To have mentioned this to nursery

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Nursery have a work experience guy who came up to me at the summer party to say how sweet he thought DD was. In these words: "I wanted to find her parents today to inform them I'm taking her home with me!"

I mentioned it to the nursery manager - said I was sure it was nothing to worry about but both DH and I had felt uncomfortable, and could she confirm work exp. people were not left alone with the children? (My point being, such remarks reveal they are not professionals and they should only be working with the children according to their experience and training).

She confirmed they weren't alone with the children, so that was fine, but I also had to listen to a quarter of an hour about how I needed to think less because the guy was a nice person...which I'm sure he is...

He was paying you and your daughter a huge compliment and you have in effect thrown it back in his face.

Oh dear, I told my mate that I wanted to "gobble her DD up on a butty"

I had better text her to let her know I am not really going to actually eat her DD!!

Oh YABU by the way.

The right way would have been for them to accept that you found it odd and apologise, they didn't need to lecture you for quarter of an hour.

However, i think you were being a bit over-the-top and wonder if you would have felt the same had it been a woman who said it?

Henrietta's story of meeting her husband would make a fab Jenifer Aniston rom com!

People at nursery used to say that about dd1. I never thought anything of it. They never said it about the horror that is dd2!

YABU and it is such a shame because if a female worker had come and said similar, you would perhaps be less suspicious? Not accusing, just suggesting?

We really need more males in nurserys and primary, especially for boys as role models. It is people like you that scare them away with accusations.

I think it was a joke, and you are overreacting, but I think the nursery could be in hot water.

Even parents going on trips with kids in schools are CRB checked, regular volunteers with children need a CRB. A CRB is necessary if he is going to be there longer term.

Yabu.

at our playgroup my dd did 'work experience' and wasn't crb checked....she was 17 and it was for her sixth form studies

You do not need a CRB for short term work experience, but by the sounds of it he has stayed on voluntarily after the work experience and therefore will need a CRB.

And again, i am going to repeat, the OP does not live in the UK so talk of CRBs and what happens here in the UK is irrelevant.

Even in the UK, staff can start work before their CRB has come through if they are supervised.

I also think you have over-reacted to a kind joke.

Seriously? In this nicest possible way - GET. A. GRIP

Oh and in answer to your questions YABU

I would love to work with kids, this is the reason why I won't. Even if only 1 in a 1000 are suspicious because I'm a man I simply won't expose myself to the risk of one day being the topic of an AIBU because I opened my mouth.

Ridiculous.

YABU

Very unreasonable.

I often tell people I'd like to run away with one of their children or have one in a sandwich! There's one little girl who goes to our toddler group, she is soooo cute. There is a look about her that reminds me of little girls when I was little - and I can't help but be drawn to watch her singing and playing. Fortunately her Mum doesn't think I'm a weirdo :) ... and frequently offers to strap her into the spare seat in my car

The lack of CRB check was more of a concern to me until I realised it wasn't in UK. Lots of countries have no such thing.

Ur weird.... Come on... Seriously.... Because his a man.... People like u, make me sick!

Got to jump on here and say the same thing as all the others... I've worked with children for years and that's common polite banter. I feel bad for him that you spoke to his boss about it!

Would you have reacted the same way if a female work experience person made the comment?
Clearly all men working with kids are potential paedophiles/murderers

It's a shame that this attitude is rife and will put many young men off working with young children . YWBU and I'm glad that you are going to apologise. One thing, work experience kids, in the UK are not CRB checked and would not be left alone with children. I have no idea of the practise in other countries.

Jedward- don't see where the comedy aspect would fit in? He spent years doing courses, including child protection, NVQ levels 2&3, paediatric first aid, all of which, put together cost over £1000, not to mention all the time spent studying and revising for exams, all for packing it in a few years later and having to retrain as something else, just because of a few narrow minded and sexist parents- such as the OP