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to expect my sister to put herself out for ONE night?

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HDEE · 28/07/2013 19:09

Typing on phone so excuse any errors

I am so angry with my sister. I am currently in a hospital 1.5 hours from home. I have been here for three weeks now as my waters broke early at 21/22 weeks and this was the nearest hospital with a suitable NICU cot.

Baby was born on Friday. He is incredibly sick. His first two nights I was called to NICU in the night as they didn't expect him to survive. Last night he suffered major bleeds to both sides of his brain. We have been told he is critical and any worsening of the bleed (very likely) will mean discussing withdrawing intensive care.

I asked my sister if she could please stay overnight at my house (she has been there through the day looking after my three year old twins and six year old) but decided shed rather go home.

This means that should I need to get my husband here, the plan now is that I phone him, he gets our children out of bed and ready to go, loads them into the car, regardless of time, then drives the 50 minutes to her house, unloads them where they have nowhere to sleep, then drives the hour journey to me.

This is fucking ridiculous. Apparently she was saying 'but I have no clean clothes to wear'. Well boo fucking hoo. I'm waiting for my two day old baby to take a turn for the worse and die at any time, and she doesn't want to be a little uncomfortable?

I am never, ever speaking to her again. Especially if my husband can't get here and I have to do all this alone.

FTR she doesn't drive. My dad lives 5 minutes from her so this morning when I needed my husband here it took him 2.5 hours from my phone call to arrival by the time they got to him, and he got here.

I suspect a large part of it is that her partner is making a fuss being left with their three children. But he doesn't work, and I need her help more :(

OP posts:
Manchesterhistorygirl · 30/07/2013 23:16

Thinking of you and all of your family and sending my special love to baby George. Xx

LeGavrOrf · 30/07/2013 23:24

Thinking of you and your family and little baby George.

I hope a miracle happens for you all. Dear god you are so brave.

josiejay · 30/07/2013 23:30

Thinking of you and hoping for you xx

RubyrooUK · 31/07/2013 08:24

Thinking of you and baby George. X

TangfasticMrFoxalastic · 31/07/2013 08:54

Thinking of you and your brave little fighter x

Hippymama · 31/07/2013 09:33

George sounds like a little fighter. Thinking of you and your family and hoping for your miracle xxx

Coconutty · 31/07/2013 09:36

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FannyMcNally · 31/07/2013 09:41

Thinking of you all this morning x

Caboodle · 31/07/2013 19:44

Sending all my love to you and baby George today x

IrisWildthyme · 31/07/2013 21:12

Wishing you and George all the strength you need to get through whatever lies ahead.

Babygirlpw · 31/07/2013 21:19

Thinking of you all and sending positive thoughts and strength. Baby George sounds amazing.x

lunar1 · 31/07/2013 21:46

Thinking of you

kiwimumof2boys · 01/08/2013 01:34

Thinking of you, you family and wee George today. XX

notanyanymore · 01/08/2013 01:49

HDEE I'm not usually one for prayer but have been praying every night for George, you and the rest of your family.

TravellingLemon · 01/08/2013 05:56

Thinking of you and your family. Lots of love to little George.

peachactiviaminge · 01/08/2013 06:57

Still thinking of you all and praying that little George stays strong. Love hope and strength to you all. xx

Caboodle · 01/08/2013 08:01

Hoping today brings the best news for you and baby George. Sending lots of love x

bumbleymummy · 01/08/2013 08:05

Thinking of you and baby George. X

Isabeller · 01/08/2013 08:13

Thinking of you & yours xx

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 01/08/2013 09:53

In my thoughts x

10storeylovesong · 01/08/2013 09:57

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Tiredmumno1 · 02/08/2013 02:17

Just letting you know, I'm still thinking of all of you x

bragmatic · 02/08/2013 02:30

I'm so sorry. I wish the best for your little one.

LostLion · 02/08/2013 02:39

your such a strong lady OP....wishing you and your beautiful boy all the best

IneedAyoniNickname · 02/08/2013 03:03

Another person adding congratulations, love, hugs, prayers and good wishes.

Am near the rbh if you need any real life support Flowers