To spend £151 without consulting DH?

[D0oinMeCleanin]

Because the twat is ignoring me, as he normally does when I need something that costs more than my weekly wages and needs to come from our savings.

My glasses have broken. We are entitled to an NHS voucher towards the cost of this, but I often end up having to pay anyway. Last time (2 years ago) I had to pay £80, this included costs towards the frames I chose and thinning the lenses. My voucher covered the other £100 and something pounds.

I am off to Tesco now to inquire about a new voucher and price up how much my glasses would be with my voucher, in the meantime I've found a website that offers free lenses with designer frames and a free pair of glasses with each pair of frames you buy, so I could get one pair of regular glasses and one pair of sunglasses and still have my whole voucher for future use if I needed it.

Obviously if Tesco is dramatically cheaper using my voucher, I will do that, if it's barely cheaper or no cheaper at all, WIBU to order the ones online using our credit card (the one which the bill is paid in full each month from the savings account, if it's been used)?

I will not see DH now until the 1st of August and he refuses to discuss these things with me simply choosing to not answer his phone in the hope that I go away and forgot about what I wanted.

Our savings more than cover the cost of the frames. I cannot wait until the 1st because then they will not be ready for our holiday and I am not going on holiday in glasses held together by cellotape. Even ordering them today would be cutting it fine for delivery so it needs to be done now.

AIBU? We normally discuss bug purchases but I have to wait until I catch him at home. I'd still need to use the credit card to pay towards the cost of the Tesco ones if it came to more then £50 which is likely.

[Gruntfuttock]

No WilsonFrickett she has told them she can get them completely free.

[Gruntfuttock]

Sorry for the typo ^^. I meant, I realise she can't just pay £1 for them, but she has said that she can get them free.

[D0oinMeCleanin]

Yes, Grunt, but only if I wanted lenses half an inch thick.

I feel crap enough about the way I look as it is, without adding Deidre Barlow style specs to the mix.

I hate wearing glasses, I wore contacts daily once upon a time, but then I got an eye ulcer and I'm not allowed to wear them daily anymore, although the optician is now happy that my eye is healed and for me to start wearing the more often, providing I get more frequent checks and still have days off to rest my eyes.

I swim a lot, particularly on holidays and you can't wear dailies in water, you could end up with an infection that could lead to blindness, so during days on holiday and days at home when I swim, I would have to wear my glasses. I also suffer allergies, which can make contacts really uncomfortable when they're playing up.

Despite how much I hate them I need to wear glasses often. I at least want a pair I believe are nice and do not make me look worse than I already believe I do.

Unless I want to wander about tripping over things that are right in front of. Without glasses I can only see about 3 inches in front of my nose.

[chipmonkey]

Yes, she can get them free but if she has a high prescription they will look like shit. And his nibs has gone and spent £££££ on fecking football, and thinks it's OK for her to have crap glasses. Not On!

[chipmonkey]

You know what, Dooin? You are doing everything properly. You don't wear your lenses swimming, you take proper breaks from your lenses. I get so many people in with me who don't follow the guideline and risk the health of their eyes and risk their vision. If you have had an ulcer, you can't posssilbly wear contact lenses full time, you need glasses and you need decent glasses.

[D0oinMeCleanin]

Well, the ulcer was really bad, the worst the optician had ever seen and one of the worst the specialist had ever seen.

I was very, very lucky that it healed properly with only eye drops, they were talking of operations at one point and it's not something I want to risk happening again.

The optician told me it has healed better than he ever believed it would, although there is still a scar it very unusual for them not to leave scars and the scar actually helps me, it slightly corrected my astigmatism.

[ravenAK]

Bloody hell, get the geps, tell dh to stop being a total arse.

I get my glasses from some cheapo online place, about £25 for two pairs. Dh nags me occasionally to get nicer/posher ones, because he likes to have nice glasses himself & it makes him feel mildly guilty that mine are a bit crap.

