Giving DS cake for breakfast

[ShadowMeltingInTheSun]

DS woke up early this morning, so DH went downstairs with DS while I got washed.

When I got downstairs, I found that instead of say, changing DS's nappy or giving DS his milk or a normal breakfast, DH has given DS Battenburg cake for breakfast. I'm not sure how much DS ate, but there's half a Battenburg missing now.

Apparently this is okay because DS loves cake (he does love cake), and DH wanted to make DS happy.

Am I really being unreasonable to think that toddlers shouldn't be given cake for breakfast, regardless of how much they like eating cake?

[NoComet]

Also I have to confess, to giving DD2 coke for breakfast when she'd stayed up reading long after I thought she was a sleep and I'd promised to take DSIS swimming that morning.

[NeoMaxiZoomDweebie]

Nothing wrong with a good wholesome cake but Battenburg is NOT that. Those things are terrible...full of preservatives and colourings.

[sameoldIggi]

It is annoying and is part of the whole "do it yourself if you want it done right" sexism involved in parenting that I hate.

[Tee2072]

Yes, Pearly because OP parents all by herself.

I would let it go. Although we do have a rule in this house that you have to eat something 'proper' before you have a sweet at breakfast lunch or dinner.

[HollyBerryBush]

Does cake acquire poisonous properties before 3pm or something? will the child explode? OMG ! Oh no! all those Danish pastries at board meeting I've quaffed over the years. The bastards were trying to kill me off.

[ChunkyChicken]

I don't get MN.

Fruit shoots are the work of the devil but someone annoyed about their not yet 2yo getting a sickly, overly sweet cake with zero nutritional content for breakfast because his Dad didn't want to be the bad guy/sensible parent is ridiculous, needs to get a grip, its only once... oh and is lazy!!!

Why shouldn't the father deal with his son in the morning?!!! And properly??!

OP - I'd be cross with my DH in these circs. Essentially he has undermined you and your routine, being lazy & wanting to be 'nice'. Why do you have to be the sensible parent?

Think this thread is the last straw.

[Howstricks]

I suppose that pain au chocolat, muffins, frosties, toast and jam, pancakes and syrup are all sugar filled breakfast choices. Maybe a balance..battenburg and apple slices? .

[MadBusLady]

YANBU, your DH was an idiot. Ask him to have a little think about your DS's prospective teenage years, car keys and whiskey.

[nokidshere]

cake is part of breakfast menu in many parts of the world. As an occasional treat its not the end of the world.

When my two well fed toddlers were old enough to come down alone (4 & 5 ish) they would have had brekkie by the time I was up - usually a pack of custard creams :) it hasn't stopped them growing into huge strapping teenagers who eat pretty well most of the time and have never needed any dental work done :)

[Peachyjustpeachy]

make home made banana bread... present it as cake

One of your 5 a day!!!!!!

[diddl]

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(Breakfast cake!)

I think as others have said, OK as a one off.

And possibly depends on husband's reasoning.

I'm sure I'd be annoyed & thinking FFS-is toast/cereal & milk so hard to organise!

[MadBusLady]

And for those asking, yes, Danish pastries, brioche, croissants and sugary cereal are all shit breakfasts too. Whenever I think I'm going to have something like that as a "treat" I am always starving and regretting it by 10.30.

[Peachyjustpeachy]

to be fair though... when DD was 18 months old her dad let her do something, because 'he didnt want to upset her'

I said..... think about when she is 14 about to go out of the door in a skirt that shows her knickers..are you going to let her go out like that because you dont want to upset her by saying she cant?

.. you are not upsetting her you are being a good parent

[PrettyKitty1986]

If it's just a one off then what's the issue?

In the past mine have had biscuits for breakfast. As a one off. So what?

[ChunkyChicken]

It's not the cake - its the lazy parenting on the part of his Dad!! If he didn't just want an easy life, & give in to demands, or not have the hassle of making a bowl of cereal, then there's nothing wrong with cake on occassion. My breakfast is often 'breakfast' biscuits & a yogurt, but usually because I'm in a rush. The OP didn't say anything about her DH needing to hurry up & get DS somewhere - in fact, he's up 'early'. The implication that OP has to be the responsible, sensible one and not give in to her DS's childish (and expected) demands, whilst her DH gets to make him "happy".

[notanyanymore]

i think it appears annoying and lazy because he hasn't attended to what needs to be done first, he could have at least changed his nappy too!

[SuperiorCat]

What smartiepants said

[Sirzy]

howsticks has a good point - it is probably no worse than a lot of breakfast options which are sold for breakfast.

I think if it was every day it would be a problem but not as a one off.

[MadBusLady]

I'm also guessing your DH isn't going to be around for the almighty flatlining glucose tantrum that will hit in about two and a half hours. Half a Battenburg would knock an adult out.

[hugoagogo]

I have a slice of lemon tart in the fridge, pondering having it for breakfast now.

[MadBusLady]

I still have wedding cake left over from DBro's wedding.

I WILL REGRET IT.

[Emilythornesbff]

Hmmm.
Sweet that he wanted to make him happy.
I think cake is ok for breakfast tbh. Not every day but not that bad. Probably not much worse than toast or cereal in some ways.
But he should have changed his nappy.
Tbh I would encourage it occasionally of it means OH gets up first.
Did he make you a cup of tea?

[AllSWornOut]

Pearly, you've just given me a good laugh! Or were you being serious?

I had hobnobs for breakfast but my EDD is on Thursday so I think I'm allowed although now I want Battenburg cake too

[curlew]

I do so hate the "mother as senior parent" thing that goes on.

Cake for breakfast? No big deal. Child seeing father being treated like an extra child who has to defer to to mother in all thing- big deal.

[Emilythornesbff]

Op. you are definitely not lazy.
You should have stayed in bed longer and polished off the cake when you got up.