all want our kids to be happy-but it can't always happen all of the time!

moogy1a · 07/08/2013 07:53

Agree it depends how often it happens. Sometimes you do that sort of thing 'cos they just look so gorgeous you want to treat them and watch them enjoy themselves.

fluffyraggies · 07/08/2013 07:55

I thought ''he wanted to make him happy'' was really sweet! Grin

YouStayClassySanDiego · 07/08/2013 07:57

I'd have looked at dh and asked what he was thinking.

I'd be miffed.

fluffyraggies · 07/08/2013 08:09

But surely this is just a one off? Confused

OP hasn't said DH always feeds DS cake when he does the morning routine.

And if this is the first and only time OPs DH has ever taken his DS downstairs in the morning then that's even more [confusing]!

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ShadowMeltingInTheSun · 07/08/2013 08:10

The suggestions about giving DS breakfast at snack time are good.

Cake for breakfast isn't a regular thing, and I really don't want it to turn into one!

DS may well have asked for cake - it wouldn't be that unusual for him to try it on and ask for cake, biscuits and so on - but so long as no-one else is eating one in front of him, he's never seemed upset at being told that he's not getting one. So not getting cake probably wouldn't have made him unhappy at all....

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PearlyWhites · 07/08/2013 08:23

It's the op who is doing the lazy parenting, her dh went downstairs and fed their ds. Maybe wash later op after you have fed your ds or get up earlier if you are so concerned.

livinginwonderland · 07/08/2013 08:29

I had chocolate chip cookies for breakfast today and I'm 24!

Nothing wrong with it as an occasional treat.

blueberryboybait · 07/08/2013 08:32

My girls had ring donuts with sprinkles for breakfast, just so I could have 15 more minutes in bed - they were happy and I didn't have to get out of bed at 6am!

NoComet · 07/08/2013 08:34

DH's will feed DCs what ever is lying around for breakfast. When the DCs are older DHs will turn a blind eye to what they get themselves for breakfast.

Rice Crispies are banned in this house as DD2 puts 5 spoonfuls of sugar on them and DH doesn't tell her off.

She's 12, very slight and knows full well she shouldn't, but can't resist.

fluffyraggies · 07/08/2013 08:36

Well, i know you're only mulling this over OP, and not threatening divorce or anything Grin

Let it go and don't stress. Nice that your DH wanted to make him happy. We read so many stories of blokes that couldn't care less about their kids here ...

A bit of Battenburg is definitely 'small stuff' :)