To which I point out that mine are perfectly serviceable & not that hideous, I don't have to worry about losing or sitting on them, & anyway I wear contacts 5 days a week & would rather spend the money on something more fun.

That is a normal argument for a married couple to be having about glasses.

If, hypothetically, I were telling dh to wear cheap glasses too, that would not be reasonable, because I would be being a controlling miserable arse about something that is not up to me - if he wants to buy himself good quality glasses, he shall jolly well have them with my blessing.

& that's without the factor that your prescription means that you genuinely need decent glasses for lens thinning etc!

Your h is being controlling & it's totally unacceptable.

[CSIJanner]

Get yourself a nice pair of prescription swimming goggles from some savers for £24. Gives your eyes a rest from the contacts, also means that your expensive glasses don't lose their anti-scratch and anti-glare coats from the water (my glasses have lasted 4years) plus means you can see underwater.

And get your own credit card for emergencies. Keeps all the credit cards in his wallet so their all in one place? Pfft! DH looked incredulous when I read him that bit - can they not issue you with a card as a second signatory?

[AudrinaAdare]

D0oinMeCleanin, bloody hell, please look after yourself!

As for DH and his football and holiday savings well he can fuck off. I perfectly understand why you have as little contact with this man as possible and I would be dreading this time not depriving myself of something essential to fund it.

Good luck.

[Acantha]

YANBU. You need new glasses.

£151 isn't too bad. My lenses alone cost nearly that!

[SquinkiesRule]

Get your glasses, you need them to function normally in everyday life. They aren't a luxury. If he doesn't like it. sod him.

[D0oinMeCleanin]

I had no idea you could get prescription goggles that cheap, I always assumed they'd cost hundreds. I will definitely be getting myself some.

I've also just learned you can get waterproof mp3 players, so now I know what I am spending my holiday pay on when I return

[CSIJanner]

Mine are great. You need to order today to possibly get them for your hol's. You might even get them at tescos. I looked here but thought that I would balls it up so walked into specsavers.

Its a shame you had to get your glasses now as if you could have used your tesco vouchers and doubled the money if there was a tesco double exchange events.

[Dilidali]

Christ woman, go buy yourself glasses!!!
And open a separate account for your salary from next month onwards.
It really is ok to do so.

[attheendoftheday]

Glasses are a necessity, YANBU.

[Fakebook]

You can't see without glasses. It's not a luxury! It's a basic need. How the hell does he expect you to see without them or with an old dodgy pair? Spend the money.

[D0oinMeCleanin]

I've just been looking at that site CSIJanner. That's where I spotted my MP3 player.

He forgot to leave the savings card out and is too incoherent to argue with me over it (staff night out last night) he can't even manage to get the dog off him so he can turn over. He just keeps mumbling "Scup, gerror" our dog is not is not called Scup and has not been taught what gerror means. I should help him really, but I haven't.

I found the savings card anyway and will draw out an extra £30 for my goggles.

[equinox]

This is why I am grateful I am single and poor lol.

[BikeRunSki]

Get the glasses! You need to see and an adult with a job should not be humilliated by wearing glasses held together with sticky tape.

[RappyNash]

Why are you still with him?

[CSIJanner]

Yay for goggles!

Your poor dog must be and no, don't help him. The man should learn that pretending his mobile is lost is not the way to go about things

[diddl]

I know people post on here to vent.

But if my husband ever ignored my calls, or I felt the need to refer to him as a twat, I'd be seriously rethinking the relationship.

[MortifiedAdams]

You need new glasses and a divorce.

You get one life - there is no fucking way I would waste one more second of my precious life with someone who made me feel like you do. He is a dick and a control freak and is lording it over you.

Run.

[Snazzyenjoyingsummer]

OP, do you have access to the credit card and savings without having to ask him?

[ChazsBrilliantAttitude]

Don't give him the savings card back. Tell him you are keeping it safe.