to ask why is it frowned upon to remember things some posters' say

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without actually doing a search, why is it not ok to perhaps ask a poster who previously posted for example "I have twin boys both starting school son" who then asks for advice on how to adopt for example as they don't have children .... "hang on a second, I thought you said last week you have twin boys". why is this frowned upon? people are accused of doing advanced searches when some people actually have a good memory or remember a thread as it resounded more for them than others ... and are asked "eh, what has that to do with this thread". am genuinely asking. wouldn't be for someone following a poster around and tearing shite out of everything they post ... but why cant a poster's posting history be questioned if there are obvious inconsistencies?!

WhiteandGreen, it wasn't a teacher! That was a job I took out of thin air as an example.

It really doesn't matter. I wish I hadn't said a word, now!

wicked - but it often isn't you who is emotionally invested. That's the point.

Do you honestly not get that?

Has the thread about the dress (which started this thread, I think) been deleted?

I suppose i always start on discussions with the stance that everyone will be telling the truth - otherwise i don't see the point in discussing things with people if you think they may be fibbing. But i rarely post on emotional threads as i prefer theoretical type OPs, so i can see how if you invest in those it would upset you. What is irritating on the 'theoretical' threads is when someone posts a point and people say well i don't do that, and the other posters which do say you're talking bollocks because they can't comprehend anyone being different. (that happens with the porn discussions - the moment someone says 'my dp doesn't watch porn' posters accuse them of being a deluded sap - like they have more insight into the posters relationship than them.) If you aren't going to believe anyone who disagrees with you then you shouldn't engage in a discussion. I often imagine how that would go in a house of commons debate...'My constituents have complained that x is happening' 'no it isn't, they are talking shit, next subject'

Erm ... sorry to be boring and repeat for the third time ... but what if it's not 'you' but someone else?

That is, you see, what people have been discussing all this time.

I don't quite get why you're harking back to a subject that's been dismissed yonks ago, but I respect that ... so, now you've done that ... do you have some thoughts for what everyone else is talking about, and has already explained? Or not?

It is pretty pointless though TSC.

They only hear what they want to hear, which is the 'You Go Girl' crap.

If they don't get that they start another thread, usually with a name change and rewrite the script in their head and on the page so that they can get the needed response.

There just isn't anything to be done about it, so I mostly stay away from them now, got pretty involved/burned by TLES. Is just too depressing.

People can't be expected to just forget about previous threads, even with a name change it is usually pretty obvious who someone is from their writing style/the story they are spinning.

This has just happened on another thread where I am being lighthearted and someone has come on to point out that the op's dh has been having an affair so there are bigger issues than his moaning about the state of the house. Time to back out.

The only other forum I posted on consistently was Digital Spy and in General Discussion and Advice there were loads of troll threads which can stretch to pages and pages of boring "you're a troll"/no I'm not" inane posts. I think it's probably better here that the mods deal with it. It's horrible when someone follows you about from thread to thread giving you pelters. DS were very lax at banning people for that and some really nasty people got away with some disgusting posts. It's much better policed here as far as I can see.

I laughed at Morloths 80% bullshit I agree by the way. Sometimes I come on here and think that the vast majority of things are bloody made up. Especially in relationships.

You do end up feeling concerned for people, you see people who end up posting in a weird way and you do wonder. But I have been over involved in the past to find out it is all a load of old bollocks so now am more wary.

What is more concerning is when you pretty much know that a thread is started by a bullshitter and yet you see other people getting very involved.