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to expect my sister to put herself out for ONE night?

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HDEE · 28/07/2013 19:09

Typing on phone so excuse any errors

I am so angry with my sister. I am currently in a hospital 1.5 hours from home. I have been here for three weeks now as my waters broke early at 21/22 weeks and this was the nearest hospital with a suitable NICU cot.

Baby was born on Friday. He is incredibly sick. His first two nights I was called to NICU in the night as they didn't expect him to survive. Last night he suffered major bleeds to both sides of his brain. We have been told he is critical and any worsening of the bleed (very likely) will mean discussing withdrawing intensive care.

I asked my sister if she could please stay overnight at my house (she has been there through the day looking after my three year old twins and six year old) but decided shed rather go home.

This means that should I need to get my husband here, the plan now is that I phone him, he gets our children out of bed and ready to go, loads them into the car, regardless of time, then drives the 50 minutes to her house, unloads them where they have nowhere to sleep, then drives the hour journey to me.

This is fucking ridiculous. Apparently she was saying 'but I have no clean clothes to wear'. Well boo fucking hoo. I'm waiting for my two day old baby to take a turn for the worse and die at any time, and she doesn't want to be a little uncomfortable?

I am never, ever speaking to her again. Especially if my husband can't get here and I have to do all this alone.

FTR she doesn't drive. My dad lives 5 minutes from her so this morning when I needed my husband here it took him 2.5 hours from my phone call to arrival by the time they got to him, and he got here.

I suspect a large part of it is that her partner is making a fuss being left with their three children. But he doesn't work, and I need her help more :(

OP posts:
peachactiviaminge · 30/07/2013 10:00

HDEE I hope this message finds you all well I expect little George is indeed beautiful. Never give up hope you're in my thoughts and my prayers. xx

elinorbellowed · 30/07/2013 10:01

Thinking of you and beautiful George. xx

thebody · 30/07/2013 10:06

thoughts with you all xxxxxx

fryingpantoface · 30/07/2013 10:19

My thoughts are with you x

hurricanewyn · 30/07/2013 10:23

HDEE - congratulations on the birth of your beautiful baby George.

My thoughts are with all of you & I'm praying for a positive outcome for George.

cottoncandy · 30/07/2013 10:24

Congratulations on the birth of your son!
Thinking of you all, especially little baby George.

DreamingOfTheMaldives · 30/07/2013 10:27

George sounds adorable. Sending love and hope to him and to all of you x

OrangeJuiceSandwich · 30/07/2013 10:30

Ds2 is 13 days old and reading your update, HDEE, has just made me cry and hold him so tight.

I really will pray that little George will pull through, I cannot imagine what you are going through. I know exactly what you mean about wanting him to be real to people. DH's Grandmother is very poorly and I'm desperate for her to meet DS2 as I want him to have existed in her world, if only for a short time.

Everything is crossed for your boy.

Coconutty · 30/07/2013 10:41

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peachypips · 30/07/2013 11:55

Love to all of you. In Devon if any use xx

trincomalee · 30/07/2013 12:01

Best wishes to you and your family, HDEE, especially baby George. xx Flowers

TalkativeJim · 30/07/2013 12:08

He sounds amazing, OP. Sending you very best wishes and vibes for George to pull through. Please let us know how he does, I will be thinking of you all x

Belchica · 30/07/2013 12:16

OP, thinking of you and your gorgeous little George x

Rollermum · 30/07/2013 12:18

Thinking of you and your family today and all the very best wishes to baby George x

Tiredmumno1 · 30/07/2013 12:22

Been thinking of you all, sending strength and praying for your beautiful little boy George xxx

starfishmummy · 30/07/2013 12:36

HDEE thinking of you all.

I am another Mum with a child who was expected to die, but these children do find the strength to overcome the most dreadful things. (mine is now 15)

muminthecity · 30/07/2013 12:40

I'm thinking of you too HDEE, and of course your wonderful little George. Sending you both love and strength Thanks

dubstarr73 · 30/07/2013 12:55

Oh HDEE what a beautiful post sending hugs and kisses to little George who sounds amazing.Hope and pray things do turn around for you.

Charleymouse · 30/07/2013 12:57

Congratulations on the birth of baby George. Hoping and praying for you all. Much love
CM
xxx

rubberrings · 30/07/2013 13:29

Thinking of you all and in particular George,what a lovely boy he sounds!
Whatever happens he knows he is loved,cared for and safe with his family.
And you know that there are a multitude of people willing him on and sending him and your family positive thoughts
Xxx

hellsbellsmelons · 30/07/2013 13:59

Thank you so much for updating us.
Although you made me cry at work.
I have no words as I simply cannot begin to understand what you are going through.
But sending love and hugs and lots of prayers to you, George and your lovely family.

Sparklyboots · 30/07/2013 14:07

Good luck to your beautiful boy HDEE. XXX

HHH3 · 30/07/2013 14:17

Thinking of you all Thanks

haggisandneeps · 30/07/2013 14:36

Congratulations on the birth of baby George. Thinking of you all xx

DuchessFanny · 30/07/2013 15:16

Oh your latest post made me cry and smile ! Love his name, love that he's a little fighter and so pleased you have some more support !
If you're up to it please continue to keep us posted, I think there's many of us here who have taken your baby boy to heart !