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AIBU?

Giving DS cake for breakfast

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ShadowMeltingInTheSun · 07/08/2013 07:26

DS woke up early this morning, so DH went downstairs with DS while I got washed.

When I got downstairs, I found that instead of say, changing DS's nappy or giving DS his milk or a normal breakfast, DH has given DS Battenburg cake for breakfast. I'm not sure how much DS ate, but there's half a Battenburg missing now.

Apparently this is okay because DS loves cake (he does love cake), and DH wanted to make DS happy.

Am I really being unreasonable to think that toddlers shouldn't be given cake for breakfast, regardless of how much they like eating cake?

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FreudiansSlipper · 07/08/2013 09:09

really it's a one off what a drama over nothing. Parent gives in to child to make life a little easier and child enjoys it. really is it not something we have all done

some on here really need to relax a little

ds and I often have a cookie first thing

and read up on sugar content in many cereals these everyday are not a good thing cake every now and then is fine

LadyClariceCannockMonty · 07/08/2013 09:16

As long as that's not your DH's habitual parenting style, it's not a big deal. I'd be a bit worried if he did generally parent by giving treats, doing things to make your DS 'happy' etc though.

Pearly, you're having a laugh aren't you?

Fairy130389 · 07/08/2013 09:37

The thing is, it's not really about the cake, is it? Breakfast, when you're 2 is about setting you up for a morning, not setting you up on a sugar high ready to crash in an hour or so... It is also about forming good attitudes to food I think. Agree that as a one off it won't hurt but think stick to special occasions rather than 'he likes cake!'

hides wrapper from breakfast chocolate croissant.

Oh and pearly... Perhaps you would benefit from letting your oh do a morning tomorrow. Sleep deprivation can make you post some really ridiculous things. Lazy? Really?!

Emilythornesbff · 07/08/2013 09:40

Ok fairy but I think we might be forgiven for thinking it was about cake.
Given the op.
^.....giving DS cake for breakfast^

Out of interest. What would he usually have for breakfast?

Fairy130389 · 07/08/2013 09:50

Emily, I think I'm trying to deflect myself... My 6 week old has been awake since 5 all I can think about is a hefty (operative word) slice of anything. And that's after the croissant. Did I mention that building old eating habits is TEALLY important?!

Fairy130389 · 07/08/2013 09:51

Argghhh! REALLY important. See? Sleep deprivation.

Fairy130389 · 07/08/2013 09:51

Building GOOD eating habits! I give up.

MadBusLady · 07/08/2013 10:27

Emilythornesbff · 07/08/2013 13:40

Poor fairy. That early sleep deprivation is horrible.

badguider · 07/08/2013 13:45

cake for breakfast as a one-off - fine. whatever, imo.

father setting himself up as 'fun parent' and making mother be 'sensible parent' - not on.

so if it's the former fine, if it's a symptom of the latter then i see why you'd be pissed off.. i won't stand for being made into the 'baddie'

Xihha · 07/08/2013 14:29

Its a one of treat, i don't see why its an issue. My daughter had cake for breakfast last week because she's 4 and can reach the sides so she appeared in my room with it at 6am, she did bring me a slice too though so it was quite nice. I just made sure she had some proper breakfast later and we had a healthy lunch, she hasn't started demanding cake for every meal.

I'm assuming half the cakes gone because Daddy sat with DS and shared some cake, that's nice and children need a little treat with Dad for no reason every now and then, my dad and i used to sneak off for a cup of tea and a bacon roll from some greasy trailer in a carpark.

ShadowMeltingInTheSun · 07/08/2013 18:46

Emilythornesbff -

breakfast for DS would be usually along the lines of:

milk to drink and buttered toast or porridge, with a bit of fruit on the side.

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Fairy130389 · 07/08/2013 19:38

Emily, don't worry because I had a Krispy creme donut today so feeling much better now... Damn you cake thread!

ShadowMeltingInTheSun · 07/08/2013 19:45

Sorry Fairy

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Emilythornesbff · 07/08/2013 20:52

fairy yummy donut.

shadowmeltinginthesun oh I can see why you might be miffed. You normally give your DS a lovely breakfast. I gues everything is in the tone and context isn't it? It could have been a fun one- off - let it go thing, all good natured or a lazy, no respect for your good care and routine - don't bother asking me to do anything because I'll always take the easy way out thing.
Men!
Do you know which it was?

JodiLeighLeigh · 07/08/2013 21:48

All you people criticising the husband - guessing your parenting is always 100 % perfect and you never do anything for an easy life?

It's a bit of cake, not cocaine. Her husband should be able to make the 'treat decisions' just as much as her!

That said, if it was happening often, I'd have a word about dietary requirements !

cheeseandbiscuitsplease · 07/08/2013 22:21

My son always has a blueberry muffin for breakfast. And has even been known to have mcvities syrup cake. No big deal. He eats a balanced diet - just maybe in the wrong order ;)

AnnabelleLee · 07/08/2013 22:25

Pfft, cake is much the same nutrionally than many so called kids cereals, notreally a big deal unless its every day.

sameoldIggi · 07/08/2013 23:02

I think if you make breakfast nine times out if ten, then it's ok to sometimes give cake " for an easy life". If you make breakfast one time out of ten, you should make a decent breakfast.
Agree with pp, it is a bit Disney dad.

showtunesgirl · 07/08/2013 23:13

Just read this out to my DH, he said: so long as he's not being given an espresso and a cigarette like they do in Italy, it's fine.

showtunesgirl · 07/08/2013 23:14

I know that doesn't make sense, but I'm just saying what DH said verbatim.

AnnabelleLee · 07/08/2013 23:16

In Italy children eat biscuits and sweetened hot chocolate for colazione (breakfast). Cake wouldn't raise an eyebrow.

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stealthsquiggle · 07/08/2013 23:28

My DC have cake (homemade, generally uniced) for breakfast sometimes.

I am not saying it is ideal, and my DM is quietly appalled, but neither of them are natural born breakfast eaters (they will quite happily go through to 11am before it occurs to them than they haven't eaten) so TBH I will concede most things that get something into them before school. Homemade uniced cake is no worse than most cereals IMHO.

I am sure DD's teacher prefers cake to DD's other preferred breakfast choice - stinky cheese and garlic sausage - especially come reading time .

stealthsquiggle · 07/08/2013 23:29

Having said that I would have been miffed that DH hadn't tackled the nappy first.

ShadowMeltingInTheSun · 08/08/2013 00:31

Is Battenburg really pretty much the same nutrionally as cereals aimed at children? Battenburg is coated in marzipan, after all.

I've not done a detailed survey or anything, but my gut feel is that if all cake types were listed from most to least healthy, Battenburg would definitely fall towards the extra-sugary unhealthy end of the cake spectrum.

Only cereal we keep in the house is porridge oats anyway. No added sugar in that, unless we choose to put it there ourselves.

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