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to expect my sister to put herself out for ONE night?

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HDEE · 28/07/2013 19:09

Typing on phone so excuse any errors

I am so angry with my sister. I am currently in a hospital 1.5 hours from home. I have been here for three weeks now as my waters broke early at 21/22 weeks and this was the nearest hospital with a suitable NICU cot.

Baby was born on Friday. He is incredibly sick. His first two nights I was called to NICU in the night as they didn't expect him to survive. Last night he suffered major bleeds to both sides of his brain. We have been told he is critical and any worsening of the bleed (very likely) will mean discussing withdrawing intensive care.

I asked my sister if she could please stay overnight at my house (she has been there through the day looking after my three year old twins and six year old) but decided shed rather go home.

This means that should I need to get my husband here, the plan now is that I phone him, he gets our children out of bed and ready to go, loads them into the car, regardless of time, then drives the 50 minutes to her house, unloads them where they have nowhere to sleep, then drives the hour journey to me.

This is fucking ridiculous. Apparently she was saying 'but I have no clean clothes to wear'. Well boo fucking hoo. I'm waiting for my two day old baby to take a turn for the worse and die at any time, and she doesn't want to be a little uncomfortable?

I am never, ever speaking to her again. Especially if my husband can't get here and I have to do all this alone.

FTR she doesn't drive. My dad lives 5 minutes from her so this morning when I needed my husband here it took him 2.5 hours from my phone call to arrival by the time they got to him, and he got here.

I suspect a large part of it is that her partner is making a fuss being left with their three children. But he doesn't work, and I need her help more :(

OP posts:
Chiggers · 30/07/2013 15:18

Hi HDEE. It sounds like your wee man is a fighter Smile, but he's in good hands and there's nothing much you can do except be at his side and talk to him. There's a lot to be said about the encouragement preemie babies get from their mothers voice. Keep talking to him, he needs to hear that you're there with him Smile. You also need to look after yourself too. Your son is in good hands and they can alert you if his condition takes a dive.

Fedupnagging · 30/07/2013 15:33

Sorry you and your family are going through this HDEE.

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themaltesefalcon · 30/07/2013 15:34

Praying for beautiful little George and for strength for you and your family to face whatever comes. XXX

themaltesefalcon · 30/07/2013 15:36

Praying for beautiful little George and for strength for you and your family to face whatever comes. XXX

Pozzled · 30/07/2013 15:55

Thinking of you, your DH and family, and of course little George. He sounds like an amazing little fighter. You must be very proud of him.

SirBoobAlot · 30/07/2013 19:20

Thinking of you all. xx

enormouse · 30/07/2013 19:45

All my love to you and your family and little George x

WeAreSix · 30/07/2013 19:48

Willing baby George to keep fighting and sending love to all his family.

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deleted203 · 30/07/2013 20:47

Thinking of you and your family. Much, much love to baby George.

chinam · 30/07/2013 20:57

Praying four your sweet little boy xx

Moxiegirl · 30/07/2013 21:01

Thinking of your family and your lovely little George x

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 30/07/2013 21:06

xxx

mittensthekitten · 30/07/2013 21:06

Thinking of you and your sweet baby boy. xxxx

clippityclop · 30/07/2013 21:12

Thoughts and prayers with you here tonight too.x

MrsMcGregor · 30/07/2013 21:15

Thinking of you and your precious little boy.

waltermittymissus · 30/07/2013 21:29

Thinking of Baby George xxxx

JumpingJetFlash · 30/07/2013 21:36

Didn't want to read and run - thinking of your gorgeous George and you all x

Lackedpunchesforever · 30/07/2013 21:44

Congratulations on the birth of little George. He sounds amazing Smile

scratchandsniff · 30/07/2013 21:46

Have just read your thread - thinking of you, your family and of course of little George. X

AudrinaAdare · 30/07/2013 21:49

Congratulations to you and welcome to baby George! All our love, thoughts and prayers are with you x

dawnpreview · 30/07/2013 21:53

Thinking of you and your family, and sending positive thoughts to baby George x

BreeWannabe · 30/07/2013 21:57

Thinking of and praying for you and your family xxx

ReindeerBollocks · 30/07/2013 22:00

Congratulations on the birth of George. May he continue to fight.

Hope your older DC enjoyed meeting their baby brother.

Sending lots of positive thoughts for you all x

McNewPants2013 · 30/07/2013 22:03

Thinking of you.

TheFogsGettingThicker · 30/07/2013 23:08

Thinking of you and your family.

Keep strong x