to ask why is it frowned upon to remember things some posters' say

[fluckered]

without actually doing a search, why is it not ok to perhaps ask a poster who previously posted for example "I have twin boys both starting school son" who then asks for advice on how to adopt for example as they don't have children .... "hang on a second, I thought you said last week you have twin boys". why is this frowned upon? people are accused of doing advanced searches when some people actually have a good memory or remember a thread as it resounded more for them than others ... and are asked "eh, what has that to do with this thread". am genuinely asking. wouldn't be for someone following a poster around and tearing shite out of everything they post ... but why cant a poster's posting history be questioned if there are obvious inconsistencies?!

The lie was intended to big herself up, rather than to hide facts.

Morris

It gets on my tits immensely when people pile in on some poor sod who responds to an op not knowing a back story.

It's just another excuse to justify bullying.

Fine to say, your suggestions good, but the ops situation is a thus, so you come across as harsh given this. But using it as an excuse for a matey pile sucks.

I gave away a bar of lush swiss chocolate with nuts in the other day.

I must be mad.

I think it is really sad that people feel the need to make stuff up.

imperialblether You put chocolate in the fridge; therefore though we can be polite, we can never truly be friends

Oblomov no you're not the only one. I think we've all been caught out by trolls at one time or another. I know in the overall scheme of things it doesn't matter, but it feels vile and like you've been swindled. In some ways it has jaundiced my opinion of posters on here and I've become mega-suspicious. I did something pretty unforgivable and basically accused someone of making something up and they were in a vulnerable position. I was totally and utterly out of order and I was the one solely at fault, but in some ways the by-product of having been 'stung' in the past.

Morris Zapp is your user name a reference to the character in the David Lodge novels?

ImperialBlether Wanna Twix :(

limitedperiodonly But Twixes are sooooo nice out of the fridge! The chocolate and caramel peels off much more easily* and you're left with the scrummy shortbread base.

*Except when they sometimes snap because they're TOO cold and brittle. Humph to those Twixes.

Limited: Yes, but I take it out half an hour before eating it! My kitchen is too hot to just leave it out and that way I would keep looking at it.

Chocolate - fridge - definitely.

I used to put marathon bars in the freezer. nom nom.

ComposHat yes my name is from the David Lodge character :)

I have reported stuff in the past, often at the same time as others from the replies. I try very hard not to jump in with the visible online troll hunting, because if the OP is telling the truth, then the troll hunting is going to hurt them/scare them away.

littlemiss DP gets migraines from chocolate (same as his mum, sis, nephew, niece) but he is able to eat white chocolate okay. I think because white choc doesn't actually have the migraine inducing bit that is present in milk/dark choc. Would that work for you?

But you don't always need to search a history to remember certain things about posters. I'm not on here too often but I know GetOrf changes her sheets daily, I know about MrsDv's daughter & about her problems with the gymbalow in her garden & I know that HoneyDragon immaced her baby. I'm sure there's loads more & my memory's not the best.

at immacing the baby. I didn't know that!

Oh, if you want a laugh at Honeydragons parenting skills I've a doozy of a thread in chat at present

Ha! If I remember correctly, the baby didn't just get immaced, but got covered in blue ink just before a parents evening for an older child/ren.

See, this is the sort of thing I was mentioning earlier. I do have a very good memory for things I read/see, and I did look at the pic of the blue baby and what made me remember is the fire in the background was identical to one we had at the time. Little things like that.

I normally just avoid posting about the stuff I remember unless it is really, really relevant ( as a blue baby really isn't )

Maryz cheers, I hadn't realised that the Zeebrugge poster had multiple hairy handed threads all over the shop.

Morris I finished 'Small world' the other week and am trying to find the first Rummidge novel 'Changing places?'

There are certainly things that are MN "legends" for lack of a better word. Most of them can be found in classics.

But it is one thing to go "ha! Honey immaced the baby!" Quite another to go "but you said XYZ last time so which time are you lying?!?!"

My lovely old GPlan fireplace got condemned this year Fry, . I now have a big hole in the wall.

My favourite comment on that photo was the poster who went

I have exactly the same Peppa Pig shite all over my floor

Solidarity amongst slatterns

though I suspect the line is in different places for different people

I think this is it. I have seen the OP complain about, for example, her DH not 'noticing the mess' and being all "oh men, what are we to do about them" & someone may come on & say "OP, I know you're laughing about it now, but you've posted about him withholding money, threatening the DC and not pulling his weight around the house. I think you should admit this is a bigger issue" - sometimes the OP will appreciate this eye opener but other times she can get very defensive and turn on whoever is mentioning it.

In turn, someone who gets turned on gets defensive themselves & then the whole thing just descends into nastiness.

Well I am we'll impressed, a forum where the moderators actually give clear guidelines and manage not to wade in throwing their "power" in your face. This is a first for me. ( I am not been smart or sarcastic btw.)