To have mentioned this to nursery

[Weissbier]

Nursery have a work experience guy who came up to me at the summer party to say how sweet he thought DD was. In these words: "I wanted to find her parents today to inform them I'm taking her home with me!"

I mentioned it to the nursery manager - said I was sure it was nothing to worry about but both DH and I had felt uncomfortable, and could she confirm work exp. people were not left alone with the children? (My point being, such remarks reveal they are not professionals and they should only be working with the children according to their experience and training).

She confirmed they weren't alone with the children, so that was fine, but I also had to listen to a quarter of an hour about how I needed to think less because the guy was a nice person...which I'm sure he is...

Thanks arethereany...I feel awful now of course but that's deserved and but I feel like I learnt something important. And I do know it won't affect the young man because I was very careful to establish that at the beginning of my conversation with the nursery manager.

Kudos due for taking the comments on board Weisbeer.

Oh god, this was clearly a joke or turn of phrase!! The checkout lady at sainsburys today asked if DS was for sale - guess what, I didn't actually sell mychild to a stranger!! I took it as a compliment :-)

I was coming on to say YABU but I see you have already accepted that graciously which is laudable so I won't add to it

I will say though as a mother of a boy in nursery I wish there were more male nursery workers and I do think attitudes and reactions need to change in this area

I'm regularly told by young leaders at rainbows and brownies that they're going to keep this girl or that girl. Totally harmless expression of fondness for a lively child!

I do think anyone working with kids should be crb checked and if they haven't been should never be unsupervised. I'm a leader in training with brownies and while we can't be alone with one child ever, I can supervise a group of kids without another leader as I have been crb checked, had referenced checked, been first aid trained etc. generally we always do things in a group anyway so I might be with one group but the whole pack is in the area with other leaders present.

Jaysus, I've said before that a child is so cute I could eat them up. Are the police about to arrest me for threatening cannibalism?

YABVU and borderline hysterical tbh.

OP said her bit and everybody gave their opinion that the chap said nothing really inappropriate. Let's move on. Big hugs all round.

Similar topic: The nursery I've been doing supply in had 3 people on the early shift in one room, all male! And a male manager too.