to think he needs to grow up

[opilo]

Have namechanged because I might be excommunicated if my family found out I was posting about this

My brother has finished university this year and is currently looking for a job. He has had 4 interviews in the last couple of weeks and unfortunately he got all 4 rejections in the space of a hour this morning. Since this apparantly he has hidden in his room all day crying. My sister sat and held him for 2 hours whilst I was there tonight until he went to sleep. I said he needs to grow up and not be so thin skinned and that this might be holding him back as no employer wants someone so mentally weak. My sister went ballistic and told be to STFU and that I'm a heartless bitch who will destroy any self belief he has left.

AIBU to think that he needs to accept he is now 21 yo and take a major reality check accepting that in the current climate he is going to have accept rejection when it comes to jobs and not blub for hours on end to his 26yo sister.

[pumpkinsweetie]

Yabu, poor guy!!!
Bet you would cry too if it was you, men are allowed to cry too ya know

[LessMissAbs]

I think I know where you're coming from OP. A lot of us have been there - with job rejections, periods of unemployment, stuck in crap jobs, etc.. Crying all day is a bit of an over-reaction and quite attention seeking. Things like this can get you down but crying for a whole day is rather extreme. I'd be concerned that how your DB is going to react if he does get a job and has a bad day at work.

When I think back to my flatmates when we were in a similar situation after graduation - we were all living away from home, one of them from abroad, supporting ourselves with crappy part time jobs and you've just got to get on with it and use it as a learning experience. But from what my friends now in this situation and who are still students tell me, it is the men who need to toughen up and be more independent and not expect just to walk into a perfect job without experiencing a lot of ups and downs on the way.

[Alisvolatpropiis]

special

Having food,shelter and people who love you preclude you from feeling upset.

[Alisvolatpropiis]

*doesnt preclude...